December 30 Somethings TTC #1 - Bajingo Juice Christmas Club - Page 3

[amyfemme]

Thanks, Birdie and Caly!  It's so nice to know that I can check in and see what's doin for you all when I get the chance!  Hope the move goes well, Birdie!  Glad you're enjoying your tree, Caly!  I'm out here in "sunny" California...waiting for a non-rainy day to go and get ours! 

Hiya, Taxlady!  I hope you DID catch that egg!  And, I'm sorry, but WTF is up with your MIL?  I would be hard-pressed to keep my opinion to myself with this one.  So completely mean and not cool.  I feel for you and your DH...what kind of mother would say that to her son?  Aren't we lucky to have the opportunities to embark on motherhood ourselves so that more children can grow up to feel loved and supported?  I'm sorry you have to deal with that.  My students in the hood would say..."Lady...don't be a hater!" 

HDSM ~  I hadn't heard about the itchy nipples symptom before!  That could get annoying, but we'd all be SO grateful to have symptoms, in general!  Glad you're sticking around!  You too, Teetina!!!

Bel ~  I'm sorry you got sick AGAIN!  I feel ya, honey...just as I thought I was in the clear, the sniffles reared their ugly heads....  Trying to ward them off with the nutty pot (my DW swears by it!).  I WILL NOT be sick on my vacation!  And, hope you're not either! 

Val ~ Agreed...the waiting is torturous!  Ughhhhhhh....  C'mon sticky beans! 

I, too, am thinking about Meander.  Sending her lots of positive energy wherever she may be!

AFM....I'm 7dpo....isn't it more than that, yet??????  I've had some symptoms (headaches, dizziness, tender breasts, a bit of nausea), but am still really trying to take it all in stride this time around....of course, I'm still hopeful and staying positive, but not reading into every little thing this month.  Would you believe that I'm really going to wait to test until the 14th???  I am....I'm purposefully not going to buy any more tests than the one I have in the house until after I take that one!  Not caving to the pressure!  On a semi-other note...my DW had every intention of watching two preggo DVDs with me last night (From Conception to Birth - Discovery Channel - and Pregnancy for Dummies)....but they put her to sleep!  LOL!  She woke up when the second one ended and proclaimed that she really does want to watch them.  She's just the cutest...and totally overworked right now!  The movies were pretty good, though!  

Take good care everyone and EWBJ, Os, and sticky beans for all! 

[amyfemme]

Meander!!!  Thanks for updating us!  Glad you've been trying to lay low...although, I'm sorry to hear about your heater woes!  I highly recommend the fireplace (and I'm a spoiled Cali girl who    really doesn't need it but one month a year!).  You've definitely got my positive thoughts and energy, girl!  Tomorrow will be great, and you'll be so excited to rush home and update us! 

[Bel718]

Hey Ladies!

Teetina - its great to hear about those symptoms!  (That is fantastic!)

ValH - that would be great, but since I'm so optimistic!    Just kidding - good will happen either way.  I will make it work...that's what we have to do.  Hope you are doing great!

Taxlady - Breaks are good!  We all need those in this TTC road - getting discouraged is unfortunately another side effect, but have to stay positive (I know its hard, too though - I am guilty of not always being so.).  Thanks to you and all the ladies here it makes things easier.  I'm sure those OPKs are fine.  Sorry to hear about MIL's email - how awful.  All that matters is that DH knows different and so do you.  We've missed you!   I am acutally taking Progesterone orally to induce AF - I think she might come on her own though.  How exciting...haha

Meander - Glad to hear you are doing good!  Only good news!     

Thanks amyfemme!  No more this season.  I'm done!  I've tested at 12dp-what-I-thought-was-O since January and its always hard.   and  to you and everyone!  May play the DVDs in the morning?  I always fall asleep in bed when trying to watch something.

Hope everyone is nice and warm!

[Taxlady]

I'm thanking God right now that you (Meander) are still pregnant!  I have said my prayers with you in mind for days now and I hope things go well today.  I hope the bleeding was your bean really burrowing nice and tight into you. HDSM & Teetina, you too, you stay pregnant and healthy!  In my scared time away I really held on to the fact that you ladies are miracles.. 

