Mamas TTC with "more to love"... ;)

[musicoholic]

Okay, so I was trying to find a nice way of saying "overweight"....  

I'm sure there's more than just me...  and I thought we might be able to support each other - because Doctors usually don't.  At least, that's been my experience.  

I'm sick to death of the medical profession looking at the external, rather than actually looking at me properly - and seeing that my BP is great, my sugar levels are fantastic, I workout at least 5 days a week (usually 6) for an hour.  I'm not going to go back to a doctor unless I'm dying - or unless I keep having unsticky beans.  Why don't they get that I can be Fit and Healthy......

....  but still have enough rolls to open a bakery  

Anyone with me?

[Attached2Elijah]

Me!! I'm overweight but I'm extremely healthy... My doctor says I'm a complete enigma as I am overweight but every test she has ever done on me, it comes back perfect. She says I have the most perfect sugar levels she has ever seen in an overweight person... same with my cholesterol and blood pressure (except when pregnant my BP does tend to rise) Every single one of my hormone checks has been spot on as well.... so unfortunately, she won't give me anything to help with TTC, just tells me to lose weight. She is really great about everything EXCEPT that. I fear that's what every Dr would say if we went for more. I'm not huge but well over my normal BMI... but I always have been. Mainly because I come from a muscular family and I have quite a bit of muscle under my rolls, lol. I still actively play soccer and walk a few miles almost every day.

My first pregnancy was actually REALLY rough... my 2nd pregnancy was INCREDIBLY easy... I was much smaller with my first then my second so I don't buy the whole theory on pregnancies being rougher the bigger you are. I was TINY (for me) with my DS... with DD, I was the same size I am (give or take 5 pounds) ... I, too, wish Doctors would understand that you can be bigger then average and still be healthy!

[musicoholic]

Yay Jeri!!  I know what you mean...  my pregnancy with DS was brilliant - my BP stayed perfect until I was in labour, I passed my glucose tests with flying colours (yes, they did more than one because they didn't believe I passed the first one...  grr).  It was perfect!

Now, we've been back in Australia for a year and a half (spent 3 years in Thailand, where it's worse!), and I'm yet to find a doctor I'm comfortable with.  I've had to see a doctor once, for a throat infection just after we got back (um, didn't help we'd just come straight from 40C weather into 12C)....  The verdict?  Yup, "lose weight".  WTH??  It's a throat infection!!

Anyway, rant over.  I get my BP checked at the gym now so I don't have to see a medic, and I get my sugar checked at the pharmacy.  My resting HR sits around 70, which for some is a little high, but well in the range of "normal", and the instructors at the gym are amazed at my HR recovery time.  I hate when I can't get to the gym - I start feeling disgusting.

Meh.  Who needs doctors!  

Nice temp jump by the way!!!! Fingers crossed!!!!!!!

[TheSlingMama]

Hi there!  I'm new here but I've got more to love too, lol!  I see my doctor for the first time tomorrow (ugh, have to pay out of pocket!) to help us figure out how to begin our TTC journey.  We've not used any sort of protection at all since our daughter was born in July of 2009 and baby dance rather frequently.  I did breastfeed and didn't get Aunt Flo again until January 2010.  Then I didn't have another until May 2010.  Since then I've been fairly regular but appear to have a long cycle/irregular cycle.  I'm using the My Monthly Cycles website for assistance.  According to it I should ovulate on Wednesday so we've been baby dancing a bit over the weekend and will tomorrow and Wednesday for sure.  I had a high risk pregnancy with my daughter (bed rest at 20 weeks), was induced for medical reasons and (surprise! NOT) wound up in an emergency section due to fetal distress.  I've also had two miscarriages one in March of 2007 and one in March of 2008.  I'm really scared to start this journey because even though we weren't "trying" we weren't preventing either and I've had my heart broke so many times already this year thinking it had happened.  How do you brace yourself for the negatives?  I'll be 23 on the 16th so I'm hoping for a very AWESOME birthday present because that's right about the time I'll test for this cycle.  What should I ask my Ob tomorrow?  Lol, sorry for rambling - I'm excited/nervous/scared!

