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Edited by miriam_bat_avraham - 11/13/13 at 7:02pm
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hi ladies. I was hoping to have some good news this morning. CD 15 and bfn. I was so excited to test I woke up at 4:30 and could not get back to sleep. Maybe today will be CD. 1.
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So sorry, rcr!

 

I am 4dpo and am already feeling crampy, even though I am on progesterone cream. I realize cramping can be normal and even good, but for me this seems to be a real problem. (And annoying as heck!)

 

On the happy note, I am more and more finding back my creative side and making Christmas presents and decorations with and without dd. It keeps my mind really positive. I am still reading adoption blogs and trying to think that maybe that will happen some years from now...

 

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hi ladies. I was hoping to have some good news this morning. CD 15 and bfn. I was so excited to test I woke up at 4:30 and could not get back to sleep. Maybe today will be CD. 1.


Sorry to hear that. Have you been feeling any AF symptoms?

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Kyamo (and everyone else who shared their IUI experience) - thank you for sharing the details of your IUI! It's good to know all the nitty-gritty details in advance. I like to be able to prepare for these things mentally, and we're thinking about an IUI in the spring (althought it won't solve our miscarrying problems, it's covered by health care here so if it speeds things up, what the hell).

 

rcr - Oh no! I have been silently rooting for you.  CD15 is still early though....

 

LTB - making Christmas presents sounds so nice and cozy! Enjoy your weekend. We're going to do some holiday baking today, and make some hot pepper jelly tomorrow. I love the holidays! (and the FOOD).  Since I have these extra pregnancy pounds, I might as well enjoy the fod for another month ;)

 

Nothing exciting to report here. CD who knows?  Still having bleeding from the miscarriage and starting to worry about needing a D&C. We have a follow-up appointment next week, so we'll see what transpires.  Trying to stay distracted with planning for my best friend's wedding and surrounded by pregnant people. Y'all know the drill.

 

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rcr--I'm sorry.  hug.gif  I'm 15 DPO, too, and didn't test this morning.  Just didn't want to see a negative.

 

Kyamo, lavatea, miriam, and Jane--Thanks for the input on the IUIs, all of you.  I do have a hard time with paps, and I'm not looking forward to IUIs.  The plan is tentatively to do one after this next cycle, depending on DH's new SA results.  I am just really upset about all this.  I think I'm just going to ignore the likelihood of IUI until it comes up.  DH's new SA results could be really great and we won't need to do IUI.  (Hey!  It could happen.  Theoretically.)  Or it could be so bad that we won't be able to do one, which is really terrible.  Anyway, thanks, and I'm feeling less horrible today than I did yesterday about the whole mess.  I think crying helped.  Which reminds me, I have become so ridiculous in the last year.  I never cried until recently, and in the last six months I've melted down about twice a month.  TTC is just hard, and is completely changing who I am and who I want to be.  Not necessarily for the worse, because it's probably good to be less emotionally bottled up.  It's just an adjustment.  A really big, really difficult-to-make adjustment.

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I went to type my post and wondered can I congratulate anyone today?  I hope to get to congratulate someone for a BFP here ASAP!

 

I am 8dpo and just hanging around and thought I'd say hello.  I have little faith that I will become PG these days.  I haven't really accepted that I definitely won't, though.  My BD timing is unusual this month with twice on my O day and nothing else for possible conception.  Hoping that's a good kind of different. 

 

I just realized that an entire year ago I was attending a Christmas concert in my TWW with enlarged tender breasts feeling very excited because I thought I was PG.  Sigh.

 

 

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Edited by miriam_bat_avraham - 11/13/13 at 7:01pm
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CD 1 . And DS will be 3 this week, which means 2 years of ttc.
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CD 1 . And DS will be 3 this week, which means 2 years of ttc.


hug2.gif

 

I was thinking about a similar thing just yesterday. We conceived DS just before Christmas 2006. At this point DS and any new baby will be at least 4 years apart - way farther apart than I had imagined or wanted. And it could be a year or more from here, you know. It's all just so depressing if I sit and analyze. I need to do better on relaxing and trusting God's timing. Pretty hard for a planner.

