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 I hope it's okay that I post, I've been lurking for a few months b/c ttc was too depressing to think much about. This was cycle17 & finally this morning BFP!! DH and I both started crying, it was so unexpected at this point, just a month or two from starting Clomid. Thrilled, a little freaked that it might not stick.. So grateful. Baby dust to everyone!

 


Congratulations!  What an awesome Christmas surprise. smile.gif

 

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Scarletjane-- Sometimes I feel like I say "Oh hun, I'm so sorry" so many times that it will lose meaning. I can't imagine how hard this is for you-- you (and other women here who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss) have a very complicated relationship with TTC, much more so than I do, and I know that what I go through can feel insurmountably difficult at times. And like I said before... this time of year is going to be hard for you for many years because January is when you lost your little daughter, so please, be very, very gentle with yourself and take the time you need to grieve. You deserve it. :hug
 

Kinza (and everyone else)-- I never got a chance to check the boards before going to my parents' house last night, so I ended up doing what Jane later suggested-- I had a few drinks! That made it nice and clear that I am not pregnant. My mom was fine; I think I just overthink these things. We didn't talk about babies directly, although she did give me a Anne Geddes "cute photos of newborns in strange places" calendar. I'm still deciding how I feel about that and what exactly I'm going to do with it... it's a bit much, but I do see where she was going with it. Like I'd want to see babies all the time because I'm trying to have one. I don't know.
 
Kinza, also-- I googled RE for you so you didn't have to. :) It's very common and very fixable, it seems! Some women reported their doctors prescribing Sudafed to their DHs to fix it, which was odd to me. I imagine there's some sort of interaction with the medication that does... something. (See, this is why I'm not a doctor, lol.) Also, it can often be caused by varicoceles, which are apparently a problem for 40% of men with fertility issues, and those can often be fixed as well (sometimes with surgery and sometimes not).
 
Overall, the information I found seemed far from fatalistic, so I bet you and DH have some good options for correcting this issue if in fact RE is what's causing the problem. :)
 
Also, a friend of mine had a baby. Today. She was originally complaining about having a baby on her birthday (in four days) and so close to Christmas. Well, hah, be careful what you wish for. I'm going to go see them tomorrow morning, though. I can't resist the call of a tiny, squishy baby. It's a little boy and he's probably adorable just like his big brother. Oh, and for reference, she and I were at one point commiserating about fertility because it took her 7 months to conceive this one after conceiving her first on the first try. Hey, when it comes to people I can talk to in-person, I'll take what I can get.

 

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Originally Posted by justthinkn View Post

 I hope it's okay that I post, I've been lurking for a few months b/c ttc was too depressing to think much about. This was cycle17 & finally this morning BFP!! DH and I both started crying, it was so unexpected at this point, just a month or two from starting Clomid. Thrilled, a little freaked that it might not stick.. So grateful. Baby dust to everyone!

 


 

Congrats, hun! 17 cycles, you've definitely earned it by now!

 

 

 

AFM: Had a blast with the family the past two days, now we're back home decompressing. Poor DH, from a small academic family of 3... there must have been 30-40 of us at my aunt & uncle's house tonight, and we are LOUD and my mom & aunts like to drink cosmos at parties so they keep getting louder, and louder, and louder... lol. DH gets overwhelmed by us sometimes and I don't blame the poor guy.

 

I'm on CD 3 and AF is... practically gone. It was like this last cycle, too, and several others before that, I believe. Heavy day, light day, three days of spotting. I'll take it. Does this happen to anyone else? It's easy to manage, at least.


I'm glad you had a great Christmas, and drinking up sounds like it was the way to go.  Sorry about the calendar, though.  And thank you so much for looking up info on the RE thing.  I just didn't have the will to read more disappointing information.  But, as you said, it doesn't sound so bad.  We don't know that that's the problem, but the reproductive endo thinks it probably is.  So yay for some good news. 

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rcr - Sorry your holiday has been so crappy. ITA that there is nothing worse than a sick man! They are just like sick babies, but minus the cute factor. :P

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kinza- we have the same problem. We are not at 0%, but less than 5%. His sperm has improved fairly easily with supplements, even though he does have the penis vein thing (whatever it is), and has not had the surgery. It is not the end of the world, it just sounds like it is. Ill write out his list of supplements if you are interested (its a lot). I really believe that a serious regemin of supplements can do a lot for sperm.

We are just coming out of the flu. No bd'ing for us, so I guess that means on to ivf or iui. I am actually looking forward to this but worried about missing work because of monitoring. All my classes are in the morning, and we don't get sick days. We just cancel classes which pisses students and their parents off and sometimes results in bad course evaluations (the semester before I go up for tenure - not good).

