Hi all! My 3 year old scolds me and does what I call sassy talk. For the life of me, I can't figure out how to respond appropriately.
I started saying, Be careful how you are speaking to me.
Ex. She doesn't want to get dressed. If I am on a time schedule, I'll tell her we have to do it now, what do you want to wear? She yells, NO, I DON'T HAVE TO... Me all serious, Yes we must go to our doctor appt. please cooperate. She runs away. Me, there is no choice right now, You need to GET DRESSED NOW (strong tone, not yelling). She says, BE CAREFUL HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME. I can't get dressed now because I have to check something (strong tone, her eye brows furled). Me, DO IT NOW or else I have to do it for you.
Or sometimes I'll say, no treats today. The next time you ask for a special treat, I will say no because you were not cooperating to get dressed. BAM! she gets dressed.
The thing is she'll out of the blue speak very strongly and tell me YOU MUST DO THIS NOW or you'll go to your room! For example, she wants and apple peeled, but I can't do it right that second, she'll scold me or start counting. It's funny cause she'll count to six and say, you need to do it NOW. Of course, I do the whole, How do you ask nicely, and I have never given her anything that she demanded until she asked nicely. She demands, I say how do you ask, she asks nicely and I give it to her. really does this serve any purpose?
I don't know how to stop this kind of speaking. She thinks she is the mom and can say anything. Today I told her to go and talk to her baby dolls like that, but she couldn't talk to me like that. ???? What good did that do? I don't know, but it got her away from me as she ran to tell her baby doll off.
FYI for the most part I am a non yelling, say yes when I can, give choices when possible, send to her room(no time limit-just go there, she comes out when she is ready), take away privileges, and occasionally bribe type. Occasionally, I have lost it. Sometime she'll even kick and thrash about to avoid getting pjs or getting dressed. This is when I feel like giving her a little pop on the tush, but I have vowed not to spank (I have broken that vow). She's too big to do that in my book, but I'm at a loss. Please help.