December 30 Somethings TTC #1 - Bajingo Juice Christmas Club

[ValH]

Conceiving #1 in Our 30's December
Last Month's Thread


If You Would Like To Join, Welcome!
Please give us your age, when you started TTC
and a link to your chart if you have one.
and feel free to share a bit more, we are a really friendly group!

Active Members

AmandaMom ...........age 31 ...TTC since 03/10 profile 7
Amyfemme ..................age 35 ...TTC since 10/10 profile 12
AmyPDX ..................age 30 ...TTC since 03/10 profile 6
BabyHopesCO ........age 34 ...TTC since 07/09 profile 9
Bel718 .......................age 31 ...TTC since 01/10 profile 12
birdie.lee ...................age 30 ...TTC since 04/10 profile 12

boggles.....................age 33... TTC since 02/2010 profile  12
Bootsvalentine ........age 31 ...TTC since 06/10 profile 12
BrownLioness.........age 31 ...TTC since 08/11 profile 11
Calycanth.........age 29 ...TTC since 03/10 profile 12
Goldmoon333 ...........age 32 ...TTC since 02/10 profile 6
HDSM ..................age 32 ...TTC since 10/10 profile 12 due 08/2011
Hykue ...................age 30 ...TTC since 08/10 profile 12
JlyGrnMigt ...................age 31 ...TTC since 09/10 profile 12
JustKiya ...................age 33 ...TTC since 03/07 profile 6
Kinza .........................age 31 ...TTC since 11/08 profile 10
Laggie .......................age 35 ...TTC since 09/09 profile 11
Mainebirdgirl ...........age 31 ...TTC since 06/10 profile 9
Mommel ....................age 37 ...TTC since 03/10 profile 6
Mrs.Nap515 .............age ?? ...TTC since ??/?? profile 7
Rubygirl36 ..................age 30 ...TTC since 10/10 profile 10

Shellhawk..................age 36... TTC since 05/10 profile 12
TaxLady ....................age 34 ...TTC since 08/09 profile 12
Tickletoes .................age 34 ...TTC since 08/10 profile 12
Towgirl ......................age 3? ...TTC since 09/10 profile 10
ValH ...........................age 31 ...TTC since 01/10 profile 12
Viola.Swamp .............age 30 ...TTC since 02/10 profile 7
WTHamI? .................age 30 ...TTC since 03/10 profile 9

 

Pregnant Graduates

2010's ...... Let me know when to move you...
 

Tear78 ....................... age 31 ...after 2.5 years EDD 08/11 profile

meander ....................  age 37 ...after 13 months EDD 08/11 profile

Teetina ...................... at age 31 ...after 11 months EDD 08/11 profile

Fertilemyrtle ............. age 32 ...after 4 months EDD 07/11 profile

LivingSky ................. at age 30 ...after 6 months EDD 07/11 profile

annaconda ............... at age 31 ...after 2 months EDD 5/11 profile
Shyentist ................... at age 30 ... after 7 months EDD 5/11 profile
Bolobear ................... at age 32 ... after 1 months EDD 5/11 profile
Nutter ................... at age 32 ... after 1 months EDD 5/11 profile
Elonwy ................... at age 32 ... after 3 months EDD 5/11 profile
Blanca78 ................... at age 32 ... after 13 months EDD 5/11 profile
lauraska .................... at age 32 ... after 4 months EDD 4/11 profile
cb718 ......................... at age 33 ... after 2 months EDD 4/11 profile
Shabbers .................. at age 38 ... after 3 years EDD 4/11 profile
amp4piano ............... at age 3? ... after 5 months EDD 4/11 profile
Neuromancer ........... at age 33 ... after 1 month EDD 3/11 profile
rmiriam ...................... at age 31 ... after 8 months EDD 3/11 profile
jtc77 .......................... at age 32 ... after 1 year EDD 3/11 profile
IHeartMyFamily ..... at age 31 ... after 1.5 years! EDD 2/11 profile
Jenne ........................ at age 32 ... after 1 year! EDD 2/11 profile
•Adorkable• ............. at age 35 ... after 2.5 years! EDD 1/11 profile
PixelGeek................... at age 30 ... after 1 month EDD 11/10 profile
  

