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post #101 of 344
MizYellow--EDD is July 30, but I'm mostly hanging out in the August DDC. No ultrasound yet. I'm not 100% sure of my midwife's protocol--another natuopath in her practice is also an ultrasound tech, so the service is available in their clinic--but I'm guessing we won't have one until 20 weeks. Our first official appointment is the first week of January, at 10 weeks (and we'll hopefully hear a heartbeat). How reassuring that you saw your little bean! I'm telling myself that the extreme sleepiness and rapidly expanding boobs can only mean good thing going on in there!

Isa, seraf and gelly--sorry for the BFNs. I notice that the BFPs on this board go in waves--here's to 5G kicking off a huge wave that catches you all!

Starling--I may have missed it; when is your FET?

Escher--yay for poas! We need a good smilie for that--like those trashy decals often spotted on the back windows of Dodge pickup cabs, with Calvin peeing on a Ford logo. smile.gif

AFM, extreme exhaustion has, at least for now, given way to just manageable tiredness. DP says I did growl last night, though, when I got home to an empty house and driveway and called to demand to know where the hell the car was--I needed to hit the grocery store, STAT!, for a stirfry dish they'll make to order in the deli. It was the only thing that sounded palatable for dinner. Fortunately, DP was just a few blocks away; crisis averted!
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5grand, hugs to you.  Having never been through that situation, I can't even imagine it, but my heart hurts for your worry.  You got the strongest, healthiest ones who are able to live better in you than outside of you. It sounds like a fine theory.  Hopefully it turns into a baby. 

 

QOTD, I can't think of anything that I do different.  I don't usually believe in luck and I have a lucky charm on.

post #103 of 344
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Escher--yay for poas! We need a good smilie for that--like those trashy decals often spotted on the back windows of Dodge pickup cabs, with Calvin peeing on a Ford logo. smile.gif

ROTFLMAO!!!! lol.gif you are soooo right!! lol.giflol.giflol.gif
post #104 of 344

Amy~ I second Wehrli's ROFLMAO!!!!  We TOTALLY need one of those!

post #105 of 344
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Hi Everyone,

Amy: It sounds like you're having great symptoms. I'm glad everything is going well. orngbiggrin.gif

Isa: I'm sorry that AF arrived. hug.gif

Mizyellow: Hooray for your good ultrasound! joy.gif

5G: I'm sending big hugs and crossed body parts your way. I'm sorry that was such a stressful experience. I hope that you're finding good ways to take care of yourself. I'm imagining your little one implanting firmly inside you! fingersx.gif

QOTD: When I first started TTC, I was obsessive. I think I believed that if I just did everything right I would get pregnant right away. For example, I was incredibly careful during the TWW not to eat anything that could be less than terrifically healthy, and I remember my first TWW not even doing any stretching because I worried it would compress my uterus or something. lol.gif I still try to eat a healthy diet and be gentle with my body, but I'm much less convinced now that eating a bit of white flour or doing some gentle stretching is going to hurt anything. shrug.gif
post #106 of 344

FiveGrandBaby: first off, hugs. It's a very stressful process. I really can't think of one other thing in life that has all the crazy factors of trying to have a baby, especially the IVF process. Secondly, from a reputable IVF website: "...fragmentation in human embryos is quite common and many beautiful babies have resulted from implantation of embryos with fragments." I don't know if your doc rated the fragmentation but I agree with Cejae. They wouldn't have recommended freezing if they were so fragmented they had no chance. So hang in there as difficult as it may be. Obviously, we are all waiting with baited breath! Especially those of us looking towards IVF soon like me and Max.

