Originally Posted by EllisH
I just don't want to take any risks, a healthy baby trumps having the experience at home.
Sorry, this is the one sentiment that people tend to have that makes my skin crawl. Especially since, when I was pregnant with DS, I thought that exactly. I could not understand why a woman would take such risks!
A hospital does not equal safety or a better outcome. I wish it did. I was wrong. I got 2 hospital stays (one for delivery, one for complications to my c-section) and I really learned a lot about hospitals. They are nothing like the TV shows. The hospital discharged me when I said I had trouble breathing and that even though my BP was considered normal, it was elevated for me. That, right there, almost killed me if my MIL did not beg me to go back. My MIL could tell I was very sick, even though the nurses said I was fine. It is very possible my complications were a hospital borne infection.
It isn't just about a healthy baby. It is about a healthy mom too. And when you are in the ER and they are telling you that you are very sick and may not ever go back home to see that precious baby, that really hits home. You health matters too. And as much as I have been told that I am selfish for thinking that, I know it to be true.
I am having my baby at home this time because I know my midwife knows me well. She knows about my history, my life, my worries, and my fears. She also knows that I run hypoglycemic and sometimes my blood pressure can be as low as 80/50 (and I am not about to pass out). I trust her. And therefore, I believe being in her care is much safer than going to a hospital.
You have to go where you feel safe. I would prefer to transfer to the hospital to receive the care there that I would need versus starting off there. But that is me :)