 

Mommy Graduates

2010's

Monarchgrrl, orandalady, grateful301, kmlcu, mollytommy

2009's

violet_, Suka, CareCare, Sju88b, shantiani, Peace+Hope, lissame72, KikaKika, Masel, zenproofstella, Wanting2BaMom, jacappell, joyakshi, Octobermoon, EarthMamaToBe, Cellist, berryblndgirl, beth28, carmen358, marinak1977, makeminepink, humptydumpty, Lillitu, Catubodua, PoetryLover, cocoanib, welshwife08, Katie34, lilviolet, starkyld, Poetgirl, Somegirl99,Taylah, Houla055

2008's

Amahrey, jencat, Ms Sig, christigpa, ~sweet pea~, Nashvillemidwife, artsake, kJad29, elspethshimon, heinz28, nonsenseprecious, nalusj, musiclady, quasar & smartycat, tourist, penstamon, amymckinney, corikodjo, honeybunny65, fjkelly, tiggernorton04,sky_and_lavender

2007's

Hazieluna, ATD Mom, Brightside, K9sarchik, Amberbella, Shibababy, jpiper0430, MajorGroover, Grace24, Hezzy, CowsRock, Kharen, Nico DeMouse, xenon, SarahJen, Suzywan, Phillybama, jentina, Jujubie, Writerbird, Melanie_rabbitbarn, Cicely_m, PinkOrchid2,Cking, Mandy 74, Anouk, GISDiva, Raingyrl, ChristyM26, Starlightsound, Palma, Rhon, 11yrsNoKid, Desilou, Nony, AngelaM, hae703, Radiowave, FiberLover, Scalpel, Zucchini, Funnygrace, VeganCupcake, Illaria

2006's

Farmama, PiePie, Dctexan, Greengrey & Beckyphry
 
 

List Maintenance:
 

This #1 In Your 30s Thread welcomes everyone who's interested to participate in this thread. You are welcome to come and go as you are able, just please be aware that in order to keep the list of members manageable, the username of those who haven't participated in the thread within the last 6 months will be removed. If your name is removed, you are always welcome to rejoin the thread at any time. Graduates are listed indefinitely for the joy it brings!

Threadkeeping:
 

Members are most welcome to take a turn at threadkeeping for a month. It is easy and fun. All help you need will be happily given.
 

Edited by ValH - 12/27/10 at 10:30am

[ValH]

Hi ladies, and happy December! 

I hope y'all don't mind me starting the new thread. 

I'll try to add some holiday cheer to it later today.  I'll also catch up on the last part of the November thread later.  For now, I'm off to work. 

Have a great first day of December! 

[Taxlady]

Thanks Valh!  I didn't volunteer for threadkeeping because I'm leaving the country on the 25th and didn't want to leave you all hanging.  Wow - November went by fast!!  I have one more Christmas gift to buy, the house is decorated (it will be weird that I will take down the decorations on the 24th) and I'm hoping that all I get for Christmas is a BFP!  I can test anywhere from the 22nd (birthday) to the 25th.. 

Merry sticky dust to everyone!

Oh Meander, I didn't know you were flying.  I hope you can rest a lot today.  I know that very feeling of call or don't call - once you rest you'll be able to make clearer choices.  XOX

[LivingSky]

Taxlady: Have a great trip :) I hope you get your BFP for Christmas!

meander: Hope you are feeling better now that you're done flying and hopefully home and rested!

ValH: Thanks for the new thread, I'll be hanging around to read and chat!

 to everyone!

[TickleToes]

Thanks for the new thread!

[ValH]

Catching up from the end of last month’s thread…

TickleToes – I agree, NYC is a great place to visit, but no where I’d want to live.  When I was younger, I always wanted to live there, and DH actually did live there when he was younger.  But now that we’re older, we’ve decided it’s nice to have a yard, and trees, and all the stuff that it’s hard to have in NYC.  Plus, there’s something to be said for the slower pace of life here in eastern NC! 

Teetina – That’s interesting about the sensitive cervix and passing out!  No one offered me an explanation of why it happens, they just said “it happens sometimes.”  And I totally agree with your comment about babies kicking from the beginning!  I just had that conversation with a friend who just went in for her first ultrasound – she was paranoid that she wasn’t really pregnant because she couldn’t “feel” it.  The ultrasound reassured her, but it would be great if there was just a light bulb or something to make it all more clear cut. 