 

MizYellow: praying that both you and the little one weren't "sharing" the puke bag on the plane...I think you and I might have conversed before about having the same donor and determined we didn't. Mine is out of Fremont. I know he just had his 13 pregnancy. Is that you? ROTFLMAO.gif

 

Questions About Online Donors: I too was really unsure and freaked out initially but now that I am on my second donor, I feel a lot more relaxed. First off, a lot of is just like dating. You meet the person and you can "get a feeling" as to whether they're on the up and up or worth meeting. They are definitely some kooks out there and everyone has their own way of vetting people. My DP does all the vetting and sometimes her reasons are random (i.e. "I didn't like the subject line of his email") but I totally trust her. We won't work with anyone that A) doesn't have up-to-date STD reports/testing and B) isn't willing to sign a contract pre-insemination and is willing to sign away parental rights once the baby is born. So far, we haven't had any problem in that department when vetting these guys. It REALLY helps if they've done it before. Donor "virgins" really aren't what we want. Both guys we're working with have had 12 pregnancies and 13 children produced so it helps to know that they A) can get women pregnant and B) have experience.We meet them so we can ask deeper questions about family history. One of our donors is AWESOME. He has so much information, it's overwhelming and even leads an intense fertility enhancing diet and lifestyle. The other one is more casual about it but we got the basic requirements from him so we feel it's okay. You can only do what you feel comfortable with. For some, it just doesn't feel right. For us, it does because we created parameters for ourselves before we walked into it. The only reason our initial donor has the FDA trying to shut him down is because he's so organized that he's registered with the FDA as a tissue donor and they have come to audit him. Everyone else runs under the radar so the government doesn't know what they're doing.

 

Krista

post #107 of 344

Isa: Sorry about BFN and AF.  I agree that it is best when those two things occur close together, though.  Here's hoping it was your last BFN.

 

5G: Wow--what a roller coaster.  I can almost imagine how stressful all of this must be, and I think you are doing a great job of coping.  It is ok to break down sometimes, even beneficial.  I'm thinking strong implantation and sticky thoughts for you and your little embryos.  I hope at least one of them is replicating away at this very moment.

 

Krista: I understand your feeling that you are going about this in a way that is comfortable for you, because you have defined your process in advance.  I'm glad you have a workable way of proceeding and hope that you don't have to keep at it much longer.

 

MizYellow: joy.gif for your perfectly sized little embie with a strong heartbeat!  After previous m/cs, this must be a hard time for you.  You seem to be handling the anxiety well, and I'm so glad that everything looks great for this one. 

 

Starling: Your FET is tomorrow, right?!  GOOD LUCK!  So exciting!  Please let us know how it goes.

 

Hi to everyone else!

 

AFM: I forgot who asked (on a previous screen), but I'm fine--a bit bloated and tired, but fine. And the bbs do seem to be growing a bit.  I feel surprisingly normal, really.  Maybe I'll find another stick to pee on.  wink1.gif  I'm holding tight until next Thursday, when I have a week 7 u/s and will hope to see the heartbeat.  Yay!  I'm in grading hell but will be done by Tuesday, when grades are due, so this won't last much longer.  I told some colleagues today about being pg, even though it is super early.  I just felt like it, and they were great.   

post #108 of 344

Thanks for all the inquiries about tomorrow!  I'll let you all know how it goes.  We're all set for ten am.  Not sure what to do about the two-year-old who's coming with us.  She freaked out at the u/s and begged to nurse.  Out loud.  "Nurse, mama!  I wanna nurse num-nums, please mama, nurse!"  This, after the RE expressly told us to wean. 

I am exhausted (14 hour shift on the ambulance), and so will try to do personals tomorrow when I'm sitting around with my feet up, willing the embies to stick!  Hmm.  Not sure what to do with the two-year-old for that either!  Might have to let her have a sheet of stickers.  That's always good for a half hour or so.

Thanks again for all the well wishes.  I'll keep you posted!

post #109 of 344

Starling, good luck today!  Does she have a friend she would like to go visit for an hour?  Does seem stressful to be 2 and watch your Mama be weird and laying around in public.

 

Amanda, yay for another ultrasound.  Yay for no symptoms, too.

post #110 of 344

Starling~ BEST OF LUCK and everything crossed for tomorrow. I can't imagine what this process must be like, much less with a two year old observing and possibly distressed.  I hope everything goes smoothly and successfully.    As for your 12 hour ambulance shift, I didn't realize you were an EMT.  You'd especially like the book I read this year, 'Holding Still For As Long As Possible' as it has an EMT as a main character and the point of the romantic triangle. 

