(x-posted in breast feeding beyond infancy)
I spent the day crying yesterday after our well-toddler visit. My ped, who BFed her own kids to 18 months and was always supportive of me, raised her voice at me and said "I always told you he was MALNOURISHED!" She told me I need to stop nursing him during the day. She yelled that, "He is almost 2 years old and nurses like a 2 month old!" And the thing is, it's true. My kid eats, but he is super-picky. He doesn't eat any snack foods that other kids eat, like cereals, for example. He eats a lot of chicken soup with egg noodles, organic chicken sausage, avocado, sprouted grain bread, some beans, hummus, potato, and some coconut yogurt. The biggest issue is that he has a dairy allergy, so cow's milk products are out for us. I always thought I was doing a good thing by nursing him om demand because of the calcium, but now I am doubting everything...
He is in the 30%-45% for height, so no concerns there. But he is only 20 lbs. and his head is at 4.7% at 18 inches.
But he is brilliant! Ahead on all his milestones (started walking at 9 months and is now talking up a storm), super-active, happy...Could he really be MALNOURISHED?!? That word just freaks me out.
My biggest point of contention is that he was born small (just under 7lbs. with a (lol) small head at 13.5 inches). So, his head circumference, for one, seems to be growing fine on his own curve. Not to mention that my DH is 5'9", only 135 lbs, and was always really really really petite, even in childhood.
Why did she yell at me?!? Do I really need to step it up by nursing less and thereby forcing him to eat more?!?
I am doubting everything, even more after the same ped told me she lets her kids have McDonald's once a week to "maintain their weight".
Sorry this is so long. I am really distressed. Thanks ahead of time for any advice on whether to wean or not, and the like...