2 different occasions:
The first ds was goofing around and kicked my mom, she told him to stop, he was being rude/hitting/yelling, so she went put him in his room to cool down. (sometimes he just needs to chill for 5min and he will come out and be totally fine). As she tried to put him down in his room, he pinched her, so she smacked him on the butt
The second, my dad was trying to put ds's tie on, and ds kept pinching his leg hair (not trying to hurt or be mean), my dad asked him to stop. He did it again and my dad grabbed his hand and smacked it.
Both led to big arguments. I don't want them to hit my child under ANY circumstances. Hitting is not O.K.. Period.
I HAVE to live with them right now, I am working on my college degree and making it on my own (Im a single mom), but it will take time.
I've given examples of alternatives to smacking/tapping/hitting him, but this has happened twice in the past couple weeks. I don't know if its happened other times when I'm not around but it may have.
My parents think its ok b/c "it doesn't hurt him", and "its to get his attention", and "I'm not perfect".
Then they start talking about how I have "yelled at him" sometimes and yada yada. No I'm not claiming to be perfect, but I never ever hit him.
I've told them explicitly that its not o.k. to hit him. Even a 'light tap', it doesn't matter.
I am so mad right now and I don't know how to handle this.