 

 

AHope~ Yay for feeling good, though I know what you mean about the stick-peeing. I found one when I was cleaning the bathroom the other day and peed on it just to make sure, even though my belly's hanging out.  I got worried this morning when Aspidistra didn't kick me in the shower, but she's finally awake now. Whew!!  I'm sorry for your grading hell.  My DP's classes just turned in their final projects and she'll be in grading hell all weekend. Ugh!  Reason number 347 I became a librarian instead!!!

 

 

 

Happy Friday everyone!!!

post #111 of 344
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Thanks for all the inquiries about tomorrow!  I'll let you all know how it goes.  We're all set for ten am.  Not sure what to do about the two-year-old who's coming with us.  She freaked out at the u/s and begged to nurse.  Out loud.  "Nurse, mama!  I wanna nurse num-nums, please mama, nurse!"  This, after the RE expressly told us to wean. 

I am exhausted (14 hour shift on the ambulance), and so will try to do personals tomorrow when I'm sitting around with my feet up, willing the embies to stick!  Hmm.  Not sure what to do with the two-year-old for that either!  Might have to let her have a sheet of stickers.  That's always good for a half hour or so.

Thanks again for all the well wishes.  I'll keep you posted!


I cracked up at your DD begging to nurse in front of the RE.  Good for you for sticking to your guns with the nursing and getting pg again.  My DD nursed for EVER.  Actually, after she was about 1 1/2, it was only twice a day usually (wake up, bedtime, sometimes before nap), but she kept at that until she turned 4, when we had a No More Nursing party at the park with balloons, a few close friends, and ice cream.  At one point, my grandmother asked me in this incredibly serious tone of voice, "But when will she STOP?"  I assured her that I wouldn't let DD go off to college until she was fully weaned. 

post #112 of 344

Isa - Sorry about the BFN and AF. So frustrating.

 

Starling, Cejae - I LOVE the talk about the vag pills. I was giggling like a 12-year-old when I read the posts. Good luck with all the 'fizzing.' And Starling good luck to you today!!! Keep us posted on what's happening. I had to take DS with me yesterday to the doc for my HSG. Our sitter called at 10:30 the night before and canceled. Because I had a 3 hour drive to Nashville and my appt was at 10 am, I had to take him with me. (School starts here at 9 and DP is out of town.) Thanks goodness he was quiet and played on my iPhone for 2 hours. Whew! Of course, it probably helped that I bribed him with everyone under the sun - McDonald's for lunch (ick), ice cream, a sleepover with a friend, etc...

 

5G - Good grief what a day you had. hug2.gifI agree that he wouldn't have transferred if the eggs weren't of quality. Remember that it only takes 1 of those little suckers, and it sounds like you have 2 good little emby's ready to go. I am sorry to hear that it was such a yucky day. Try to relax and enjoy the 2TWW.

 

QOTD - We've been TTC now for almost 2 full years. And boy, oh boy, what a dumb ass I was when this all began. I still feel that way sometimes now, but looking back - STUPID. Just when I think I know so much about the whole process at this point, I learn 10x that much in a month. Most of what I've learned has been on here and one other board. Who needs docs when we have each other?

 

AFM - The HSG went fine yesterday, piece of cake really with no cramping and minimal bleeding. The best part was that I got to watch the whole thing. Oh, and I kinda cheated a bit and took 800mg of meds versus what they said to take - 600. I don't know if it helped really, but the pain was minor, so I am going with that thought. There were no blockages and the doc gave me a pretty picture to keep. It looks reallllllly weird and my uterus is much smaller than I ever imagined. The alien demon.gifis still in there and attached to my left ovary, but it's not inside, which the doc says is great. It's in the bottom left part of the ovary and is barely hanging on - aka the cul-de-sac apparently. Is it weird that no one seems concerned about this damn thing other than me? She said I was much more fertile this month and asked if we wanted to try IUI again. Um, yes. (And isn't that what we're paying her for - to tell us whether to insem or not?) Anyway, I am having an u/s on cd17 this month since I always O somewhere around 18-20. Hopefully, there will be a good follie in there. It's another natural cycle month with no femara. irked.gif Guess we'll see how it does. I am off to jump on the Pineapple Eating Express and to find the Evening Primrose. So long taste buds. Hope everyone has a great weekend!

post #113 of 344

We're back from the clinic!  We put two embryos in, one 'good' one and one that is slightly less than 'good.'  I hope that all equals out to one healthy baby!

