Ds is 6, in first grade. He is bright, has SPD leading to attention and "benign" behavior issues, and is not an easy kid to teach. I get it.
I work in Special Education in the schools. I know how many people respond to tricky kids - special education or not.
People who do not try to teach ds love his charisma and spirit. People who do try to teach him do not love it. I understand. But I think the saddest thing for me is for people to not love him. I mean, I know I'm his mom and nobody would love him the way I do - but he is such a good person and so smart and funny and creative, I just wish people would see past the "difficult" moments (which really aren't that extreme) and appreciate him for who he is and try to see his abilities rather than consistently underestimating him or writing him off.
On the phone with my mom tonight (who also works in Special Education), my heart broke a little when she told me that he's probably the kid that teachers breathe a sigh of relief for when they hear he's sick. She was actually trying to support me in something, rather than trying to be critical, which made it sting all the more because I couldn't just write it off as a nasty comment (which she doesn't aim at my children...just me from time to time).
I just needed to vent a little. I know that things could be a lot harder for him/us, but this kind of thing would probably make any mother's heart hurt.