Amyfemme - how can it only be 7 days??  My goodness.. it is a bit shocking to hear only 7 dpo, I guess I wasn't away that long.  It seems like you should be holding a baby at this point.   OH HOW THE TWW TAKES FOREVER.. In sunny southern California yesterday.. it was 78 degrees and I had to use the a/c in my car.  Where are you going on vacation?  

Bel718 - I guess I hope the pg cream works for bringing on AF.. I am confused by the long cycles and figuring your O.  So may I ask a question?  Ok here it is.. you get your period, right, then your cycle is "normal" and you O?  Or does it take a long time to O as well as get through the LP?    I know a girl that got pregnant right away the first time, then she had the lap band surgery and she's really having a hard time.  I think our bodies just want to be healthy, not skinny.  

SO here is the kicker about my MIL's letter.  IF it weren't for the middle aged lady school administrators who keep telling my DH that they love his hair (I assume because their husbands are bald ) maybe he would have gotten a hair cut.  BUT HE GETS SO MANY DAMNED COMPLIMENTS.. they are perpetuating the situation.  I personally, would love him to have a bit shorter hair, but he is 35 and if he said anything to me except "you are so beautiful" there would be problems - so I keep my opinion to myself because I just love him so much I can't really see his hair.  This lady is so in dark ages, her and my FIL were worried about terror attacks on us because we used to live in a predominantly Jewish neighborhood.  So, the lesson here is, consider the source - in this case, the source is prejudiced - so sad.  The best news is that in 16 months they are moving to Florida!  Luckily, our baby to be won't have to be around the hatred much.  

[Bel718]

Wow Taxlady!  Glad they are moving to FL for you, DH and little one.  To answer your question (of course you can ask!) - I wish I knew!  My cycle has been irregular since stopping the pill (regular before and during).  I have had positive OPKs but the doctor is not sure if I am actually O-ing.  I get EWBJ randomly although last month it seemed to coincide with a temperature increase.  In the end its hard to tell when I O so determining LP has been hard.      I agree with you!  I've never been skinny in my life and prefer healthy!  My cousin had gastric bypass and had no problems getting a BFP though - twice!  Not sure.

[ValH]

Meander – I’ve been saying extra prayers for you today!  I hope your doctor’s appointment went fabulously! 

Amyfemme – Funny that you mentioned the pregnant DVDs… I was bored yesterday and found a really disturbing four-minute video about a baby developing and being born.  It’s kind of artsy, and the baby in it truly looks like an alien.  I emailed it to my friend and told her I was concerned she might be growing an alien inside.  It was truly a bizarre video.  Anyway, good luck in the 2WW, and resisting the urge to test!  Hopefully when you do test, it’ll be a BFP. 

Bel718 – Are you testing today or tomorrow before you start the progesterone?  My fingers are still crossed that you won’t need the meds… but if you do take them, my fingers are crossed for a quick return of normalcy to your cycle. 

Taxlady – Yay for the ILs moving to Florida!  From what you’ve told us so far, that seems like a true blessing.  Sometimes a little distance is the greatest medicine of all. 

AFM – I had the oddest dream last night.  I was 10dpo (which seems soooo far away at this point), and I got a BFP.  Oddly enough, though, I wasn’t excited, I was just skeptical.  I kept telling DH that the test must be broken, it can’t be true.  I then took another one, but I messed it up somehow and just got an error message, so I was freaking out because there were no more tests (evidently there weren't stores to buy more tests in my dream, either).  I guess the skepticism comes from the fact that I haven’t seen two lines on anything but an OPK since I started trying 12 cycles ago, so maybe I think it’s just something that happens to other people, not me.  After that dream, I’m tempted to test at 10dpo… but I know me, I won’t. 

[meander]

You guys!!! I got good news!!!