Off topic- I made ds a Waldorf doll for Xmas and got him an ergo baby doll carrier. It was the perfect gift. And- it is snowing in Alabama! DS is sleeping right now but if he is not up in an hour I am waking him up to go outside and play snow is a huge deal for southerners- it only happens once every three or four years).

MBA - glad you at least got to drink.

Scarletjane - my heart breaks for you. I am sorry.

Everyone else- I have Ben reading, not posting much because I only have my phone.
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Oh and one more thing, kinza, I have gotten pregnant with dh's less than 5% normal shape sperm twice, so you don't need huge improvements to get pregnant, any little improvement will help.
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kinza- we have the same problem. We are not at 0%, but less than 5%. His sperm has improved fairly easily with supplements, even though he does have the penis vein thing (whatever it is), and has not had the surgery. It is not the end of the world, it just sounds like it is. Ill write out his list of supplements if you are interested (its a lot). I really believe that a serious regemin of supplements can do a lot for sperm.

We are just coming out of the flu. No bd'ing for us, so I guess that means on to ivf or iui. I am actually looking forward to this but worried about missing work because of monitoring. All my classes are in the morning, and we don't get sick days. We just cancel classes which pisses students and their parents off and sometimes results in bad course evaluations (the semester before I go up for tenure - not good).

Off topic- I made ds a Waldorf doll for Xmas and got him an ergo baby doll carrier. It was the perfect gift. And- it is snowing in Alabama! DS is sleeping right now but if he is not up in an hour I am waking him up to go outside and play snow is a huge deal for southerners- it only happens once every three or four years).

MBA - glad you at least got to drink.

Scarletjane - my heart breaks for you. I am sorry.

Everyone else- I have Ben reading, not posting much because I only have my phone.

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Oh and one more thing, kinza, I have gotten pregnant with dh's less than 5% normal shape sperm twice, so you don't need huge improvements to get pregnant, any little improvement will help.


rcr:  I do hope you feel better soon--we had swine flu last year and it was the worst thing I've ever had--way worse than pneumonia or bronchitis or any other type of flu.  I can't imagine having to deal with a child that sick and my miserable, helpless husband!  And thanks for sharing about your DH's sperm.  (LOL)  If you don't mind, I'd like to know about his supplements.  DH can't necessarily take everything out there, but we can ask his endocrinologist what would be ok to take out of a list of supplements next month at his diabetes appointment.  I am dosing him with antioxidants, which has helped with the sperm-clumping problem--no clumping at all now.  Does your clinic offer very early hours?  That might help with not missing work while monitoring--mine will open up early for that stuff during the week and will make special hours on Saturdays to do monitoring/IUI/IVF.  Enjoy the snow!

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Just found out that my other stepdaughter is expecting, both of them are in the early stages. I am very happy for them both, but I feel so old, and the fact that I didn't even have a cycle this month doesn't help. I feel like a dried up old woman greensad.gif (a FAT, dried out old woman) I have put the 8 pounds back on, and the holiday eating is not helping.

Just ignore this, I am just feeling sorry for/bad about myself. It has been a carb fest for me. I need to get a grip.

Still no af, maybe I will never have an af again and this is it for me.

ETA, both stepdaughters are preggo, didn't make that clear redface.gif
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Kinza, fertilaid; pumpkin seed oil; flax oil, Maca , l-carnitine ‚ selinium, coenzyme q10, l-arginine, c, e, and b.

Yea, he seriously takes that many pills. He jokes that he can skip breakfast because there are so many.

Beloved, sorry Hon, that must be a really weird mix of emotions. I would send you a hug if I could find the damn hug smiley. Oh, that tree hugging smily is always right next to the reply space, so I'll just pretend it is a beloved tree treehugger.gif
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rcr hug.gif

Just go to 'My Profile'

Go to edit account details

scroll down to preferred text editor, it will probably be on Rich Text editor (which doesn't allow you to type in smilies.

Change it to BB code Editor.

You should be good to go, the smilies will show up to the right when you reply, and you can type in the words ex : lol for lol.gif : hug for hug.gif

This is a Question and Suggestion forum thing, but I thought I'd share.
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rcr - Sorry your holiday has been so crappy. ITA that there is nothing worse than a sick man! They are just like sick babies, but minus the cute factor. :P


Thanks. We are feeling a lot better. And yea, I would take a sick child over a sick husband any day. He was horrible for a week straight. I am watching a friend's cats, and I sent him over there to spend a few hours with the cat just to get rid of him for a while (they have cable and we don't even have a regular TV, so it is not like I had to twist his arm).

Oh, and welcome monkey (did I say that already).
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rcr hug.gif

Just go to 'My Profile'

Go to edit account details

scroll down to preferred text editor, it will probably be on Rich Text editor (which doesn't allow you to type in smilies.

