DH and I have a VERY hard time naming babies. Now that we've found out the sexes of our babes coming (boy and girl!), I'm feeling a little unsure of our boy name choice. (the comments from friends and fam have started- we don't share IRL, but they still feel like tossing out ideas and critique??)
Background- for privacy reasons, I don't post my DCs names online, but I have one DS w/ a rare but not too out there name. I have one DD with an "out there" name. It is a nature name, I've seen MDC moms choose it before, but we usually get "wow, what i cool name, I've never heard of anyone named that" before. We do get some raised eyebrows, but it is just the perfect name for her.
Twin girl will be named Eden, either Eden Sophia, Eden Elise or Eden Sophia Elise.
We chose Eden bc when i was TTC and now pg, when I dream of the babies, I always dream of them in a beautiful garden.
Twin boy is the one we're wavering on. Debating two names and would like your input.
Here's my pro/con list for both:
p: I've loved Asher since i was pg w/ DS. It was almost DS's name, and it would have been DD's name if she were a boy
p: It is somewhat unique and has a nature feel w/ the lovely nn Ash.
p: the family will LOVE it. esp given they are not fond of out-there names. I know that shouldn't be the end-all, but they will love Eden, so I'd hate to have them think she got the "good" name, yk?
c: We are not religious and the pairing of Asher and Eden seem heavily religious to me.
c: Asher is really trendy where I live. I worry that one trendy name in a set of unique-and-out-there names will sound off.
c: i'm just not feeling Asher for this babe, if that means anything at all
p: Have loved Vale since I read Chris Bohjalian's novel Midwives, as a teenager. Debates about the book aside, it really was the book that opened my eyes to a whole world of women-centered care leading to natural parenting. (tho, the fictional baby's name is Veil). I never considered it useable until this pg, tho (I think, since giving DD an 'out there' name and seeing it go okay)
p: Seems like such a perfect nature pairing with Eden- esp since we live in a river valley, so it would be reminiscent of his birth-home
p: Unique and fits well with our sib group names
c: it is out there and I KNOW we'll get nasty remarks from family about it (after having that experience w/ DD). Freshly postpartum, those remarks really, really hurt. My fam will NEVER say them to the child, by I still remember every negative comment at me.
c: Does anyone LIKE the name besides me and DH? We haven't really asked for input and we haven't told IRL, so I honestly don't know. I'm fine with weird and out there, but I would prefer it to be one that people warm to.
thanks mamas for your help. I think, to sum it, I'm really feeling Vale, but I'm nervous to use it.
Edited by babygrey - 11/26/10 at 3:41pm