Originally Posted by chaoticzenmom
I'm a lot like you. I have learned to coach my thinking when I get upset about these things. I tell myself repeat until I feel better (I'm doing the best I can to keep my own children safe.) and (It would be horrible enough if it happened to me, I can't live as if it did happen to me.)
It may seem cold to live out other people's horrors in your own head. It's like if you take your own lack of horror for granted, it'll surely happen to you. Whatever happened to those children was surely horrible. They're not feeling any pain now. LIght a candle for them, send prayers or energy to their loved ones and live your own life.
Also, I don't watch the news. There's so much love and light in the world, but the news is all dark and scary. It's not reality, it's distorted to play on our fears. I don't watch horror films anymore either.
People (and animals for that matter) in the world all over have lots of battles to face. We also have a lot of love and blessings.
I definitely have had a problem with imagining, in great detail, horrific crimes against people (adults, children, whatever). I think for me it's trying to understand HOW COULD SOMEONE DO THAT? I won't go into detail about the kinds of things I think or wonder because I don't want to freak people out, but that's what the nature of my thought process focuses on. I just can't wrap my mind around doing something like that, and then I wonder what causes it. Mental illness? Evil? Is there such a thing?
My son and I were victims of an attempted home invasion (where the person, a stranger but someone who lived across the street, had an intention to harm me and possibly my son) about a year and a half ago, and that definitely increased my fear (understandably), but I had these thoughts and fears before this ever happened. I was raised by parents who constantly scared my brother and I with horrific stories of abducted and murdered kids to make sure we knew what could happen if we weren't careful. My mom also witnessed a child be kidnapped my strangers when she was a child on Halloween in the 1950s, so I am sure that really affected her view of the world.
Like you said, I've decided that no amount of WORRY can prevent such things from happening to me or others. I can use a reasonable amount of caution (locked doors and windows, a security system, lights around outside of house, etc), but I can't let that paralyze me. I am sure 90-95% of people who worry about such things will never have something like this happen to them. I know it can be hard though!!!!
Merry Christmas to all of you who celebrate Christmas.
Hugs to Charlie's Angel and her family!!!!