The date has been set-*updated*

[2xand2y]

On Thursday, the kids and I will officially be living with my relative.  I spoke with the attorney today and she advise me to go asap (for several reasons).  After the kids are in school, I'll finish moving our stuff then go to the court to file a petition for separation, custody, and support.  Will I need to have decided all the details I want in the visitation agreement at that point?  I guess I'll be studying the "master thread of what I wish" just in case.  I'm super nervous and feeling sick to my stomach, but I believe this is the right thing.

[2xand2y]

It's done.  I'm really nervous about to night when I have to tell him what I've done.  The kids don't know yet either. I feel sick.

[Wild Lupine]

Thinking of you. How did it go?

[2xand2y]

Well, thanks!  I can't believe how much better I feel this morning- WoooooHOOOOOOOO!!!!  

It wasn't too ugly.  He raked me over the coals but actually didn't raise his voice when he did it.  I just disengaged and let it all roll off (thanks MDC mamas).  It was amazing to "see" his perspective and to know how ridiculous everything he was saying is, W-O-W.

I did tell him I still wanted to "work" on our marriage.  I didn't/don't have much hope that he will do what I have requested (go to counseling and be financially transparent).  So the one year of being separated before I can file for divorce begins. It is feeling good.

[vannienicole]

Congrats on taking that first step.  Whatever happens in the next year happens, but gaining the courage to jump the first hurdle is difficult.  

[hillymum]

Well done!

I can't believe you have to be seperated for a year before you can file. thats crazy!

[2xand2y]

Hmmmmm, now he is accusing me of having "plans I won't tell him about" (implying an affair) because I won't go out of state with him to visit his family for Christmas.

[Halfasianmomma]

oh please, accusations of infidelity are sooooo boring. It's like the fallback for everything. *yawn*

You don't owe him anything, especially not a visit to *his* family this holiday.

[momof4peppers]

Congratulations!