oh and I should clarify-it's not about pooping on the toilet, esp with the new baby we totally don't care about that.
It's pooping, period, that he's afraid of.
And the blood was red-I gently wiped his bum with petroleum jelly and will continue to do so for a while-that seemed to make cleanup pain-free for him.
So we'll be keeping an eye on that aspect of it...
must get crying baby, hugs to all!
Mother Holle- we pronounce it "holly" but it's a bit more germanic. LOL Alternate spellings/names for her are Hulda, Holda, and Holla. And she is sometimes associated with Hertha/Hlodyn/Jord and Perchta.
The main wiki page is: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother_Hulda and the Holda specific page is: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holda while the Perchta specific page is: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perchta
I'm now on the tax rolls... wish me luck! We really, really, REALLY need this income so this is a HUGE blessing!
i'm all for flower blends for family-gathering-protection/sanity. mixed one up this morning! wish i could make up batches for you all..... sending virtual flowers to everyone!
shall we have our virtual fete NOW, since we didnt (unless you all did and i just missed it!).... might be a nice balance to some family strife over the next couple days?
hugs and flowers to all,
xoxooxoxox
oh and I should clarify-it's not about pooping on the toilet, esp with the new baby we totally don't care about that.
It's pooping, period, that he's afraid of.
And the blood was red-I gently wiped his bum with petroleum jelly and will continue to do so for a while-that seemed to make cleanup pain-free for him.
So we'll be keeping an eye on that aspect of it...
must get crying baby, hugs to all!
That's what we were up against too... he wouldn't even poo in a pull up even after we told him it was OK and that we wanted him to! It's been so traumatic for him :( not to mention the rest of us. I hope you find a way to reassure him that it's normal and that everyone poops!
And speaking of... I GOT A JOB! I go today to fill out the paperwork and sign the tax forms and I might even start this weekend. It's work-from-home doing data sorting for a friend. He was given the green light to hire some temps to help with the "mind numbing" bits of the job and he asked me and another friend of ours who is a single mom to a 7yo. It's more or less the perfect job (flexible hours, all from home, decent pay) but I'm a bit scared of the reality. I'm just not sure where I can fit it into the day... to be cost effective to the company I need to process something like 150 files per hour, three to four hours a day. Until I see what is involved I wont panic, but the thought of finding three-four hours a day when the kiddos wont be all over me is daunting. The 7pm-10pm or 7-11pm chunk seem to be the only solid options but I've never been a night owl and this might be the end of me! So we'll see. Serenity now!
I'm so happy for you about your job hun! You can do it! 7-10pm is doable, grab a cup of caffienated something and dig in 
You'll totally adapt to handle it.
and we're putting off one of the xmas presents we planned for the boys until Lucas' birthday next month. I feel like I've over done it AGAIN lol... Not sure how, as $ has been tight, but I've spent more money than I thought i had to spend!?!?! Granted I did do lay away for a bunch of stuff, and I had a couple of smaller shopping trips .. but it sure did add up. So we'll save that one for next month, otherwise we'd have no cool birthday present
I so hear that, Cari...I think I racked up over $1000 on the credit card 
and I can't think what I have to show for it!!! I'm burying it in the yard when I get home.
You better! I'm dying of curiosity now! Can't wait to see! Will you post on FB too?
On another note...it turns out that M has to work all next week. While I'm there. Every day. We forgot that he had a different job last year which closed down the week between Christmas and New Year's 
I said Honey, we'll figure it out. You've worked before, 2 extra hours every day for a week, to make up for a day lost. Maybe you can take ONE day off and do that. It'll work out somehow. But dang.
Yep I'll put in on fb... not sure I can figure out HOW to put it on here yet lol. Here goes trying though! Cool, success!
I really love your hair cut/color, Cari!
Cari, your hair is just gorgeous!!! Just beautiful. Do you like it so far?
So M has Monday off 
Turns out they all have Monday off. He has to work bookend days around holidays to get paid for the holiday...That means Tuesday and Friday, but maybe, just maybe, I can talk him into taking off W or Thur, too. He can work 2 hours extra a day for 4 days next week to make up for it. He's done it before. Now to talk him into it 
Off to make gingersnaps and sugar cookies. We need something for Santa! And for me 
Merry Christmas !