Meander – I’m glad to hear that you are home, and I hope you’ve gotten a lot of rest and were able to make a decision on if you should call the doctor.  I can tell you my sister and her best friend both had bleeding early in their pregnancies, and both ended up being okay.  My fingers are still crossed that everything will be okay for you.  You have been in my prayers! 

Taxlady – Not to be nosey… okay, to be nosey… where you heading on the 25^th?  Somewhere exotic and fun, I hope!  If you already mentioned it and I missed it, sorry!  I really hope you get your Christmas BFP – wouldn’t that be the best gift of all? 

LivingSky – I’m glad you’re hanging out with us still!  It’s inspiring to have graduates in our midst… it reminds me the BFPs really DO happen! 

AFM – I’m over feeling sorry for myself today.  Instead, I’m on to feeling hopeful that the HSG  cleared some clutter in my good fallopian tube, and that the Clomid is helping me O on the clear side.  I found out yesterday that my MIL will be visiting for about a month in February – that means I won’t have to cook for an entire month – yay!!!  I haven’t seen her in two years, so it’ll be good to have her back in town – or even in the country.  And maybe we’ll have a BFP to tell her about by then – she would be thrilled. 

[HDSM]

Awh crud, my draft got erased

Well anyhow - Hi everyone!  The lurker is back again!! 

ValH - I'm so sorry you had to go through that painful procedure, but at least now you can start moving forward!!  YAY!!!   And thank you for starting the December thread!! 

LivingSky - So glad to see you still here!

Taxlady - when do you get the results of your test?

AFM - I got a BFP!!!!    I got it 11/24 but haven't shared because I am too nervous.

Meander -  I finally decided to post again because maybe we can support each other!!    I know what you mean about the wanting to know everything is alright, but not wanting to know if it isn't.  I haven't made my appointment and don't want to until after Christmas - last time I went through a month of vaginal ultrasounds with them saying come back next week over and over without just telling me outright something is off.   It took four weeks for them to finally say sorry.  That killed me.  This time, I'm going to wait until I'm past 8 weeks.  I am on a very similar schedule (due date approx 8/4/11 for me) and am hoping for the best! 

Sticky Beans!

Love to you all!! 

[meander]

HDSM--Congrats! I'm so happy for you! I'm sending you all sorts of sticky vibes!!! :) How are you feeling, symptom-wise? I think you are right to wait for 8 weeks to do the US...early ones sure haven't gotten me much, anyway.

Thank you for the new thread, Val!

Taxlady-- Awww, I always hate undecorating the house when we travel for the holidays--so I have basically stopped decorating unless we are hosting. I always get sniffly putting away ornaments before Christmas, or laying away the menorah before all the lights get lit... I'm a bit sappy, I guess. Just a bit. :)

AFM: Curiosity won out--as it always does! I'm so bad at accepting that I can't know things. I called the OB's office this morning; they were concerned, and got me in this afternoon. The result is uncertain. Maybe things are fine. Maybe they aren't. I haven't miscarried, yet, but I still might. (She estimated about 40% chance of me miscarrying this one. Still positive odds, but that's pretty high.) We could see the fetal pole and yolk sac, but not a heartbeat. It's still really early, and that might be okay--she said she couldn't find her own baby's heartbeat at 6w, and not for lack of trying! There's also a distinct possibility I O'd a few days later, which isn't much of a big deal unless you're trying to find details on a 2mm embryo...I can justify it ten different ways, but it would have been so much nicer if we'd seen a little flicker and I didn't have to justify it...

So basically I just go in again next week, hoping to see a heartbeat...(oh, please!) and in the meantime hope there's no more bleeding. It's gonna be a long week. I am really struggling hard with the anxiety.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry to lean so hard on all of you, but man, would I be a real wreck without you! Maybe one of these days I'll stop falling apart and have more to give back. *hugs*

[Calycanth]

Congrats, HDSM!    Wishing you a happy, healthy, and joyful nine months!