Change it to BB code Editor.

You should be good to go, the smilies will show up to the right when you reply, and you can type in the words ex : lol for lol.gif : hug for hug.gif

This is a Question and Suggestion forum thing, but I thought I'd share.


Ah ha! Thanks. I was thinking of just making you all trees when I wanted to hug somebody. Maybe that cold guy when I want to smile...since he is always right up at the top too. But that works much better (right, I couldn't type in smilies ).
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Hi everyone,

 

Sorry about the lack of personals. Just like always, I do read everything.

 

First dh was sick, then dd and now I have been sick for days already, with no end in sight.

 

I am having a pretty bad week (issues with dh within my head). I found a beauuutiful baby boy waiting for adoption. He needs surgery within about 9 months. Part of me wants to book a home study right now.... Part of me thinks I am nuts, we don't have the money to go beyond that, etc. But if you saw the face of this little guy, you'd know why I feel like flying there right now. I am starting to think the money would come.

 

Anyway... Dh seems (I think) to be showing a green light to adoption in general... some day, but I don't have much hope he will say "Let's have the home study done, asap." This is actually part of my issue: He has another 3 years of school left. Meanwhile, my life is at a stand still due to infertility and is likely to remain that way. You know.... he probably does not want to make the final decision while in school because all of his time and energy goes into school. (I think it is a rather typical "man thing": DH is only able to concentrate on one thing at a time.) But know what? There will NEVER be a perfect time. After school he will be looking for a job. Then he will be starting in a new job. It is all stressful in a different way. I just want to shake him. There are babies waiting right now. Dd wants to be a sister now. I would like another child now... no, wait... yesterday, or years ago. ;) I am home and have time right now! Dh did not help much at all with dd when she was a baby. We were both fine with that. (He did not taken care of her once at night. Mama and boobs were needed for that job.) So... What's he got to lose...? Well, okay, I do realize it is a huge decision. I do get that.

 

We chatted with my inlaws yesterday, and dh made a joke about us adopting. He then said "See, I got the idea out there." Only a week or two ago he had not wanted me to tell his parents. Now, it seems, little by little we are telling them, at least that we are open to the idea. That makes me so happy! (How this goes with my rant above, I have no idea. It must be that dh is likely open to adoption, just not ready to start. I don't think he understands how long the process can be.) The thing is... My MIL was born to fund raise. She has started and volunteers in a project for which they have fund raise continuously. If she took this child (whever she or he is or will be) in her heart, great things could happen. It is just that she does not need to, you know. It is not her job to find the money for us.

 

In any case, MIL has never asked what the situation is with our infertility. I have, years ago, said something about things just not happening and not knowing why. Since then, though, it has not been discussed. I think that as they learn that we are thinking about adoption, they may also realize that biological children really may never happen again. Although they may think we have some new information about the infertility, and that is what is making us turn to adoption. We just love children..... that is the real reason. We would still be happy to have more biological children, but would definitely, I think, like to adopt more than one, no matter what.

 

So... cycle day whatever here. Ha ha. I don't care. I am sick and tired (both meanings of the frase), nowhere near ovulating and I am tired of trying and want to stop. But can't... Not until we really are in the process of adopting. Maybe dh still needs some more months of me crying here. LOL. (You know what I mean. TTC is not easy for the husbands, either.) My case is so clear to me: More and more I don't even want to be pregnant. That is shocking to me!

 

If you start to feel like this thread is no longer the right place for me, please let me know. I know I rant....a lot!

 

Wishing you all lots of peace today!

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LTB, ranting is fine hug.gif Of course you belong here smile.gif The BSLs are behind you. I am so happy your DH seems more egreeable, this is good news. I have high hopes for you.


MBA, sounds like a good plan to have a few drinks to detract questions, perfect. I'm glad things turned out well for you.

Everyone else wave.gif


Me? still no af (I'm going to only announce when af is here from now on, seems unlikely. My temps are also still up. I wonder what's going on. DH was a meanie last night, after finding out his DD was pregnant. He doesn't like her bf, and SD is apparently doing drugs (opiates, pills? We don;'t know, we think that. We are all very worried. he mom has kicked her out, and my DH vows never to help her out with money again. She tried to get pg with this guy, and she has major issues too complicated to get into. I try to stay out, drama on that side of the family.
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Thanks Beloved! I was so annoyed at the ridiculousness of the new smiley situation, I rarely use them anymore. Where the hell is your AF? Maybe O was delayed for some reason? irked.gif

O for me is today. I had a lot of O pains yesterday gearing up. I had decided to have yesterday be the last day of obligatory BD and felt really calm about it...Now I'm thinking I should get one more in. DH should be home early today, poor guy. Looks like cd 17 is my new O date. It's been that for the past 3 months or so. I would love to have a set O date (wouldn't we all?) Then I could just have the obligatory sex on cd16 and get on with my life for the rest of the month.