Cari- love, love, love the new hair do!
Oh heck, I had my Yule Ball dress all picked out, hit "CNTRL C" and it didn't copy and paste to here. GRRR!
Cari--what a great 'do! I so need a haircut. You are inspiring me!
Maia--DH is much better now, thanks for asking. He's still got a little over a week to go on the Cipro, which makes him very tired, but I have him on probiotics. My friend's baby is also better, though he had to be transferred to a hospital with a Special Care Nursery for iv antibiotics. poor little guy. I haven't been able to talk to them much, but his breathing is improving. so glad it wasn't a heart issue, but still how traumatizing!
Enjoy your trip up here:D
So Xmas Eve and Day with my family. Thank goodness. Then Sunday we leave for NJ for that madness. Dh's mother tried one more bit of guilt into trying to get us to stay longer, but she has yet to realize it doesn't work on us! I just hope the big snowstorm bypasses us on Sunday so we can head down on schedule.
Happy holidays!
Yeah....me, too. I think it's supposed to get 2-4" over here in Va.Beach. Thankfully they've already got snow melting stuff out, and the airport's only about 20 minutes from my mom's.
Damn it....I think M is drunk. He isn't admitting it, but he sounds it, and he hasn't taken his medicine, and he's driving to J's house. All a recipe for disaster 
And he's been doing so well, too. Frick. I really, really hope I'm wrong. But I don't think so. I just hope to heck he doesn't get caught driving, or have any issues. There's so, so many idiots out on the roads during holidays.
Cari, your hair is just gorgeous!!! Just beautiful. Do you like it so far?
So M has Monday off Turns out they all have Monday off. He has to work bookend days around holidays to get paid for the holiday...That means Tuesday and Friday, but maybe, just maybe, I can talk him into taking off W or Thur, too. He can work 2 hours extra a day for 4 days next week to make up for it. He's done it before. Now to talk him into it
Off to make gingersnaps and sugar cookies. We need something for Santa! And for me
I do love it! That pic is one after *I* showerd & styled it, and it wasn't hard to get it to do what I want so I'm pleased. That first self style is always the one that makes for breaks it I think hehe.. and it's so shiny now .. and COOL!
So.. I just got home from the ER.. I spectacularly cut my little finger on... get this... the toilet paper holder! Its stainless steel and has a 'flap' of metal that lays on the roll ... I've caught on it before... but never thoguht about it. It's apparently quite sharp as I now have a LARGE V shaped filet on my finger Bled like the proverbial stuck pig and went completely numb. I'm happy the doc didn't want to stitch it though! He gave it a clean and put a few steri strips around my finger to hold things together as it heals. I was also lucky in that it only took an hour from the time i walked into the ER till I was calling Daim back to pick me up lol. (I had him drop me off & go home to hang out with the kids in case it tooka while.. didn't want everyone's day to be wrecked!)
Now that i'm home, had lunch (hubby made us a very posh nibbles platter with olives, marinated mushrooms, cabana, cheese, pesto, dips and bread chips that I made the other day) and have updated everyone... I think I'm going to have to crash for a couple of hours. I got maybe 4hrs sleep last night hehehe.. I do so love playing santa though... even though the boys know it's all from mum & dad :) (lucas even thanked me for the very awesome 'Link,' of Zelda fame, pez dispenser that came in his stocking lol) It's still good fun! Hope you all have a lovely holiday with your families! *hugs & love*
So....M was not drunk I don't know what the problem was, but he wasn't drunk, so I'm good to go, and he doesn't blame me at all for being potentially upset.