DD couldn't manage to be in the room with me along with all the 'scary' equipment and people in paper hats and paper booties and masks.  She had to leave and hang out with DP in the other room, where the nurse gave her a box of apple juice and a cookie, which thrilled her to no end!

 

Oh, and we got to go in early because the three women before me didn't come with their bladders full enough.  Silly ladies! 

 

I'm very much at peace this time (right now, anyway), unlike last time when so much was on the line.  I truly feel that DD was a miracle, and that this baby would be a gift.  Here's to the two-week-wait!  Oh, and the clinic told us that we were the first embryo donor family in Canada last time!  Crazy! Yay for creative queers!

 

I have three shifts on the ambulance already booked during the next two weeks, but am thinking I might bail on them, just so that I know that I've done everything to get this baby to stick.  Not sure.  I know that heavy lifting is fine for the baby, just not sure that I'd feel okay if the embies didn't stick ... i might feel that I should've not worked.  Can't really afford the 'holiday,' but might have to in order to make me feel like we did our best to give the embies a chance.  Thoughts?

 

Library, the author of the book you mentioned is an acquaintance of mine.  So cool that you read her book!

 

2ez, glad the hsg went well.  Yay for no cramping!  And funny about offering your DS everything under the sun!  The stickers worked for a little while, but I've just turned on a dvd for DD, which she never gets, because I want to sit for a while and make sure those embies can nestle in nice and cozy. 

 

5g, one of our embies fragmented as well and they put that one in, and told us that they often do just as well once they're in the 'correct' environment.  How are you feeling?

 

seraf, we were planning on sending DD on a playdate to her friends, but Hand Foot and Mouth disease is rampant in our community right now and her kid has it, so no go.  DD is a very shy little girl, so only has a few people she's comfy hanging out with: grandma, auntie and her buddy.  All three didn't work out!  Yeesh! 

 

ETA:  Escher, can I be moved to Waiting To Know?  We'll be officially doing a blood test on the 27th if no AF by then, but I'll be POAS on Solstice.  I had a nice, strong BFP at nine days past transfer last time and I'd love to get a BFP on Solstice, which is 11 days away, right?  If it's a BFN on Solstice, that's okay too.  The longest night of the year is good for all sorts of rituals, both happy and sad. 

post #114 of 344

Amy—hi!  Glad to hear the tiredness has abated and that you can go hunting for delicious stir-fries now!

 

 Ahope—Grading always looked like the worst part of teaching to me.  Glad you’re almost done and ready for a nice break for a while!

 

Starling—Yay! Stick, embies, stick!  Glad to hear everything went well (a day with a juice box is a good day, in my mind).  And yes, magic all around on the 21st.   

 

2EZ—glad the cyst is in a place where it isn’t getting in the way at least!  When is cd17 for you?

 

 AFM—nothing too exciting.  Planning to bake about a zillion cookies this weekend, but that’s about it! 

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Starling:  YAY for the transfer!  So glad you are done, and it sounds like it went easily.  If you don't mind my asking, why does transfer require a full bladder?  At any rate, I'm thinking that your second child is a ball of cells burrowing into your lining at this very moment.  Good luck! 

 

5G: How are you doing today?

 

Isa: That's a lot of cookies.  Yikes.  Enjoy!

 

Library and Isa:  Good call.  Grading really is the worst part of my job.  Hands down.  UGH. 

 

AFM:  I found a second midwifery practice in the area (and my insurance network), so I made appointments to visit both of them next week.  I'm excited! 

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They can see the lining better if the bladder is full.  Apparently it makes quite the difference in their decision on exactly where in the lining to place the embies. 

