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post #141 of 597

Lofty - Lol about my siggie, I hadn't read it before. :)  And :thumb on the checked out style at counseling. 

 

It's waaaaaay too quiet upstairs right now but I wanted to pipe in to Poppy, yes to getting help and :nod to being choosy about who you see (that's the hard part of course).  :grouphug

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A low mileage week for me these days is 33 miles. I kinda like it in a sick and twisted way.




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loftmama--glad it went well and you got some validation. Sorry it took so much of your time though!

tjsmama--yay for the $3 more!

Nick--Target has some decent cold-weather running stuff by C9 right now. I just picked up a fleece for $15, but they also have vests if that might be a better solution for you.

tutu:--my fav is my Garmin 305.

Spouses: they can be so clueless and unintentionally rude, can't they? I'm still mad about his behavior over out Thanksgiving trip. Nevertheless, I'm on week 4 of my attempt to not gripe, to not remind him about stuff he's forgotten, etc. It's not helping. I don't need to be thanked for what I do around here, but his needless griping about any little thing has to stop or I'm going to explode.

Loving the cold-weather gear ideas.

I've been wearing tights or loose pants, or one windy night, my fleece running pants, with a long-sleeve tech shirt on top, and depending on the wind and temperature possibly a vest and/or fleece and/or jacket over that. I wear one of those headband things that goes over my ears and either a baseball cap or a beanie over that. My gloves are a glove/mitten combo, and my socks are all the Smartwool kind.

Speaking of such things, does anyone know if knee-warmers exist? On a couple of my colder runs, my knees have gotten really cold.

Got in 3 today while dropping off books at the library. Also spent most of the day in two-hour increments. R's holiday concert was today, so I had to bring her to school this morning for the dress rehearsal (she's in afternoon kindergarten), and then we were back this evening for the concert. She did well and that's all good, but between all that and J wanting to nurse every 30 minutes and then pinching me through it (if she can find skin, she'll pinch it. Argh!), I'm so strapped for time.

Now I need to finish editing a test, print it out, make the sound files and burn a couple of test CDs so I can drop them off tomorrow for those with accommodations, and hem pants or knit. In theory I should do some grading too. Oh, and I need to put together class for tomorrow. It's the last class, thankfully. Mostly I want to sleep.
post #143 of 597

Welcome to the new dingoes!  As a relatively old dingo, I can attest that everyone is new around here at some point.  This is the most welcoming group of women anywhere - I'm fairly certain the answer to world peace is here, if we could just get ourselves put in charge!

 

Geo - 10000?  How many miles you gonna run this month exactly?

 

poppy - I'd pursue counseling, but definitely with someone experienced with kids and anxiety.  I was a terribly anxious child, and am still a fairly anxious adult.  I've learned a lot of coping skills on my own, but my middle school years in particular where pretty awful and I think having adults at least acknowledge I was having a hard time would have been helpful.

 

bbm - You're amazing!  I can't believe you're so close to the end of this training journey!

 

loftmama - good for you for keeping straight who is having issues!  I hope things work out peacefully soon.

 

My favorite running gear is probably my Garmin - but I'm kind of number obsessed.  It's not even that I'm that attached to running a certain distance or time most of the time, I just have to know how far and how fast I did go!  It is really useful for running when I'm not sure of the route though, or running out of town.

 

NRR - Much contemplation of life choices going on around here - as it sounds like it is for many of you.  Not ready to go into specifics, but dh and I are both considering if it's time for a big change.  I'm trying to control my anxiety - I feel nearly paralyzed when I think about making a change, but it's time for a several reasons to at least think about it seriously.

 

RR - plugging along.  I still need to set some long term running goals, but haven't had much time to think about it yet.  I am running a fair amount though, 4-5 days a week, and hitting the gym 2-3 days a week.  I feel really good physically, at least!

post #144 of 597
Thank you all, so much - coming here is like being wrapped in a warm, favorite blanket....and I especially want to give a hug to those who are anxiety prone. Especially the 6th grade Jaygee hug2.gif I can relate.