Mamas, though, I need some serious vibes...the weather here is absolutely dismal (well, not yet, but supposed to be) and my first flight was cancelled. So they rebooked me-- through Atlanta, which is having worse potential weather than NYC (my original layover). Pray, light candles, whatever you do, PLEASE, mamas, that I make this next flight. M only has tomorrow and Monday off, and we really, really need to be together. We'll be so devastated if we can't. Please. My flight leaves Norfolk at 5:45am tomorrow and so far it's on time. My next flight leave Atlanta at 8:45am tomorrow and so far, that one's on time, too. I need to be in Boston by 11:30 to get the next train out. Please, oh please, let this work out for us 
Today was tough... Laia (5yo) had her first big dental visit. She did great, though now that the meds are wearing off she's a bit grumpy and ouchie. It was one crown, one deep filling, and 8 smaller fillings. Next visit they'll do the left side (these were all on the right side) which is another half dozen small fillings and one big one. DH picked up a thing of ice cream for her (she isn't supposed to chew for a while) and she had a decent time with the various sedation meds so I'm feeling really relieved.
On a harder note... DH seems to have "lost" almost 200 dollars. He had it in his wallet and now it's not there. :( It was a gift from family to help cover the dental work and I'm in a bit of a panic. Plus dh is really beating himself up... almost in a scary way. Wish us a quick find and a peaceful afternoon.
Glad to hear your little one did well at the dentist. That's a scary place for most adults I know. I hope you find the cash. Maybe it's in a pocket somewhere? washer or dryer? I hope you find it though.
Oh no. So sorry to hear things are taking a turn toward the negative. I hope they come around to letting you be you and live your life the way you want and love you just the same. Stay strong and rely on friends and the positive people in your life for support.
He has a freak accident and pooped in his underpants while out with DH and the IL's-he's never pooped outside of home, and then only in diapers, and it obviously has caused huge anxiety for him..When he (obviously) needs to poop, he needs to stop whatever he's doing-be it playing or eating, and starts crying. Yesterday this went on for hours. It did not seem to be painful, except for today,when he finally went he was pretty much screaming and there was blood in it. He's not constipated and has actually gone every day, normal consistency. I think just since the accident he is afraid and ashamed. Of course we are very nonchalant about it and tell him it happens, and cheer him on when he finally poops...I've talked with the ped's office but am afraid this could spiral out of control fast...I won't go long without getting him into the office to see whichever doc is available, though I am pretty much certain it's psychological.
We're trying to remove all stress about potty, praising any potty efforts, doing scheduled potty visits where we just read or sing while he sits on the potty, we're going to pick up "Everybody Poops" asap, comforting him as best I can...got any "try this" or "don't do this" for me?
It absolutely kills me to see him SO upset and thinking he's doing something wrong.
One of my DD's did this, she was so afraid to go and would hold it like nobody's business. The more she held it the harder it was for her to go. Your poor little guy:( I hope he gets over the fear and maybe after going a few times he will see it's ok.
As for not going on the potty - we ended up doing pants-free days at our house and then dragging the little potty with us to every room just in case. It took 6 hours, the first day, and then a dedicated weekend and it seems to have worked.
I did this pants free and dragged the potty everywhere too. Don't know why but mango seemed to give my DD the urge to go?
And speaking of... I GOT A JOB!
Congrats!!!
So.. I just got home from the ER.. I spectacularly cut my little finger on... get this... the toilet paper holder! Its stainless steel and has a 'flap' of metal that lays on the roll ... I've caught on it before... but never thoguht about it. It's apparently quite sharp as I now have a LARGE V shaped filet on my finger Bled like the proverbial stuck pig and went completely numb. I'm happy the doc didn't want to stitch it though! He gave it a clean and put a few steri strips around my finger to hold things together as it heals. I was also lucky in that it only took an hour from the time i walked into the ER till I was calling Daim back to pick me up lol. (I had him drop me off & go home to hang out with the kids in case it tooka while.. didn't want everyone's day to be wrecked!)
Oh no. I am glad your ok now and didn't get stiches. Hope you heal quickly. Love the hair. I am thinking about going to a shorter style but am so nervous to just do it. Right now my hair is down to the middle of my back, but I would love a sassy cut like yours. I just need to be as brave as you. Looks great!
So....M was not drunk I don't know what the problem was, but he wasn't drunk, so I'm good to go, and he doesn't blame me at all for being potentially upset.