Good luck interviewing your midwives!  My advice is that if the midwives work in teams that you meet both women before making your decision.  We fell in love with our midwife, and then met her horrid, bitter, sour, cold meanie partner.  She wasn't at our birth, thank goddess, but she is the reason that we won't go back to that practice.  Not until she's gone.  Which is too bad, because we adore the other woman.  If we get our BFP, we'll go to the woman who was a student when we were pregnant last time.  She did most of our primary care, and attended our birth with the good midwife.  She's practicing on her own now, and we'll go to her.  She's queer too (as is the midwife who attended our first birth) which helps.  Trust your gut, Amanda ... it's a valuable tool!

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Starling:  YAY for the transfer!  So glad you are done, and it sounds like it went easily.  If you don't mind my asking, why does transfer require a full bladder?  At any rate, I'm thinking that your second child is a ball of cells burrowing into your lining at this very moment.  Good luck!

post #117 of 344
5G- I'm with Krista, I wouldn't get down about the transfer. Your little bean will grab on to your lining and sink right in. Keep your chin up kid! These two weeks coming up try to create a peaceful and safe resting spot for that little embryo. dust.gif

Starling
- Sounds like everything went great. Good luck with the TWW! dust.gif

QOTD-
I've been influenced by different books and approaches. Right now I am reading Fertility Wisdom and I am altering my diet to cut down on dairy and the veggies that are considered "extreme" according to eastern medicine. I'm increasing foods that are more balanced and decreasing wine (even though I won't be doing IVF till at least mid-January.

AFM- My acupuncture appointment was great and my broken ankle feels better today and less swollen. I am going to continue with it and they are slowly going to add fertility herbs and acupuncture as my leg heals and as we get closer to January. Trying to stay positive. redface.gif
post #118 of 344

Hey ladies~ It's so exciting we've got two IVF waits going on. I don't think we've had that on this board, at least since I've been on this board. I'm thinking my best thoughts for the both of you, and eager for your bfps!  

 

Starling~ I thing the Solstice is the perfect time to learn your future.  And that's very cool you know the author of the book! It was one of my favorites this year. Sadly, the lesbian books are never as good as the gay boy books (I don't know why, but it's been true for the past few years) but hers was excellent!

 

 

Max~ I'm glad you're healing so quickly and so well. I'm sure it feels like an eternity for you, but you'll be baking babies before you know it!!

 

Ahope~ Yay!!!  We love our midwife and are pleased every day that we've made the decision to go in this direction. I hope you find someone who makes you happy.

 

Isa~ I like chocolate cookies, please, and gingerbread, but I don't like frosting on mine. Thanks!!

 

Krista~ SO GLAD your hsg went well. I also remember how bizarrely small my uterus looked on the screen. Like, "THAT'S going to hold a 9 pound baby!?!?"  Sorry about the alien, but I hope they got what they need to help you.

 

 

AFM~ I noticed last night that I'm now pregnant in my dreams. Someone offered me a glass of wine and I couldn't take it because of the baby (side note: I really want a glass of wine).  Also, I noticed as of yesterday that I can feel Aspidistra punching as well as kicking. Very cool. 

post #119 of 344

Thanks for the well wishes, Library!

As for your craving wine, I did too, while pregnant last time.  Finally, I got the driest sparkly fruit non-alcoholic 'white wine,' poured it in a nice wine glass and pretended.  It did the trick, because it was SO dry it actually tasted like a decent reisling. 

Oh, and about Zoe's book ... I do have a  beef with it.  The FTM character was not very flushed out, I thought.  My ex is FTM and I have to say that his FTM-ness was often a third character in our relationship.  I like that the book normalized being trans, but I thought the representation was somewhat false and the impact downplayed.

 

Hello to everyone else!

 

post #120 of 344

so...i started bleeding (with clotting) this morning and it was accompanied by cramps. :( i took a pregnancy test and although it still says positive i have a very strong feeling that this is a mc.:(

 

 

(to add to starling's post, i drank a couple of glasses of non-alcoholic merlot and it tasted pretty terrible...but is definitely better than nothing...i should have tried dry white)

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