Hugs to everyone who needs them. I'm trying to get on with my life, but starting to realize that after 2 years of TTC, I just don't have one anymore redface.gif
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enigo, I know how you feel about not having a life, I felt that way, and then we switched gears. I am not saying to do what we did, it worked for a while, and then the whople longing, TTC thing has come back, now even more with this scare. You know what's pathetic? even with a negative blood test, there is a good feeling when my temos remain up even though I know even if O has been delayed, we have not BD much later in the cycle, so there is no chance.

I started maca again, and may take vitex. I am also taking DHEA (to improve egg quality in someone "older")


Fer some reason, now it feels like a race. The person next to me at work, and now both of my SD are preggo (I am happy for my SDs) I am wary about the one SD though, who is having drama.


I will feel so left out if the girl at work gets knocked up before me, but likely she will (she probably will the first month) eyesroll.gif

It's probably just as well, there is tension between DH and I after last night. When he is upset or preoccupied with other things, he is an a$$ to me, and sometimes I am fed up greensad.gif It hurts me at any rate
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grouphug.gif to everyone...  I think I've read most of the thread (but it's 1:30am here, and we've just driven for the better part of 13 hours....  so I have no energy for personals.  I did read enough to know that we all should get together for hugs and to drink the copious amounts of wine I came home with.....  I'm currently sipping a Turkish Delight liqueur yummy.gif).

 

 

Well....  we had a fantastic weekend at the wineries - except for my brainfart in the middle of Christmas dinner late Saturday afternoon, thinking I'd left the oven on at home when we left Thursday morning - 900kms away...  so DH rang a friend to come around and turn the mains power off (the box is outside the house).......  we got home tonight and found that I had indeed turned it off duh.gif  ...................  

 

 

DH blamed it on "pg-brain".  He has been convinced for the last week that I'm pg....  and he's not once been wrong before.  

 

Well - tomorrow I am having triple cream brie and balsamic with fresh baguette, a large selection of deli meats and sushi and a whole bottle of red wine.

 

DH is devastated.  I'm devastated that he is sad..... and that I feel so insensitive....  but as for the other - I'm so over the whole thing.  I just don't want to know anymore.

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I know how you feel about "the race". There have been so many for me. Initially I was TTC with a friend of mine who has a daughter the same age as my son. We thought we could do it again the same way. Ha! I say! She got pregnant the first month...her cute little girl is 1 1/2 now. When I got pregnant and lost it three months later, it was a weird sort of race. (Must get pregnant fast so our kids will not be so far apart in age). Then I got pregnant at the same time sandwiched in between DH's two sisters. (Must get pregnant before they have their babies!) They have their babies now. I have to go visit them in a couple months while everyone fawns over their babies. (They are awfully cute).
Then I got pregnant at the same time as another good friend....lost that one too. She had her baby a couple weeks ago, mine was due last week.
Truthfully I have no one to race with now, everyone has had their baby, I am past all my previous due dates, and DS will be so much older than my next child that he will probably never give the baby the time of day.
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ugh greensad.gif I'm sorry, enigo....The 'race' sucks, esp when you are being lapped mecry.gif It has to get better hug.gif

music, I'm sorry your DH is sad hug.gif

I'm off to start my day, returning stuff, and picking up DD's new laptop (she bought it with the help of her dad) joy.gif (she won't be using mine anymore joy.gif
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Musicoholic I always get pregnant on the cycles I do everything "wrong". fingersx
The last cycle I was pregnant, I absolutely had to dye my hair and get a tooth filled. I had let the tooth go for nearly two years as I struggled with thinking..."Oh I might be pregnant, I'd better not get Xrays or novacaine"

Beloved So far it hasn't happened that someone who was TTC when I started has had a second since then or announced another pregnancy.....but if anyone does.....Oh I cannot be held accountable for my actions! I know one of DH's sisters that has a 6 month old should be pregnant any second.
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Beloved So far it hasn't happened that someone who was TTC when I started has had a second since then or announced another pregnancy.....but if anyone does.....Oh I cannot be held accountable for my actions! I know one of DH's sisters that has a 6 month old should be pregnant any second.


So sorry, enigo! I hear you...

 

I have quite a few friends with two or 3 kids younger than our dd. The friend who was TTC at the same time as we were, now has a 2.5 year old. TBH, I don't think it ever gets easier. I can breath for some time, whenever the friends have little ones. Then  become afraid to talk to them and hope they at least announce through e-mail, not while we are talking. I am so sick and tired of this. That, I know, is a feeling we all know so well!

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