His school does have a wonderful counselor on staff, named Dr Susan. I have heard great things about her but do not know much beyond that. I also wonder if finding someone independent of school, and also who specializes in kids, might be better for DS. I was thinking the association with school would keep him from really opening up. I have asked DH to look into our new, much better, insurance plan to see what coverage we might have for this. Fingers crossed.

I love my dingos! grouphug.gif Thank you mamas
post #145 of 597
real~Yep: knee warmers. Usually for cycling, but I don't see why you couldn't use 'em for running!

So, basically, I've been a big slug the past two days. I blew off running yesterday because we had a bunch of errands to run and I was a little sore from the trail run. Today, I blew off running because I was tired and the weather was kind of cold and overcast and I just didn't wanna. bag.gif So, instead, I turned on Nick Jr for DS and took a nap on the couch.

I also made my first attempt at making candy (almond roca). It seems to have turned out ok, although I found out after the fact, that you need to cook candy about 12 degrees less here because of the altitude. Whoops. It was a little greasy, so I'm wondering if I did something wrong, or if it's just the recipe.

We went to see Santa this evening, at the Bass Pro Shop, of all places. After I just about choked at seeing the minimum package price of $35 (and no taking your own pictures allowed) at the mall we were in last week, I started looking around. Who knew, Bass Pro Shop has Santa, and they GIVE you a free 4x6 picture! I ended up paying $10 for the digital download, just to be able to email/FB it. Plus, they had games and crafts and activities for the kids while you waited. Which we waited over an hour, but oh well. And then, I did something that I've never done in DS's 4.5 years...drove through McDonald's on the way home. I just didn't have the motivation to fix dinner when we were already going to get home after dinnertime, and didn't have the $ for something better. Oh well, it's not like it's something we regularly do...I guess I'm just spoiling DS silly right now. Which, I'm sure I'll regret when my clinicals start up in January. orngtongue.gif

On a related note, wth is the point of the Happy Meal Transformers toy that doesn't transform? I mean, hello....TRANSFORMER. Isn't that the point?!
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tjsmama ~ don't feel bad.  Kirsten went through the McDonald's drive thru yesterday too.  We had a last minute house showing (seriously, they called at 1:10 and were ringing the doorbell at 1:30).  I had been about to make her lunch when they called, but spent those 20 minutes throwing beds together and gathering up dirty laundry.  Hence the Happy Meal ~ not her first, but her first in a  looooooong time. 

 

BBM ~ serious weekly mileage!!!!  I'm so amazed by you!

 

Favorite running gear ~ definitely my Brooks Defyance shoes.  I've gone decidedly low-tech leaving the Garmin, iPod, and other assorted electronica at home recently.  Mostly because it makes me too sad to see how slow I've become.  Still, I like running "naked" more than I thought I would.

 

Lofty ~ glad the counselor is fabulous, even if DH is currently not.  Much love to you.

 

Lots more running around today, plus packing and getting the house ready for us to leave tomorrow.  I can't believe our new house is done and we're closing in just 3 days!

 

Now if only I didn't have that f---ing biopsy tomorrow.

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Most important/best running gear is a running partner.  After that, probably the wool hat I knit once when stuck in the Reagan airport...  It's a perfect fit and weight.

 

I've now reversed the weight gain from fall teaching.  Now to protect against the next conference. 

 

Speaking of, Poppy ~ are you working in SF or Berkeley?  I'm wondering if a lunch would work for you?  Otherwise I have a Bezerkely afternoon meeting on Sunday up at the lab, and maybe I could pop over after.  I still have to figure out my transportation to and from....  Otherwise, maybe you could come to the peninsula the following weekend??

 

DrJen, my to do list has 10000 things on it.  Including running another 60 miles this month.