My little fetal pole is measuring 6w4d, with a heart rate at 164. 164! I started sobbing while she had the wand 'up there' still, and let me tell you, that does not make for a stable U/S image. Oops.

But OMG yay OMG I'm PREGNANT! With a BABY!

My new due date is 7/31/11. I had thought it was 7/26-27 by my guess at O...but this fits my odd chart as well, really, though it means my first BFP was at 8dpo with a blaring + at 12dpo--it's also possible the measurement is off by one or two pixels, honestly. It all works for me, and 5 days either way is nothing.

Wow! Heartbeat! Yay! And I have little u/s printouts! I think I must stick them on the fridge.

I'm totally bowled over. I really had been hoping for the best, but I was mainly mentally just prepared for the worst. It's a bit of shock, now.

(I had to wait *three and a half hours* for my appointment today b/c the doc was stuck at the hospital. I don't care now, but man, were those hard hours to live through...how livid would I have been to get bad news after all that?)

[bootsvalentine]

Oh meander, what a huge relief! I am so glad you got through those hard hours and got good news. What kind of crafting have you been up to? Hope you and your DH are basking in this relief.

Val, thanks for thinking of everyone. How is the clomid going? When did you O? I forgot we were cycle buddies, did you figure it out yet?

Taxlady, you too, when did you O? I am confused myself. I also want to send my condolences to your huz. He sounds like an awesome teacher, he must be if the admins love him, and it's such a petty thing. Your MIL sounds like a control freak.

anyfemme, I totally teach in the 'hood, too :) Here's hoping for you guys this month, so glad you got the donor situation handled.

Bel, it's plenty warm in AZ!

AFM, I had COPIOUS EWBJ a few days ago (first soy cycle) but I never got a positive OPK. But I am having post-O symptoms now. I am just feeling a little down lately about ttc because I am not sure how stable our relationship is. I feel like I don't even belong here since we don't have an airtight marriage, why are we trying to have a kid. I keep hearing all of those people in my head talking about how parents and their issues screwed up a kid and why did they have one in the first place. As a teacher, of course I've said that myself a lot. Sigh. Despite that we managed 3 BD sessions, which seemed like a lot but I know it isn't.

All of my close friends are so preoccupied now, I am feeling lonely. My one friend totally lost her mind and had an affair, she is all about herself now which is good in some ways but not in others. My other two close friends have infants and I don't feel right taking up any of their time, really. Should saddle up and go to knitting group tonight and see some other people, even if I'm not super close to them, but I'm so tired. Once again, thanks for coming to my pity party, please take a favor.

[Bel718]

ValH - aw the 2ww dreams!  Or should I say nightmare - at least when you woke up you knew that there are plenty of tests out there!  I have to say I would probably act the same way in reality and take a couple of tests anyway.  I am testing tomorrow...I think AF is coming on her own (tender breast, some cramping) but I will take the Progesterone if it doesn't come-she needs to fit our schedule.  That would be great if I didn't need the meds, but I'm ready to start! 

meander -   So wonderful to come back to that!  Patience is already tough as it is - great news melts that away!

boots - I'm on my way!    Our weather is supposed to warm up a little.  50 would be great!  Those OPKs may not catch LH surge sometimes, so don't feel down.  You caught the wonderful EWBJ!  You got 3 in and thats great!  As far as air tight relationships go - I honestly think that everyone goes through that...I did with my DH months back and pondered the same thing.  At the end of the day as much as we get into it at times, I love him to death and 'for better or for worse' right? Is it bad I don't think there are perfect relationships?  Thats what makes us human...  Again this road is rough and it can be a bit draining - don't forget how important it is to take 'boots' days.  It is ok to be selfish!  I will take a favor!  Can I eat it?

[meander]

Thank you guys for all the support--I love you all!

Bel718: That's a VERY sweet looking dip-and-rise pattern you have there for yesterday and today. I'd be tempted to question FF's O date for you, but that doesn't change the fact that you have one really pretty chart, there!

Tickletoes: Your chart looks lovely and stable--I envy those of you who have even, predictable temps like that! It's so much easier to figure out the temp shift. It's a really promising looking chart, anyway, and I hope it pans out as well as it promises.