 

We've been TTC (in my case Trying To Carry) a baby for a year and a half now. bawling.gif How do you ladies that have been at it even longer stand it? This is killing me. (I've been really feeling sorry for myself this week.)

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I'm so sorry rcr.  2 years, that must be so hard.  

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I have a question for anyone who has been on progesterone suppositories.  If I am not pregnant, will my temp drop and I get my period as normal, or will the progesterone prevent either of those two things?  I do not want to get my hopes up if I have high temps or a late period, and it turns out it was just the progesterone.  

 

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I have a question for anyone who has been on progesterone suppositories.  If I am not pregnant, will my temp drop and I get my period as normal, or will the progesterone prevent either of those two things?  I do not want to get my hopes up if I have high temps or a late period, and it turns out it was just the progesterone.  

 

I am on the cream, but just asked this a couple of weeks ago. Your period will come, although possibly a day or two later. You just stop the progesterone when your period arrives.

 

Since we are comparing... hah... Dd will be 6 years old in 3 months. We have been TTC something like 3+ yrs.... or is it more, I have no idea. However, there was a rather long time in between that we had to abstain due to trying to find the right amount of thyroid meds. There was some adrenal fatique there, too, so had to be on hydrocortisone and then wean off of it. Anyway...it's been a long time...
 

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Hey, if you're doing IUIs you could probably also get some other testing done to see what's causing all the losses, I hope.

 

How long is it normal to bleed? I'd just be so freaked out about the whole thing :( :hug


In two weeks it'll be two years for us. We decided to start TTC on Christmas Day, 2008. I understand. :hug

 

I'm 5 dpo, just haaaaaanging out. Bored. I've been testing out the hCG in my system with OPKs, although I can't tell when it's officially negative. Whatever, I'm not testing for a while. I might test before my blood test next Monday, or not. We'll see.

 

MBA - I've actually had very extensive testing for recurring miscarriages. I started pushing for it after Number 2.  The docs have been able to find absolutely no reason for it. My hormones are perfect, uterus is lovely, health is great, insulin and blood sugar wonderful. We have nothing to work with. My next project is to gather up all the test results from three different docs, go through them with a fine-toothed comb and try to figure out whether they have missed any potential tests. I am also going to begin testing for some of the more 'outside the envelope' stuff like gluten sensitivity, cortisol levels, mould in our home. I'm going to install water filters to filter out the trihalomethanes in our water, and start Reiki or hypnosis. Grasping at straws? You bet! But there's nothing else left to do, and what have we got to lose???

 

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CD 1 . And DS will be 3 this week, which means 2 years of ttc.


Rcr - right there with you. We started trying in Dec. 2008.



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I was thinking about a similar thing just yesterday. We conceived DS just before Christmas 2006. At this point DS and any new baby will be at least 4 years apart - way farther apart than I had imagined or wanted. And it could be a year or more from here, you know. It's all just so depressing if I sit and analyze. I need to do better on relaxing and trusting God's timing. Pretty hard for a planner.

 

We've been TTC (in my case Trying To Carry) a baby for a year and a half now. bawling.gif How do you ladies that have been at it even longer stand it? This is killing me. (I've been really feeling sorry for myself this week.)

 

Lavatea - I'm sorry you are having a crappy week. The good thing (ha! Is there really a 'good thing'?) about TTC is that you just start getting used to it after a while. It just becomes your way of being. But I guess there's a point when you have to let go of that way of being 'cause it's a pretty crappy way to live your life.
 

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I have a question for anyone who has been on progesterone suppositories.  If I am not pregnant, will my temp drop and I get my period as normal, or will the progesterone prevent either of those two things?  I do not want to get my hopes up if I have high temps or a late period, and it turns out it was just the progesterone.  

 


Kyamo - the recurrent miscarriage clinic has me on progesterone after O each cycle, but I am supposed to get a pregnancy test the day AF is expected, so I can stop taking the progesterone asap if I am not pregnant.  I assume progesterone would delay your period, but I'm no expert.  A question for you: when do you start taking the progesterone? Do you use an OPK or temps to determine when you ovulate and just start right afterwards? We've been told to start 72 hours after O, and they don't recommend monitoring with OPKs or a fertility monitor, just counting the days. But I think my cycle has too much variation for this to work.



