So we have been unscshooling for almost 6 months now, I was hesitant to try radical unschooling, but it has become more and more apparent that other forms of discipline are not in line with our values. It has been so hard though. I feel most of the time like I don't know what I'm doing, I'm finding myself acting like my mother as a default, and I don't know how to stop being like her. I also don't know how to trust myself and feel confident that what I am doing is the right thing, that ds will end up ok, and not a total brat.
I guess I want to know how to change myself. How do I deschool? How do I change the way I think about my son and our relationship so that our relationship can be healthy? He often says he doesn't want me around, when we were visiting family this weekend he asked me to go into a different room almost every time I tried to be near him, and this makes me so sad. It is even sadder because I sort of feel the same way, I am so tired of interacting with him in the way that we normally do. It seems like every suggestion/comment/conversation ends up in an argument, and I am NOT a nitpicking mother, I am extremely laid back. I think that he wants more freedom, but if I give it to him he acts terrible (screams a lot, is mean, throws tantrums etc.). Other times he seems to respond well (meaning he behaves very nicely) to a more restrictive parenting style. And yes, I go back and forth because I start to question myself. :(
I would like to hear others thoughts, especially unschooling parents, but any advice would be appreciated. Oh yeah, I'd also like to hear about other parent/children deschooling experiences...?