ValH: Looks like you had great timing this cycle, now here's hoping the proper ovary was at work. :) And after that dream, I know I would not possibly be able to resist testing at 10dpo! Your willpower far exceeds mine, though. :)

Taxlady: Your MIL does sound like a piece of work...just wow. So glad they will be moving away, though I expect you wish it were sooner! And, umm, any 35-yar old guy who still has a healthy head of hair might as well flaunt it while he's got it....(DH is starting to get thin, and he definitely favors a shorter cut than he used to because of that). Seriously though, it's HAIR, how freaking trivial?!? But hey, not every kid needs perfect grandparents!

Amyfemme: Here's hoping those symptoms just keep getting worse for the next 8 1/2 months! :)

Boots: The one cycle I tried OPKs I never saw a real positive (and I did get pg that cycle, so I KNOW I o'd). I don't think they work as well for everyone, or maybe some brands work better for different people? Dunno. But you sound so discouraged, and you shouldn't be...I can't speak to the strength of your marriage, of course, but I do know that you would be a fabulous mother! *hug*

I know that's not everyone, but it's a bit of a start. I'll try and catch up more tomorrow.

AFM: I have made a grand total of 6 pairs of earrings, 2 bracelets and a necklace, started knitting a scarf, and filled/decorated 6 glass jars of spices for stocking stuffers over the last couple days. There's LOTS more to do before Christmas, though I think tomorrow I'll take a break and maybe spend my non-napping time cleaning the poor house, which has gotten a little tawdry-looking over the last week or so. Then, oh bliss! I am going to get a massage in the afternoon. I love a good massage more than...well, anything, honestly. If I had unlimited income the first thing I would do is hire a full-time masseuse!

*hugs* and *love* and *babydust* to all--I can't wait for everyone to join a DDC, even if it isn't mine!

[ValH]

Meander - I am SO happy for you!  I literally got a little teary eyed reading your post about the doctor's appointment.  After all that you have been through, you deserve to bask in the joy of a healthy little baby growing inside of you.  Enjoy your massage! 

boots - I am so sorry that you are feeling down and discouraged.  I know that marriage isn't easy, and I think lots of couples (maybe even all) go through some difficult times.  And TTC can definitely add to the stress and not help the tension.  But, as my sister keeps telling me, you have keep your eye on the prize (I want to punch her sometimes when she says it, but she's right).  You will make a fantastic mother!  And, I'm sure this period of strife in your marriage will pass... just keep remembering why you married him in the first place.  Lots of hugs!  And I agree with Bel, edible pity party favors are the best.  :)  Oh, as for when I O'ed - 12/6, so I'm 4dpo... only 4....

Bel718 - That's a FANTASTIC looking chart you have there... I'll be stalking today to see what the test results say. 

AFM - 4dpo.... so boring.  I'm off work today, though, and plan to go Christmas shopping, so yay for that!  I'm just waiting for the temp to make it above 30 before I venture out.... brrrr...

Edit... Okay, so maybe 4dpo isn't so boring.  I just looked at what my temp was this morning... super high!  I don't know if maybe the Clomid has made my LP temps higher (I posted that question in another thread, so hopefully I'll get an answer).  Either way, it's very odd.  I've never had a temp that high unless I'm sick, and I'm completely not sick, I feel great!  Huh.  Here's my chart link, if anyonen wants to offer a guess as to what it means, or if it's just a fluke. 

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2e5d89

Edited by ValH - 12/10/10 at 5:08am

[Bel718]

Thanks meander and ValH!  Hopefully I will catch my O next time since my chart may be helpful!  (I am not so good at analyzing so I wil be needing help...)  You are a busy lady meander!  Massages are wonderful!  Val - I thought we would hit 50...our 'warm up' is actually to the 40s. 

AFM - BFN this morning.  I usually get emotional about it, but its been 11 months of them and next cycle I hope the meds help me lasso my eggie. 