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Poppy, I'd likely try to go independent--at least outside school. I'd be concerned about the stigma his schoolmates may attach if they are aware he is seeing the counselor solo. Obviously there is nothing wrong with seeing the counselor, but it's precisely the kids who would attach a stigma and tease who need to be avoided. How's that for a conundrum? Maybe your employer offers an EAP where you can begin. They usually do a first session and then refer, I think. I wasn't so much anxious at that age as...probably should have been inpatient, but suffice it to say I can relate. Your kid is such a spectacular fellow, I hate to imagine him worried. He also seems such a genuine person, I wish for him only good friends who bring him good. My ds (9.5) isn't a worrier, but is incredibly sensitive, and I worry about how that will go in future years. Sucks to worry about what makes your kid awesome.

 

lofty, your counseling story made me smile this morning. It really was not about you, mama. But props to you for doing a supporting thing without compromising self. Huge. And re: BMI, as a formerly morbidly obese person, it has its limitations. I will never "achieve" a BMI lower than the absolute tippy-top of "normal" for my height. I actually do have large bones (my dh marvels at my giant ribs eyesroll.gif), heavy muscles (from hauling around 100 extra pounds, maybe?) plus (TMI alert!) more skin than I need to cover this smaller body. So that f@!#ing BMI is a frustrating number for me...even though in terms of actual fat in my body, I probably live right in the "optimal" range of the study you're referring to. You're healthy and beautiful. That's my professional opinion. Rock on.

 

drjen, I am having the opposite reaction from yours re: big changes. I don't know why, but when dh called and brought up the thought of relocating to a place totally outside our experience, my immediate reaction was to simply go with it. If it's right, the way will be opened and it will happen, I figure. And our children will learn and grow wherever they are, as long as we support it. Life is short, so try to be doing what brings you joy. Hug, mama.

 

real, hugs to you, too. Ear plugs? I do sometimes just keep my ipod in my ears when I have had too much. It does help some.

 

Easy workout planned for today. Short and easy run? Probably. TM, though. Just reading through the lists of cold-weather gear makes me shiver. I can't believe some of the weather reb and I used to run in. I wore tights or long johns under fleece pants, two pairs of socks, wicking compression shirt + long-sleeve tech shirt + fleece or windbreaker, fleece gloves or mittens, and either a stocking cap or a fleece mask, depending on the temp.

 

Dd is trying hard to make me lose it here, dh just called because he locked himself out of his rental car (it's running), and my kitchen is a mess. I'm taking a catch-up day. Easy workout, no office, catch up on errands and find my balance. Have a great day, mamas.

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Poppy - I agree w/ everyone, including Jo. But it sounds like the school counselor would be a great resource for someone else. She is likely connected in the community of child therapists in your area
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Jo - your assessment of BMI really rings true with me!  Even though I'm weighing more than I like right now, and it has been a gain since the summer, I am still WAY smaller than I was before I started running.  I am still in the have lost 80 pounds range from my highest weight (want to get that back to the have lost 100 pounds, but still).  At my very lowest weight, I was still at the top of the healthy BMI range.  Maybe I could have dropped another 5 pounds or so, but I'm not sure I could, and I'm not sure it would be worth it. 

 

I have tri class tonight.  It's some sort of run indoors.  I am hoping that I get 3 miles in, so I don't feel like I have to run tomorrow.  I'll just do strength tomorrow. 

 

But, I'm tired today.  I had a hard time sleeping.  My "friend" whose daughter I watch every day, do homework with, take to girl scouts, read with (her reading level is not up to grade standards.  3rd grade and struggles with magic tree house), and who spends a great deal of time here really was unkind to me last night when picking up her daughter.  I know it is based on her own insecurity and how she isn't stepping up and doing these things in the evening with her daughter.  But, she tried to use the I'm a SAHM, so have more energy, and basically just ended with a long guilt trip because I must have it so much better than she does.  It was totally dismissive of all the work I do in the day to day running of my life, and I expected more of her.  It really hurt my feelings.  Anyway, it sort of disrupted my entire evening. 