ValH - Thanks for starting the new thread!  I'd be happy to do it next month if you need a break.  Glad you're feeling better today!

And to everyone else!  Nothing interesting going on here, so I'll just leave it at that.

[Calycanth]

Meander - Big to you!  Hang in there!  I hope you see a little flutter on that screen next week.

[Taxlady]

OH WOW! CONGRATULATIONS HDSM   that is wonderful news and I am glad you came back to share.  I'm sending positive wonderful sticky vibes to you!! 

OH MEANDER - And I thought the TWW was hard.  I'll be here to keep you company when ever you need it.  Don't stress.. all will be well!  

P.S. Love the color scheme, VALH on the front page.  My parents live in Paris for work, we're going to go see them. I'm so happy you are feeling better than you were yesterday, I really took the news well - I thought you did too.  I think you're getting the answers you need.  I went to bed last night thinking how terrible it is that we have to wait a year before they start doing the other tests.  That's too bad - something is wrong with the system.  Anyhow, you're moving forward!!  Oh and 7-10 on the blood test.. so next Monday or Tuesday.. OWW.  (one week wait)

I'm so glad the pregnant ladies still hang out with us.. it's fun to hear how you are doing and I probably wouldn't stalk the DDC, I have a hard enough time keeping up here.  

[Bel718]

Hello Ladies - December is here?  Wow...  Too fast.  for December and beyond!  eggies!

Responding from last thread:

Thanks Calycanth!  I work at an STD clinic...when we call its usually not good news, so I was going off that...but I guess she can't divulge too much in a message either.  And I'm not a fan of waiting either..  Glad you went for your annual!

ValH - sounds like a plan!  Sorry about the HSG test, but glad it helped figure something out for you. Wishing you a Clomid BFP this month!

Teetina and Meander -   I wish TTC/BFP thoughts weren't always on our brains...well I always think about it.  Thinking of you both!

HDSM - Congrats! 

AFM - nothing new.  Planning on starting prog. on 12/10 so we will see what happens next month.  Although my temp has been higher than its even been in the past 36 days yesterday and today...that would be my luck for my cycle to shorten and have missed O... Don't think DH will be into getting a hotel room while hes on nights just to BD...

[birdie.lee]

Hi everyone and happy December!

Congratulations Heather!

Taxlady ~ Wow, Paris sounds lovely!  Hope you and all of us get Christmas BFPs.

Val ~ Glad you are feeling more confident and hope your tube got cleared up from your test and the Clomid does its magic.  Love the new holiday color scheme.  I'm green!

Meander ~ Lots of hugs and supportive thoughts for you and your bean. 

Hi Cal!

Bel ~ Hope your timing works out and you get obvious ovulation signs.

AFM, I am waiting to join my DH in our new home and hoping I don't O before I get there.  Also our new health care plan doesn't cover any sort of infertility treatments/doctors/medicine, so I feel pretty sad about that.  Although I knew that was probably going to happen, it made me cry to actually read it.  DH said not to worry and we aren't there yet so I guess that is what I'll do.  Easier said than done.

Sorry if I missed anyone, I certainly didn't mean to leave you out if I did!

[JlyGrnMigt]

Taxlady - Paris sounds awesome! Plus, it's always good to have someone in a non-US time zone posting at funny times to keep the rest of the group on its toes.  I'm happy to pass that honor to you!

Val - Blocked tube...wow.  How does that even happen?  One is all it takes though, so let's hope the egg comes out on the right side!

Birdie - Timing everything when you're moving around sucks. We need an egg lasso smiley for you too :)

Meander - I'm so glad the doctor's office took you seriously and got you in right away.  I'll be thinking about you this week.

HDSM - Congrats!

AFM - I'm in the same boat as Taxlady, sorta.  My next period is due the 19th of December, so if it doesn't come I'll have enough time to test and write out Christmas cards addressed to Grandmas, aunts, and uncles :)  I finally changed my alerts on MyMonthlyCycles to say "Like Bunnies, I tell ya!" instead of "Be extra careful" and "Time to test!" instead of "Get your cup ready."  I'm back to feeling hopeful instead of distraught, and I hope the third time's the charm!

ETA: Just noticed I'm "scheduled" to ovulate on the new moon.  That's good, right?

