FAM is killing my sex life - Page 2

[WifeofAnt]

I am anti-condom too.  DH dislikes them but its painful for me.  I don't know why but it is.  Its what we're doing at the moment though.  I also can't use charting for TTA because I would literally have ZERO safe days.

I also feel uncomfortable with the risks associated with putting something like an IUD in my uterus.  Instead, I'm thinking of getting Implanon.  Its a little rod that goes in your arm and gives off progesterone (no estrogen!) for 3 years.  During their efficacy trials, none of the women ovulated in the first 2 years and very few in the 3rd year (none of which became pregnant).  In real life scenarios including poorly placed implants it still had a effectiveness rate better than that of sterilization.  I know the whole 'poorly placed' thing freaked me out a bit but there were a lot of them being put in by people who were not trained and were just guessing on how to insert it.

There are similar side effects to that of all hormonal birth control but it is rated as safe for breastfeeding mothers and their babies.  After the 3 years, they can insert a new one in the same spot the old one was if you would like to continue using Implanon.

[physics girl]

WifeofAnt, have you tried non-latex condoms? I didn't think I had a latex sensitivity, but sex became less painful when when we switched to polyisoprene condoms so that might be worth a try.

[WifeofAnt]

I could try those.  I don't remember ever having a problem with condoms before.  If things go according to plan though I'm not going to need any birth control for about 6-7 months until my husband comes back to this side of the Atlantic after next week.

[XanaduMama]

I casually use FAM, but honestly I find the whole thing a bit too complicated, and I don't really trust it, mostly bc my cycles are a bit whacky still. Dh and I have used withdrawal with 100% effectiveness for about 10 years now, and I'm a fan. It's really reliable if you do it right (we're a case in point, as both pregnancies happened on the first try--and both were planned). The guy has to have good control, obviously, and you both have to be committed to avoiding. The other crucial secret is that you should avoid DTD or use other protection if ejaculation has happened within the past 12 hours. I believe this is the biggest reason for the "failure" of withdrawal.

[OvaOva]

I hated condoms too.  Luckily after three cycles of being off the birth control pill my cervical fluid has returned more to normal so we have a lot more "safe" days.  But, just wanted to share a new type of condom with the group and see if anyone else has tried them.  Rather than being made of latex, these condoms are made from polyurethane.  They are thinner and better at transferring heat, so the hubby tells me he likes them better, but for me the best part is they don't have that terrible latex smell.  I hated that smell, and since it's gone with these condoms, I've realized that maybe condoms aren't so bad.  Anybody else have this experience?

Here's a link to some:

http://www.google.com/#q=polyurethane+condoms&hl=en&prmd=ivns&source=univ&tbm=shop&tbo=u&sa=X&ei=yfY_ToLdEuH9sQL7kvkC&sqi=2&ved=0CGIQrQQ&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.&fp=c15b6bc10f253e42&biw=1600&bih=1047

[Toolip]

I tried them and hated them much more than latex.... felt like a plastic bag to me!