[Darlah]

Completely new here...and thrilled to find this source of support. We will start our TTC Journey To #2 as soon as my cycle starts over (hopefully in a couple of days). Visited  with our doctor on Monday for a scheduled annual exam and was thrilled to talk to her about TTC seeing as we are about to really put some effort into it soon. So here is my history...overweight my entire adult life but otherwise very healthy. Married for 20 years. First child at 38 and just had a M/C at age 40 in April. We are ready to try again now and my Doc says...all is well..go for it. She is not concerned about my weight and never has been. I on the other hand worry about it all the time. So good luck to us all....!!!

[TheSlingMama]

Oh hugs!  I know how heartbreaking miscarriages can be - my dr. always told me the plus side to them is that they know you can get pregnant.  Here's to hoping for a quick sticky bean!!!  Good luck mama!

[musicoholic]

TheSlingMama and Darlah!

TSM, that's my other issue.  Unnecesarean.  I really want to have a VBAC if I get pg again...  but a lot of doctors here don't like bigger women doing that.  Why the hell not?  It's the natural way to do things!  I had an emergency c-section with my DS after a 60 hour labour....  and I swear to this day it was because they didn't let me get off the damn bed and move around.  Next time however, I will not be so naive, and I will do what is right for me.

Anyways....  let's get us all pregnant with sticky beans before we start worrying about the birth!!!!

Here's to cuddly mamas!   (or, as my DH says "more cushion for harder pushin'!"  )

[TheSlingMama]

Rofl - I love that!  I actually saw my OB yesterday for an annual and TTC talk.  She no longer does VBACS because her partners don't do them.  If she's not at the birth (and there's the risk she won't), I'd have a repeat section.  So, now as a rule, she does repeat sections at 39weeks.  I'm so sad.  I LOVE my Ob and the care she provides while I'm there but I'm REALLY torn about this.  Do I stay with the OB I love and trust 100% and have a repeat section at 39 weeks or do I switch to another OB when I do become pregnant and try for a VBAC?

[musicoholic]

You know what?  I'm planning on staying home as long as possible during to give myself the best chance of avoiding a repeat c/s.    We might need to make a mad dash at the end, but that's what ambulances are for!  

[NishaG]

Hello, ladies!  A momma with "more to love" here!  I've been having some gallbladder issues lately, and I do have PCOS, but, other than that, I am considered healthy.

[faithsstuff]

WOOHOO- I am so excited to find this thread. not only am I soft and cuddly, I am one sexy lady.  DH says I'm a goddess (gotta love that man!).  i have one ds turning two this week and have been chatting with hubby about a second.  Shopping on e-bay last night we found an awesome price on newborn/small diapers and he told me to go ahead and order them So it looks like we're going to start ttc, so excited.  I wish you all well and am looking forward to updates.

[musicoholic]

NishaG:   I so hear you on the gall bladder issues...  I had mine out in 2001.  It was supposed to be taken out 2 years prior to that, but the surgeon wouldn't do it because I was 4kg over his personal "cut-off" (this I was told  on the morning I went in to be prepped!!!!!!!).  

When I finally went in for surgery (with a different surgeon) 2 years later, the surgeon was furious with the original surgeon - because my GB had actually started deteriorating and had become stuck to my liver.  Needless to say, instead of having the tiny little laser scars they'd planned on me having - I now have a HUUUUUUUGE scar almost all the way across my belly, because they couldn't find my GB it was so far gone.

..................................  that as well as my c-section scar?  Even if I had the body I wouldn't ever wear a bikini!!  

faithstuff:  Hi!  That's what my DH says about me too!  Aren't our men gorgeous?  Fingers crossed that your purchase is the best fertility aid ever!!  I'm not game enough yet to buy anything....  

Well....  I'm CD9 today, and my temp is FINALLY going down to pre-O temps (stupid headcold )....  and I'm finally feeling more in a mood to get the BD started!  I'm thinking after DS goes to bed tonight (and I know for sure he's asleep! )  I might put this song on...    (yep, there's a story attached to that....  but you'd have to ask my BFF!!!  )

So, my DS has been nagging me for 3 years when he can have a sibling....  and the other day just sat on my lap and said "Mum, why aren't you pregnant yet?" ....  and yesterday he decided to get my/his old baby doll out this afternoon and was asking how you're supposed to hold a baby...  so I showed him - then he sat on the couch watching a movie, with this baby doll in his lap and the biggest contented smile on his face!  Sigh.  So beautiful 

............  then the movie finished and he proceeded to pretend the doll was a plane and fly it around the room....   