Edited by JlyGrnMigt - 12/1/10 at 7:37pm

[ValH]

HDSM - It's good to see you back, and with such great news!  CONGRATS!!  Let me know when you would like to be moved to the Pregnant Graduates - that's the highlight of being the threadkeeper.  :)

Meander - I will continue to keep you in my prayers over the next week, and my fingers are crossed that everything will turn out great for you.  And there's no need to apologize for "leaning" on us - that's what we're here for!  I'm glad you are still hang out with us - I learn a lot from your experiences, and your strength and courage. 

Taxlady - Paris at Christmas sounds fantastic!  I hope you have a great trip. 

Bel - Just to update you on the Clomid - I made it through with no major side effects.  I did have a few mood swings, but were able to keep them in check.  I had one night of hot flashes, too, but nothing major.  I hope your plan works the way you want it to (with the progesterone).  I know timing things can be tough, especially if one of you works different shifts.  Good luck!

birdie.lee - I understand your feeling about the insurance plan!  I got a call from my doctor's office saying that my insurance will cover the appointments necessary to diagnose infertility, but they will not cover any treatment of infertility.  I cried when I hung up the phone.  DH told me not to worry about it, we'd do what we need to do.  The good news is that most doctor's offices offer payment plans (or mine does at least), so there's always that option.  But hopefully you won't have to worry about what your insurance covers, because you'll be getting your BFP soon! 

Jolly - I'm not sure how a tube gets blocked... I've read it could be scar tissue from an old infection, fibroids, endometriosis, etc.  Who knows.  But like you said, at least I have one!  Better than none.  Good luck with your new moon baby-making!  I'm not sure, but it sounds like it would be good luck! 

Calycanth - HI!  :)

AFM - Still waiting to O.  Nothing to report.  I should O this weekend, hopefully.  Well, kind of hopefully... DH is in a soccer tournament, so I'm hoping he won't be too tired to BD - he'll be playing 2 to 3 games per day.  So a delayed O might not be a bad thing... but I'll take what I can get! 

[ValH]

Where are the 30-something ladies today??  And where are boots and amyfemme??  Haven't seen you ladies in a while! 

Okay, just bumping us up on the thread list.

Have a great evening! 

[Calycanth]

Taxlady - Paris at Christmas?  Sounds fantastic!  I'm going to exotic eastern Washington state to see my family. 

Bel - I can see why you'd think a call from the doctor would be bad news, lol.    I work at a women's clinic, and we don't leave messages for patients at all.  Good luck with the progesterone!

Birdie - Insurance companies seriously suck.  I'm sorry.  I hope you're able to join your DH before you O, but if not you can hang with me in the January 2011 hopefuls' club. 

Jolly -  Glad you're feeling hopeful.  I like your alerts!

AFM - I miss birth control.  I'm sure all those synthetic hormones probably weren't good for me, but oh, how I miss my cramp-free, four day periods!  I've had awful cramps for the last 24 hours.  And my nutty MIL called last night and threatened to kill herself again.  I'm so tired of this.  DH sent the police to check on her, which initially made her furious but seemed to have a calming effect overall.  She was much more reasonable after they left.  Watching DH deal with her just breaks my heart - he's such a kind person, and she's so manipulative.  She will literally scream at him for hours, even though he's not the one she's mad at.  I really wish she would find a therapist.

Val, I'm jealous of your awesome MIL.  Wanna trade? 

[bootsvalentine]

HDSM, congratulations! We'll all be thinking good thoughts for you.

meander, glad you're home safe. Sorry about the uncertainty, I can't even imagine what that must be like. Why is flying so exhausting? I hope you continue to rest up, we're all thinking about you!

ValH, our fearless threadkeeper, thanks again! I am in the same situation as Doc Taxlady, I am going to be away from the internet from the 24-1st so I didn't want to abandon my post. I really hope that with the Clomid and the info about your tube things start to happen down there!

Taxlady, I don't know if you consider yourself a good writer, being the mathy type, but I certainly hope you do your best to describe your experience of Paris at the holidays! How cool.

Calycanth, I am sorry about your crazy MIL. Crazy in-laws suck. Mine are not as bad as yours but not great, either. My FIL didn't speak to me at our wedding (his wife just refused to go). So I am a bit familliar with the drama.