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Since we are comparing... hah... Dd will be 6 years old in 3 months. We have been TTC something like 3+ yrs.... or is it more, I have no idea. However, there was a rather long time in between that we had to abstain due to trying to find the right amount of thyroid meds. There was some adrenal fatique there, too, so had to be on hydrocortisone and then wean off of it. Anyway...it's been a long time...
 


LTB - Our DS will be 6 or older if we ever manage to carry another baby to term.  I had hoped for kids around 3 years apart. Do you find you are able to just let go of the age difference thing? I',m starting to care less. I mean, what can I do at this point? It is so totally and completely out of my control.

 

AFM: Just made some hot pepper jelly with friends and had a lovely time. At least Christmas is a bit of a TTC diversion (unless you feel extra pressure from family at this time)....
 

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MBA - Oh, and to address the bleeding after miscarriage thing: apparently two weeks should be fine, but after that you should see a doc. I've just started having cramps again today and am really starting to panic about needing a D&C. Have any of you had a similar experience (miscarriage that just didn't seem to end, followed by a need for intervention)? Rcr - Yours just never really got started on its own, right?
 

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Edited by miriam_bat_avraham - 11/13/13 at 7:01pm
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I have a question for anyone who has been on progesterone suppositories.  If I am not pregnant, will my temp drop and I get my period as normal, or will the progesterone prevent either of those two things?  I do not want to get my hopes up if I have high temps or a late period, and it turns out it was just the progesterone.  

 


Kyamo - the recurrent miscarriage clinic has me on progesterone after O each cycle, but I am supposed to get a pregnancy test the day AF is expected, so I can stop taking the progesterone asap if I am not pregnant.  I assume progesterone would delay your period, but I'm no expert.  A question for you: when do you start taking the progesterone? Do you use an OPK or temps to determine when you ovulate and just start right afterwards? We've been told to start 72 hours after O, and they don't recommend monitoring with OPKs or a fertility monitor, just counting the days. But I think my cycle has too much variation for this to work.

 

Collieflower - They have scheduled my pregnancy test for Friday, but my period would normally be due on Wednesday, so that is why I am asking.  Did your temp drop at all?  As for when to start it, my instructions were to start the evening of the same day as the IUI, and continue until I get a negative blood test.  There was no estimating O date, since I was triggered.

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Edited by miriam_bat_avraham - 11/13/13 at 7:00pm
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Thread Starter 

I love my husband! 

 

Some guy at work was saying something about vacations, I think?  Anyway:

 

Random Coworker: Who cares?  It's not like you have kids or anything.

Awesome Husband: Yeah, it's not like we haven't been trying to two years, asshole!  Thanks for nothing!

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Hi Ladies.  rcr, hug2.gif mama.  Those were some really promising symptoms!

 

Sorry to come back here with some bad news, but you know, the BSL will always be there for those who need it (unfortunately.  Why can't every woman who desires a child be able to get pregnancy easily?  We're such an infertile species...)

 

Anyway, I went in for 6w3d ultrasound on Friday and I have what appears to be an empty sac.  No yolk, no "pole" or heartbeat.  And measuring about 4-5 days behind.  And right beside it, a big "bleed" which looked like a big blob on the screen.  Obviously, we're pretty devastated.  Doc gave us a 90% chance of miscarrying.  Even if the sac shows a healthy baby on Thursday (which is my followup ultrasound), I think the bleed might also be a big problem.  I go back and forth between being horribly sad, to being hopeful about next round.  We'll have to wait two months to try again with a Frozen Embryo Transfer.  Two months seems like forever.  Now I'm simply hoping for a baby in 2012...

 

So, right now I am just hanging out in depressed limbo.  No spotting or bleeding.  Occational cramping but not worse than AF cramping.  I am still on my progesterone.  After Thursday, assuming the worst, I'll talk to the doc about D&C or that pill.  I lean towards D&C because I don't want to be at work and start, or on a plane, or on Christmas morning at the in-laws house.  It's very scary to me.  But scheduling is probably going to be a problem since we're traveling next week for Christmas.  Spending the holidays with a failed pregnancy inside me is something that will be hard for me.

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