My babe is also 8 months, and not really eating much at all in the way of solid foods. Â She loves to gnaw on an apple slice, have bits of sweet potato (I usually cube and roast them with butter/CO oil and seasonings), minuscule bits of tender meats, tiny pieces of banana, drops of my smoothie, etc. Â I haven't forced the issue, because I do think they eat when they are ready (barring any medical/sensory issues). Â
Focus on nutrient-dense foods from your plate. Â If he isn't ready for finger foods, just mash it up a bit and feed it from a spoon. Â I think you're right, that anything before a year or so is really more for the experience of food than for the nutrition for most babies. Â I don't have a problem with letting my baby have fruit, mostly because of this reason; my babies have all been nursing pretty heavily at this point, so what little fruit they get at 8 months is just tastes. Â
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As they gradually eat more solids, I try to make sure that there is plenty of fat in the diet: butter on veggies, whole milk kefir in the smoothie, egg yolk, etc. Â I also limit grains for a very long time; this babe hasn't had any yet (well, I think she found a random cheerio on the floor the other day, but otherwise...), and I'm not in a hurry to introduce them. Â Even after a year, I'll still be slow to give them to her. Â
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It sounds to me like you are on the right track. Â As far as how much and how often, if I don't have something readily available, she doesn't get anything at that meal. Â She might get something once or twice a day, or not at all. Â Every day is different. Â Your baby may want more food, and that's ok. Â I do try to make sure that she is still nursing frequently (I aim for at least 6 times per day, ymmv), and she nurses several times in the night. Â If I felt like solid food was overtaking nursing, I would definitely cut back on it, and offer to nurse more often.