We have a boy next door, of course the only kid my daughter's age who lives near us. He is very aggressive and mean, and seemes to live to torture my daughter. They are both four, and my daughter, Delilah is one of those sweet, quiet, creative types. She lives in a world of fairys and elves and imaginings. I took her over to his house earlier in the week because his mom asked if we would come over to visit. Once we were there, he went outside with Delilah and for no reason squirted her with the hose. It was cold outside and she started screaming, which I expected would cause his mom to discuss with him the importance of respecting other people's comfort, ect, but she did nothing! Completely ignored it! Then he butted his chest against her in an aggressive way until she was trapped in a corner, and still his mother did nothing. Then he blocked her way when she tried to pass by, again trapping her while discreetly smashing her leg. There was many more things like this that are too numerous to list, but basically his mom implied that because Delilah reacts to it, it causes him to do it, and then she said upon our leave that she hoped Delilah would want to play soon once she has had a nap...as if a nap will make her happy about being abused!
Yesterday he came over and destroyed the beautiful chalk drawing she made that took her a half hour writing her name. It was not an innocent accident. She asked him to be careful because she worked hard on it, and immediatly he grabbed chalk and roughly skribbled it out, all while giving her a mean stare and evil laugh. He always eems to be hitting her, and his mother does absolutely nothing! I was very sick this week, and he came over. I was not well enough to watch such a difficult child, so told his mom it was not a good time. She told him it was time to go, and he did not listen, so she just left him there! She did not even try to explain why they had to go-she just let him have his way and then came back 45 minuts later for him.
Does anyone know any way that I might tell his mother that if he does not stop hurting my daughter he will not be able to play with her anymore? I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I feel that she is trying to teach my daughter that the violence being commited against her is somehow her fault. I absolutely refuse to let anyone teach her that. It seems like a case of parents that don't want to see fault in their child, but don't realise that it is their own fault! I know kids are not born that way! If anyone has any advice, I would eppreciate it. I know this post has been long, but thanks for reading it anyways!
Yesterday he came over and destroyed the beautiful chalk drawing she made that took her a half hour writing her name. It was not an innocent accident. She asked him to be careful because she worked hard on it, and immediatly he grabbed chalk and roughly skribbled it out, all while giving her a mean stare and evil laugh. He always eems to be hitting her, and his mother does absolutely nothing! I was very sick this week, and he came over. I was not well enough to watch such a difficult child, so told his mom it was not a good time. She told him it was time to go, and he did not listen, so she just left him there! She did not even try to explain why they had to go-she just let him have his way and then came back 45 minuts later for him.
Does anyone know any way that I might tell his mother that if he does not stop hurting my daughter he will not be able to play with her anymore? I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I feel that she is trying to teach my daughter that the violence being commited against her is somehow her fault. I absolutely refuse to let anyone teach her that. It seems like a case of parents that don't want to see fault in their child, but don't realise that it is their own fault! I know kids are not born that way! If anyone has any advice, I would eppreciate it. I know this post has been long, but thanks for reading it anyways!
calling out for attention?