Edited by musicoholic - 12/5/10 at 4:53pm

[TheSlingMama]

OMG you made me laugh tonight as I got caught up!  I've decided that as much as I love my OB, I'm too crunchy now to allow for a repeat c-section without first trying my damndest at a VBAC!  So, when I actually DO become pregnant I suppose I'll be looking for a new OB!  We're in our first two week wait and my test date is my 23rd birthday if AF doesn't show up a few days before that!!  I mean seriously, how awesome would that be?  Lol, for my 21st b-day I got to hear my first sticky baby's heart beat - quite a miracle after two miscarriages!  Lol, now we're in the circ debate.  SO, is basically saying we circ any boys or we won't have anymore kids at all.  :(  I really don't want to circ.  Supposedly, he's at least going to research the topic and look at my stuff an consider not circing.    I use one size diapers but I have the next one's coming home outfit all planned out down to the diaper (because of course it requires a new one!)...and will totally order it the instant I get a positive!!!!  ROFL!

[TheSlingMama]

Ugh!  I think I'm out for December.  :(  I've got some heavy spotting late this afternoon and I think it may be AF arriving - EARLY!  By like a week!  Grrrr!!!  This is crap!  My cycles range from 21-45 cycles.  How the hell am I supposed to conceive when my body can't get it's crap together.  I mean I guess we could baby dance every other day in between but that's not really an option.  SO tore his core muscle in his back about 3 years ago and is in too much pain most days.  Okay, done being upset.  I was REALLY hoping for a BFP for our anniversary (the 9th), my birthday (the 16th), and Christmas since we can't afford to celebrate otherwise. 

[Attached2Elijah]

*hug* Mama. I'm out myself... CD 1 today.

I have regular cycles but I just can't get pregnant to save my soul... starting to wonder if my weight plays a role in our TTC troubles. I lost 25 pounds right before I got pregnant with DD. Thinking I need to do that again if I want to see a BFP. Easier said then done... but think I'm going to try focusing on that for a couple of months instead of TTC. That should be fun during the holidays. Ugh!

[musicoholic]

 Jeri and TSL  

I hate CD1....  but OTOH it's a great excuse to do ALL the stuff we're "not allowed" to do while pg...   Needless to say, my body usually goes into overload on that day.....    Wine, brie, deli meats, all the allergens that I avoid otherwise (DH has a long allergy list)  -  CD1 is a parTAY!  Bittersweet, really.

CD12 here....  booooooooooooorrrring.  (well, the BDing is not boring....  but the waiting is!)

[TheSlingMama]

Lol, that is so very true!  Thanks for supporting my pity party moment.  I keep trying to tell myself that this just means we're one month closer to get help from my doctor.  She wants us to try for 6 months before she'll investigate further.  I'm just afraid we can't conceive.  SO had a torsion of his testicle when he was younger and I've had two miscarriages and have always had wonky cycles.  It took 6 years for my ex husband and I to have a healthy baby.  Wait, sliding back into pity party...methinks it's time for a nice big ole can of Mt. Dew and a snuggle in bed with Her Majesty!  :)

[Attached2Elijah]

Haha, Did you see my glass of wine I had last night on the one thread since I had a temp drop? Haha, it sounds SO much better when I say it was a glass (it's a glass that holds 3/4 of a bottle! LOL!) I definitely enjoyed my AF allowed-to's ...It made AF so much easier to face first thing this morning. I almost didn't mind seeing her. ;)

[musicoholic]

OMG Jeri - I did see that!!!  It's bigger than mine...  I have a hand-painted glass (with a piano and music notes all over it, of course!!) that holds half a bottle - but you win!!

Speaking of wine....  I'm *supposed* to O this weekend - so I might have a glass of a lovely cleanskin merlot I found tonight, seeing I was too ill to have one last weekend   The bottle is just sitting there!  Can't let it sit there all lonely-like...  Oh dear.  I shall just *have* to go and get some triple-cream brie to have with it then.  That's my dinner sorted  -  the boys can fend for themselves, I think.

[faithsstuff]

oooh ladies- wine and brie?  My ds turns two today and he was accepted into the EI program this morning.  it's been a bit of an up and down day, AND I can feel AF coming.  I guess I'm to have the bottle passed this way ;)