I'm hoping to hire a mother's helper in the near future, but I'm looking for some ideas of how to define the job and narrow down what I'm looking for. Eventually I'd love to have someone who I could leave the kids with for short periods of time too. I find I depend way too much on my inlaws for babysitting and I feel like I'm almost taking advantage of them. I'm struggling a bit with PPD and also just overwhelmed with the day to day realities of trying to manage a house and two kids with minimal help. DH leaves the house at 7:30 am and is usually home by 5, but then it is dinner, and then bed time. We have been working on a large kitchen renovation since August too, so his time is short. The older one is in bed by 7:30, but the baby usually takes a while to get to bed, so in the evenings I can't get much done...and I'm exhausted from nursing all night.
I'm going to contact a local college and see if I can post the job. How many hours a week would you think would make it reasonable and what sorts of wages would you offer? I was considering ~10 dollars an hour but not sure if that is too little? I don't want to be insulting, but I also don't want to break the bank. :)
Mainly I'm looking for someone to come in and play with/supervise the kids while I get things done around the house. The baby is very precocious and is rather um...persistent. I accidentally left the door to the downstairs room open this morning and she was half way up the stairs in 2 minutes. I can't turn my back! :) General household stuff is a challenge because the baby doesn't nap except on my lap with my nipple in her mouth. So things I'd do while the baby was napping are getting neglected. *cough* I didn't have a shower for 5 days last week, and DD hasn't had a bath in that long because I can't seem to figure out the logistics of it. The baby will scream if I put her in any sort of containment device and I can not deal with that. 1 because she's obviously upset and 2 it gets older DD upset and then we all end up massively stressed and it usually ends up in a freak out by me or DD or both...
I'd love to start doing some more meal planning and or once a month cooking and making more home made food. So one day I could have her come in and play with the kids I could make several batches of food to freeze.
Mondays and Wednesdays are the days we have no school. I'm not set on hiring a student, I'm just thinking students might be more open to a small very part time job like what I'm envisioning. I am guessing I could afford to pay for 5 to 6 hours a week. Is that even reasonable?
Also how would you look for someone? I guess references would be important? One of the reasons I was thinking the local college, is that there is a ECE program there so there might be students who are child friendly already?