 

So, I'm going Christmas shopping with another friend today while the kids are all in school.  Just enjoying one of those SAHM perks, I guess. 

post #151 of 597

I had the flu yesterday and so did V (hers was very short THANK GOD)!  Now James is getting it.  Help me!  We all know what it's like to care for a sick man.  

 

Anyway, I've been keeping up but no energy to post.  I was wondering though, if we have a home address list floating around or a Christmas card exchange going on this year?

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I was just thinking about Christmas cards, too...wasn't there a list posted on the yahoo group? I'm sure some updates are needed, wherever the list is! I'd be happy to be keeper of the list. I'll put out a note on Facebook, too. If you want to send/receive holiday cards, PM or email me your address, and I'll compile an excel list!

Track workout this morning: 2 miles, with the first mile at 10k pace and the second 20 seconds faster. I was pretty close, although my 10k pace is pretty slow right now.

Much to do this afternoon...
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Bec: angry.gif to your "friend". She should be way more appreciative of what you are doing for her daughter.
 

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So, I'm going Christmas shopping with another friend today while the kids are all in school.  Just enjoying one of those SAHM perks, I guess. 


Hey, it's what we do all day anyway, right? Shop and eat bonbons on the sofa.

 

JayGee: I'm thinking of you and hope that your biopsy went well & didn't hurt. hug2.gif

 

FM: swam at the pool, 1600 yds. I talked to the lifeguard there who does lots of triathlons and he told me about a series of sprints here in our area. I might look into that.

 

Other than that, I have managed to log myself out of Facebook and can't remember my password. When I try to re-find my account, it doesn't recognize my e-mail address. When I try to sign up for a new account based on that e-mail address, it says I can't because that e-mail address is already in use. What the heck?

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Bec: angry.gif to your "friend". She should be way more appreciative of what you are doing for her daughter.
 

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So, I'm going Christmas shopping with another friend today while the kids are all in school.  Just enjoying one of those SAHM perks, I guess. 


Hey, it's what we do all day anyway, right? Shop and eat bonbons on the sofa.

 

I know, right?!  Anyway, it was a good time.  My good friend (aka running partner who is sidelined due to a hamstring injury) bought me lunch, and we had a good time shopping and being sarcastic with each other!  I got most of my X-mas shopping done, too!

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Dude, you people are shopping all day? Tell me more about this SAHM thing....

 

 

 

 

 

 

(kidding of course).

 

I really want to wimp out of my ski today. It is freaking cold out, but only likely to get colder as the week goes on. Brrr. Plus I left my workout gear in the car, which means I have to put on cold gear.

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SAHMs ~ you mean we're supposed to be shopping all day?  And sitting on the sofa?  And eating bonbons?  Gee, I need to rework my schedule!

 

I am a basket case, Mamas.  I am so stressed about tomorrow's biopsy.  I talked with DH earlier and he told me to have a drink.  I never drink while the kids are awake, but I just had a glass of sangria, just to calm myself down.  I've been totally manic all day, cleaning, folding, calling, picking up, dropping off, etc., because if I stop, I'm terrified that I'll start thinking about this biopsy.  And I don't want to think about it.  At all.  Argh!

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Anxiety:   I went to yoga on Sunday, and the teacher was having us work on keeping our thoughts on the yoga, not letting our mind wander.  It was freaky - she'd remind us every 30 seconds it would seem, and every time I'd realize I was thinking of something else.  I'm been trying hard in the last few days to keep my focus through a salute to the sun, often managing 30-45 seconds at a time.  It feels as though if I keep at it, I could use something like that to really help quell a lot of the anxiety.   It was actually the first yoga class I've done lately where I found myself really appreciating the mental/spiritual portion of the class.  Normally I find myself rolling my eyes inwardly and tuning out.

 

JayGee, got any good drugs? ;)  I think that a glass of something is totally appropriate right now. 

