Motherhood and libido - Page 3

[Knitting Mama]

Yeah, one of the big things that makes it hard for me to take advice when it comes to sex after baby is that they don't take AP into consideration. I'm not going to stop co-sleeping, I'm not leaving my daughter, who is exclusively breastfed and does not take a bottle, with someone for a date night. Just not going to happen!

[Shanesmom]

The only time in my life when I haven't wanted it, wa when I was pregnant. Oh man did I hate it then!!!! I was so sick and uncomfortable it actually turned me off.

Shane is 4 months now and I'm back to normal (thank God) but I would say wether you hate it or love it now, that both ends of that spectrum would be normal.

[cocoanib]

Originally Posted by Cecilia's Mama 

Yeah, one of the big things that makes it hard for me to take advice when it comes to sex after baby is that they don't take AP into consideration. I'm not going to stop co-sleeping, I'm not leaving my daughter, who is exclusively breastfed and does not take a bottle, with someone for a date night. Just not going to happen!

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Originally Posted by caedenmomma 

Guess what I just found on cnn.com?  An article about post-baby sex lives!  It is written by one of the co-authors of Love in the Time of Colic, the book I mentioned in an earlier post.  Hey, non-sexy-feeling-mommas, we are way not alone!  Here is the link:  http://pagingdrgupta.blogs.cnn.com/2010/12/02/sex-and-the-baby-years/?hpt=C2   Enjoy!

My only disagreements with the recommendations are that, at this point, hell would pretty much freeze over before I left my baby for a date night.  Just ain't gonna happen.  We are not using bottles, so the most I would be okay with being away from him would be an hour, and I have only ever left him with my husband (his father).  I do realize this is a luxury and many moms do not have a choice but to leave their children--I did the same thing with my first son.  But since I don't have to leave him, I'm not gonna (yet).  Also, we do co-sleep, which the author advises against.  Logistically, I agree with him, but I just can't quite agree for us about that.

Umm yeah, I'm not leaving my DD for a date night either. I work, so she is with DH during that time already. I'm not going to leave her with someone else so we can go alone together. Some day, but not now. She's 8 months old and when I'm not working, I prefer to be with her.

Also, DD is not getting kicked out of the bed, so DH and I can get it on. We can easily get it on in other areas of the house...if we wanted to.

[busymama77]

Originally Posted by Cecilia's Mama 

My daughter is nearly 8 months old, and I simply have zero desire. Like you said, it's more than being touched out (which I am), it's like literally that part of my brain has been removed and what libido I used to have is nonexistent now. I have no solution for you, but plenty of commiseration.

Yeah, I'm sort of there, too... Right now, I have none....and I have two kiddos. After the first one, it took a good four months for me to even consider doing anything again.  After the 2nd, it was about the same, maybe a little longer. I do know that once I started working out, losing the baby weight, getting back in to a size that I hadn't been in years, my confidence shot up, I felt better about myself and I think DH sensed that.  We DTD twice in one week at that point and it was amazing.  Since then, it's back to once or twice a month.  He travels, I'm taking care of the kids, when he's home, I'm at the gym, there's just always something going on.....