I know I missed some people but I've got Thursday teacher brain.

AFM, I am thinking I am noticing some effects of the soy, a little bit of mood swing and I feel like I'm gearing up to O earlier! -OPK yesterday, though. This is the first time I've worked a 5 day week since my illness and I'm really feeling it. It's so hard to go back after a break! Only two more weeks and then I'm off for another two weeks. I'm really excited about spending Christmas in Duluth with my grandma. My grandpa passed away last year and I think the holidays are still hard for her. She made sure I had so many wonderful holidays when I was younger, I am looking forward to making this really special for us. But dang it, I live in Arizona, it's going to be cold in MN! I need to get some boots and stuff. I used to have them, we moved here from Boston four years ago, but I am the thrower-outer in the relationship. Ha, that's a good question for everyone.

Are you the saver or the thrower-outer in your relationship?

:)

p.s. Just so you know, the bin where I have all my OPKs and HPTs is now labeled Bajingo. :)

[Bel718]

Thanks birdie.lee!  We'll figure it out someway!  As will you - sucks about your insurance.  DH is right...you aren't there!

JlyGrn - hopeful is wonderful!  New moon is a great O time!

ValH - great!  I will take mood swings but I am a mess already.  This will be interesting!  Thank you! Good luck this weekend!

Calycanth - Thank you!  I miss BCP at times too.  I knew when AF was coming!  Sorry again about MIL, glad it seemed to help.  I hope she find one...

Boots - Hope you are relaxing when you go home.  Its always hard after being sick to jump right in. Two more weeks! Come on O!  That is awesome for you and grandma...my DH was very close to his grandparents growing up and it is hard for him around the holidays. 

As for your question - I am a SAVER!  It is awful...I know I shouldn't save certain things but then I always find a reason to keep them.  My DH motivates me to throw away though...when we got married I was amazed at the stuff in my closet...from high school!

[amyfemme]

Hey Everyone!  I've been thinking about you all in my absence!  It's been a roller coaster of a month for us.  More about that later...

Meander - I am sending you gobs of love and support as you wait out this week...I just know your little bean will stick and give you a light show! 

Boots - I'm sorry to hear that you've been ill...I'm counting down the days with you, sister!  2 1/2 weeks to go!  I love my rugrats, but breaks are gooooood!  I'm so glad you have a nice trip to look forward to.   Oh, and I'm the thrower outer!  My DW is way more emotionally connected to things than I am.  When it's time to purge, I gladly do it! 

Caly - I'm sorry your cramps are dragging you down...  Maybe if you didn't have the added stress of you MIL, things would settle down for you in your nether regions.  So beyond crappy that you have to deal with that.  Ugh...    Hope things get better for her (and, in turn...you!) very soon.

Jly and Taxlady - Here's hoping you both get your Christmas wishes this year! 

Birdie and Val - I hope those eggies have excellent timing this month! 

Bel - I hope you have success with the progesterone...I started using the natural cream last month and it extended my LP for sure! 

Congrats to HDSM!!! 

And, thanks for hanging around LivingSky!  Glad to know things are going great! 

AFM...you all don't know, but we had another donor picked out before the donor we worked with last month...but he lives 80 miles away, so I really was having a hard time wrapping my brain around the scheduling nightmare if we were to work with him.  Well, after last month's news that our local donor needed to take a break (for at least three months, and most likely much longer...), we decided to give our out of town guy a try.  So.....we took two trips up to visit him and his precious two year old princess (who he had through a surrogate) this week!  We insemmed  on Saturday and Sunday, and then returned on Tuesday since I hadn't O'd and still had bajingo juice!  It looks like I O'd yesterday morning which makes our timing decent - certainly for the Tuesday insem!  I'm really trying to be very zen about things this time around...definitely going to do everything I can to not read into every stinking symptom!  So, I'm on CD20 (FF will give me my O tomorrow when my temp is still up).  So, my 2ww will begin tomorrow...as will the next round of p4 cream.  Come on LP!  Getting excited about the holidays...getting our tree on Saturday and the decorating will begin!   Big hugs and love to everyone!