It's been about 2 weeks now that we've been seeing this behavior. Thinking back to what could have made the change, daylight savings time or extended family were in town... but the behavior continues. AND I NEED HELP!
Our 3 year old son (recently turned 3) has been anxious when we leave the room...appears to have some fears of the dark or being alone in a room, but not all the time. So if I go to brush my teeth, he has to come along. It then started to expand into wanting to do things over. If I left and did something without him, then he realized that he wanted to come along, I had to do it over again...not just do it over again, but he wanted me to undue what had been done so he could do it with me. This is not always possible and even when it is, it is not something I want to get started doing. The first few times we did, but as it became a pattern, we try to explain that we can't always have do-overs even if it causes a tantrum.
Additionally, he seems to be very attached to Mommy at this point. Frustrating for me because it's difficult to do anything without him. I thought as he got older, I'd have more space, not less. He also seems to be nursing more than ever. Which I generally allow, but it is getting frustrating and we are trying to set more and more parameters - not while I'm eating, no more until bedtime, etc. But it is one of the few things that calms him in the midst of a tantrum.
I'm really not sure who to deal with the tantruming. Should there be consequences? Typically I hold him or stay in the room with him, but I really have no idea what to say. In my head I think he is being irrational, but I understand that 3 year olds aren't always rational. I attempt to explain that I understand that he is sad, but that mostly just upsets him more. He eventually does calm down, but this happens several times throughout the day and I'm just starting to feel like a bad parent. Does he need more structure, am I not spending enough time with him, is it just a stage and normal 3 year old behavior? How do I respond so that I'm not encouraging the behavior, but also supporting him emotionally?
Mama on a Roller Coaster!