I start the Prometrium pills tonight for 10 days to induce AF so we'll see!

Hope everyone is well!

[Taxlady]

MEANDER

Boots.. I'm sorry you are feeling lonely and down.  My marriage is not peaches n cream everyday.. but I agree with ValH, when I feel really badly about it I tell myself to think of my wedding day (which, incidentally was a disaster due to the IL's).  There is a reason I married you, DH.. and for as long as it lasts I'm going to be your friend.  My best friend and I are growing farther and farther apart.. that's hard too.  I'm on my way to the pity party There are so many times I wish I could just have all of you sitting in my living room.  We could all craft together! 

Bel - sorry about the BFN.. but I'm a little excited to get you moving again!  I hope the pills are easy for you and I can't wait to start chart stalking you. 

ValH - I love that chart.. I have my hopes up!  Keep dreaming, I've heard good things about the premonition dreams!!    Have a great day off.

I feel bad about posting that it's in the 70's here when you guys are talking 30-40's.  I MISS SNOW SO MUCH.  4 years ago, I was living in Colorado.. and it's the snow I miss the most.  Loved every flake.. so I'm a little jealous you all have white holidays.  It's a little different having the holidays with palm trees everywhere. 

[meander]

Val: I have no idea about that temp. Could you have had an active sort of dream before you woke and temped?  I'd just be inclined to assume fluke, I guess? *shrug*

Bel: Sorry about the BFN. Your chart looks really 'normal' to me...though pretty long leading up to O, it really looks like a good temp shift after O and a fairly normal luteal phase. I know that hasn't been your experience so far this year, but maybe your cycles are starting to regularize again?

[Blanca78]

Just had to jump in here and say hi. I've been lurking on and off and thrilled for recent BFPs and keeping my fingers crossed that the rest of you get good news over the holidays!

And Meander--I am beyond happy for you. Congratulations on your wonderful little heartbeat--and it's FAST!

AFM, hard to believe I'm already almost 21 weeks. Doing great, though--had our "big" ultrasound today. Our doctor wrote the sex on a card for us so we can decide later if we want to know--for now it's still a mystery.

Lots of baby dust and holiday good cheer to all of you!

[Bel718]

Thanks Taxlady!  (That smilie made me literally laugh out loud - so cute!)  I can't wait to have my chart stalked!  I like hearing about nice weather so don't feel bad.    It actually snowed a little here today.  I can deal with flurries...not the crazy snow that kept us home though!

Its ok meander!  Thank you - I hope so! 

ValH - I am not great at chart whispering, but I noticed your October chart had a 98.5-ish temp  Maybe just a fluke?  Help me learn!  ...we want higher temps right?  I have to laugh...I had a higher than ever temp yesterday. I'm curious - chart whisperers where are you?

Thats great Blanca!

[ValH]

Taxlady – No need to feel bad about the weather in the 70’s… I live in eastern NC, so it’s not unusual for temps to be in the 50’s or 60’s here in the winter.  Unfortunately, we’ve had some kind of cold snap that’s kept temps in the 30’s.  We’ll warm up today and tomorrow, but getting back to the 30’s next week.  We even had about two inches of snow earlier this month – super unusual for us!  I only like snow on the weekends, when I don’t have to drive and can just sip hot chocolate and read a book. 

Blanca78 – Thanks for stopping by – it’s good to see you!!!  I’m glad you are doing well. 

Bel718 – With my chart, 98.5 is as high as I normally get with my LP, so something as high as 98.74 could mean something… or it could just be a fluke.  The downside of TTC if overanalyzing EVERYTHING!  It’s supposed to be patterns that we are looking for – like if my temp stayed super high for several days.  When you start your new chart, I’ll definitely be stalking to see how it goes for you! 

AFM – Weird stuff going on.  My temp plummeted this morning (not too happy about that).  I had some cramping overnight last night, and this morning woke up to brown-tinted CM.  I’m hoping it’s not my normal pre-AF spotting starting exceptionally early (I’m only 5dpo).  Ugh. 