Mamas, though, I need some serious vibes...the weather here is absolutely dismal (well, not yet, but supposed to be) and my first flight was cancelled. So they rebooked me-- through Atlanta, which is having worse potential weather than NYC (my original layover). Pray, light candles, whatever you do, PLEASE, mamas, that I make this next flight. M only has tomorrow and Monday off, and we really, really need to be together. We'll be so devastated if we can't. Please. My flight leaves Norfolk at 5:45am tomorrow and so far it's on time. My next flight leave Atlanta at 8:45am tomorrow and so far, that one's on time, too. I need to be in Boston by 11:30 to get the next train out. Please, oh please, let this work out for us
Sending vibes your way for great flying weather!!
cari-SO LOVE the hair!! OH did I congratulate you on the job?? 
Wish I could do bangs.....I have this very wierd, small section of hair right at the front and middle of my forehead-it's like the follicles are oriented straight up instead of however the others are, so unless my hair is long enough to weigh it down, the hair there goes up in a wave-like bump.
So if I cut bangs, without serious intervention from a hot-iron(which I cannot get the hang of) it sticks up in a bad way.
clay-any sign of the $ yet? HUGE CONGRATS on the job!!!
Maia- and flying has been a big problem lately weather-wise. good luck!!!
sunshine-how'd things go? are you ok??
witchy-continued good health vibes to all of you esp. DH!!
tentative success with DS! Got Everyone Poops, he loves it. Lots of encouragement, potty trips, rewards, and apple juice-today he had a seemingly pain-and-anxiety free poop!!!
OH, keeping the fingers crossed...
Did I ask if any of you ladies have/have had a copper IUD? Got mine put in like a couple weeks ago(ish??) and still having cramps on and off, got pretty bad today. Just wondering if that's normal for some women? Of course nobody's in at the OB, and it's not enough to warrant me having her paged.
love and light to all
NMM~ Things went... pretty much as expected, though not as dramatically as I dreamed up, lol. My mother was unpleasant the whole time, snapping at everyone and refusing to look me in the eye. Everyone else was fine, which means mom hasn't told them yet. She and my best friend are apparently tag teaming me and my best friend acted all normal and like everything was ok, but at the same time not. She acted like she had to act like things were the same as always cuz people were watching. But the part that bothered me is I KNOW she's been feeding info to my mother behind my back and she had the nerve to talk to me like I'm not mad at her. Its all ridiculous and I know there's more to come. Now that the holiday is over, I don't know what my mother has in mind. She's made a big deal about "when the news comes out" on fb... I don't know. I'm glad to be home and away from my family. I don't know what's in store, but its likely to be ugly and I'd like to stay out of range. I can totally see her trying to bring back the burning times and thats not a warm fuzzy thought!
Got mine put in like a couple weeks ago(ish??) and still having cramps on and off, got pretty bad today. Just wondering if that's normal for some women? Of course nobody's in at the OB, and it's not enough to warrant me having her paged.
Honestly, I would have her paged if you are still in pain today. They may need to do an u/s to make sure it hasn't 'strayed'.
O. M. G. We are expecting a blizzard with 12-20". My town is in the worse band for expected snowfall. I pray we don't lose electricity (which would mean no HEAT!)
It hasn't already started snowing (even though they said it wasn't going to start until later!) I wish I didn't have to go out but I absolutely need my asthma med. I didn't realize that it was empty! There aren't any refills on it so I hope the doc is open so they can write another prescription.
I hope Maia is able to make it safely to MA. Not sure when she's expected to fly back home though. That may get delayed. It's going to take a couple days for the state to clean the mess up.
DOK - I'll be thinking about you & roo with this blizzard! Did you get ahold of your MD for your asthma meds? crossing my fingers and sending "power on" vibes to you!
Maia - wishing you safe travels m'dear! More fingers crossed for you and sending safe travel vibes too!