 

Posted grades.  Let the grade grubbing commence.  I gave a pity C- of the sort that taking it again is not going to do either of us any favors.  Besides that, I don't feel too icky about any of the grades I gave out, but I'm dreading one student who has a reputation for appealing her grade for every single class.  Grrr.  And her grade came out a lot higher than I thought it would based on general impressions (or, say, attendance.  or lack thereof)

 

Can one of you shopping all day people do some Christmas shopping for me?  I'd write out the list here, but K is reading over my shoulder. ;)

 

Going running tonight with C.  Not sure if this is a wise choice...  It's supposed to get down to 5F tonight, though so far it looks like it's not dropping fast yet.  The weather still seems to be hovering at about 20F, which to doable.

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I am a basket case, Mamas.  I am so stressed about tomorrow's biopsy.  I talked with DH earlier and he told me to have a drink.  I never drink while the kids are awake, but I just had a glass of sangria, just to calm myself down.  I've been totally manic all day, cleaning, folding, calling, picking up, dropping off, etc., because if I stop, I'm terrified that I'll start thinking about this biopsy.  And I don't want to think about it.  At all.  Argh!



How soon will you get the results? You can't blame yourself for being anxious about it. Do what you have to in order to gain a little bit of peace of mind.

 

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But, I'm tired today.  I had a hard time sleeping.  My "friend" whose daughter I watch every day, do homework with, take to girl scouts, read with (her reading level is not up to grade standards.  3rd grade and struggles with magic tree house), and who spends a great deal of time here really was unkind to me last night when picking up her daughter.  I know it is based on her own insecurity and how she isn't stepping up and doing these things in the evening with her daughter.  But, she tried to use the I'm a SAHM, so have more energy, and basically just ended with a long guilt trip because I must have it so much better than she does.  It was totally dismissive of all the work I do in the day to day running of my life, and I expected more of her.  It really hurt my feelings.  Anyway, it sort of disrupted my entire evening. 

 

So, I'm going Christmas shopping with another friend today while the kids are all in school.  Just enjoying one of those SAHM perks, I guess. 

 

ugh, piss off to the "friend". Hopefully she'll issue a full apology! If not maybe suggest she trade for a day and see how much energy she has!

No run to report and I didn't even make it to swim. I have no energy by the time DH gets home. I was so psyched up yesterday afternoon but sure enough when he came through the door I couldn't drag my feet out, to run, swim or go work. I'm not sure if this is physical or mental. I kinda suspect I'm dragging my feet cause of the guy that died during my half a few weeks ago. I always thought about exercise as elongating my life, but after seeing an athlete my age die, I realize, I'd rather be home with my babies. (Even when they're driving me nuts nut.gif )

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bec, I agree re: the friend. I occasionally hear an "it must be nice" about my flexible work schedule. Sometimes people just act like idiots.

 

and JayGee, I agree. Do whatever helps. If you do homeopathy/flower essences, you could give Rescue Remedy a try. Take us all along with you, mama. Pretend they're biopsying mine for the rest of the night if it helps. Anything that helps and whatever helps. Hugs.

 

modmom, that's a thought to ponder. Just be careful not to let it suck you down too far. It's easy for me to get caught in the suckhole.

 

Geo, it is amazing to me the nerve students seem to have, in terms of demanding their own...er, I mean appealing...grades. Wow. Either life is going to be hard on them, or they will forever be hard on those around them, I suppose. Yuck.

 

Short but good run today, planning elliptical tomorrow and a run with my sister Friday. Night, ladies.

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Re: anxiety; it's not a short-term aid, but when I started getting into meditation 4 years go, one of the first books I read was Jon Kabat-Zinn's "Fill Catastrophe Living". He is a Buddhist M.D. who runs the "stress reduction clinic" at UMass hospital. The book is mostly about mindfulness, and describes in detail the process he leads his groups through over the weeks he has them. It describes methods of mindfulness/meditation..... its been a while since I read it obviously but I fell in love with the book and his voice. It made me feel less crazy to have a person in authority validate the need to have a mindfulness practice of some kind. Like what you describe Geo, I didnt roll my eyes...
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