[Taxlady]

VALH - 5 dpo and a little spotting - COULD THIS BE???  IMPLANTATION SPOTTING???  I sure hope so, I really want your BFP for my birthday!!   Isn't there also something called a triphasic chart that includes a temp drop at implantation?  I'm no chart whisperer, but when I read your post that's where my thoughts went.. please please please!

Blanca78 - I'm sure glad you stopped by!   I'm very very happy you're doing so well.. and wow.. already 21 weeks!  That's great!!  On the other hand, you must be iron willed, to be keeping your baby's sex in envelope - wow.. I'm not sure I have anywhere close to that kind of will power.  I hope the  brings you one of these  or one of these !  (ok, that may have only been funny to me )

(on this note I'm going to ask the rest of the 30's to make a pact that we all promise to check in like Blanca78 did - isn't it so nice that even the graduates come back to support us?) 

Ms. Bel718 - I'm with Meander.. I think your chart looks good.  It's just how long it is - I have a friend that has long cycles - prometrium really did the trick and although she has to keep supporting her cycle, the doctor has no worry that she'll get pregnant when they are ready to.  GOOD LUCK!!  

And thanks.. now I don't feel so bad about talking about our weather.. because when Valh mentioned snow and hot chocolate.. I felt like this..  a little green with envy!  

OH I LOVE SMILIES!  HAPPY SATURDAY!!  

AFM:  Sore bbs.. that hasn't happened since like September, which tells me one thing.. I think at the very LEAST.. my cycles are coming back from that iron deficiency.  

[ValH]

Okay, so I've gone from my brown-tined CM, to actual spotting (meaning the need for a panty liner, just for peace of mind mostly).  And I'm cramping still.  So either I've started spotting at 5dpo (two days earlier than I've ever started spotting before), which would completely SUCK... or there's another alternative that I don't want to say because I might jinx myself (but Taxlady already said it).  Is 5dpo too early for implantation bleeding and cramping??? 

Taxlady - I promise whenever I graduate, I'm going to keep checking in, for sure!  You can't get rid of me easily!  And yay for the sore bb's.  I'm glad your cycle is starting to feel more normal again!  Fingers crossed that those sore bb's won't go away for the next nine months!  :)

[TickleToes]

Originally Posted by HDSM 
 

Tickletoes - Don't hang it up yet!  Sore boobs and itchy nipples were the symptoms that made me take my test on a whim and TA DA there was my BFP!  So don't give up yet! You might be suprised!!

Both have been so very sore and the left one has especially been itching like crazy! But my temps plummeted yesterday and today and my boobs aren't bugging me as much, so I'm expecting AF to show up any minute. I'd love it if she shocked me and stayed away though!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Teetina 

I just wanna give a good cheer to Tickletoe's and Val's uteruses (uterii?). GO GO GO, IMPLANT THAT BEAN! I'm hoping you both have some good news to celebrate this new years eve. :)

Uteri!?! This made me giggle madly

Quote:

Originally Posted by meander 

You guys!!! I got good news!!!

My little fetal pole is measuring 6w4d, with a heart rate at 164. 164! I started sobbing while she had the wand 'up there' still, and let me tell you, that does not make for a stable U/S image. Oops.

But OMG yay OMG I'm PREGNANT! With a BABY!

Yay! I'm so glad to hear that everything is going well!

Originally Posted by ValH 

AFM – Weird stuff going on.  My temp plummeted this morning (not too happy about that).  I had some cramping overnight last night, and this morning woke up to brown-tinted CM.  I’m hoping it’s not my normal pre-AF spotting starting exceptionally early (I’m only 5dpo).  Ugh. 

Here's hoping that you've got some implantation bleeding going on!

I feel like I haven't been around in forever. I've been swamped and needed a little break from baby boards. I'm pretty sure AF will start tonight or tomorrow... Monday at the latest. In some ways, that is a relief... it will be the start of a normal cycle. And its supposed to snow here... so when AF does decide to show, I'm hoping to be able to stay home from work with a cup of spiked cocoa!