Red- mangos make my kiddos go like no tomorrow, its my cure for someone having 1 too many bananas
Sunshine - Glad to hear the family gathering didn't go too badly. I'm crossing my toes for you (ran out of fingers) that this week is peaceful
Cari - holy moly mother goddess - yowza!! Glad to hear you got it patched up and even got some yummy appetizers too
NMM - yay for poop! (Pain & anixety free!!)
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DOK - Wishing you safety in the coming storm!
Clay - congrats on the job!!
I haven't been able to read the whole thread...but hope the Solstice was beautiful for everyone!
I have been feeling like I want much more spiritual connection these days and yet at the same time, feel so very alone. It is tough not having a pagan community to be with. Although I am in a city where I probably could find people...where I am getting stuck is finding family oriented pagans.
DH got me some lovely pagan books...including Circle Round! I've wanted that book for so long.
We are visiting family in the north and there is lots of great snow. I am sleeping a lot (thanks to a growing babe) and eating a good deal too. We are 12 weeks along now and had a great ultrasound just before coming to visit. Babe is measuring perfect for dates.
I am hoping to get some more time to read...I also really want to get in a routine of devotion every day...not sure when would be best yet.
I haven't posted in a while -- without reading back too far, I hope everyone is having a lovely week, good times with family and friends, safe travels, good health, staying warm.
My mom is visiting now and I have *not* had a meltdown from holiday stress, and probably won't, now that the 25th has past, so this year is already better than last year. Dh is starting a new job soon at which his income could be better or much better or a total bust - I'm trying to trust that he will be ok and that our family finances will rise in 2011, not the opposite. I had two cheques that I was resigned to not seeing till late Jan, if then, come in on the 23rd and 24th, so I'm seeing that as a sign to stay positive. I should be using this slow week between Christmas doing homework, is what I should be doing. And housework.
I've been lighting a candle here and there for you, and for your dh, Clay
. I hope you found that $$, your job goes well, and that things get easier for your family soon.
Wishing you an easy journey, Maia!
What probiotics do you have your dh on, Witchy? I am also currently balancing antibiotics and probiotics - got a supplement I'm taking, plus kefir, mostly. I have been craving blue cheese - are there probiotics in blue cheese? There must be....or maybe I'm just trying to justify holiday overeating, lol!
I made Nigella Lawson's gluten free Nutella cake for dessert yesterday and I have a third of it left. To. Die. For. Sublime. Will be making that recipe again! I need to find out how much a case of Nutella costs, because as I was eating it, I made a resolution (probably divinely inspired) to donate a case to the food bank in 2011 -- morale food.
Sorry you had that bizarre cut, Cari - at least you get out of doing the dishes for a while, I bet....when do you start your new job - has that been settled?
Congratulations on your pregnancy, Singin'! Yeah, this time of year gets me thinking about spiritual issues too, just as much as the usual new year health rituals. One thing I know about myself is that if I decide to do something every day, I am doomed to fail. I don't do "written in stone" routines, in any area of my life. There are things I want to do more - spend more time with crystals,poetry, dreams and divination.I want to do some meditations for prosperity, for getting in touch with spirit guides and tapping into their wisdom - the times that I have done so have been so important and transformative in positive ways; Why don't I do that more?
Had an interesting dream on Christmas eve that may be about a new source of spIritual support, a new guide, maybe or a new attitude within myself. I am reviewing my treasure map and thinking over the past year in light of my word for the year (which was "light") and trying to decide on word(s) for the next year. Dh is arguing for "inspired" . I am partial to "sustainable". Someone on this thread used the word "progress" last year I believe? That's a good one too. Or maybe I want to stay with "light"..... Oh,I'm rambling, sorry. Anyone else considering words for the coming year?
What are your plans for New Years' eve? We will go to our town's festivities, some outdoor/indoor activities for the kids, fireworks.It can be very cold -- they have bonfires and a s'mores making station and usually they have to thaw the marshmallows out by the fire in order to even get them soft enough to force them onto the roasting sticks. But there is an ice slide for the children..... New Years is *our* holiday, not a holiday of family obligation, like Christmas. Remember last year's glorious full moon on New Years? This year's New Years will be a couple days away from the new moon on Jan 3rd. It will be a dark night, hopefully starlit....
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