I need some help ladies, I don't know what to do
I interviewed the top midwife around me a few months back. Lets call her MW#1. She's written books, been in documentaries, 1500 births, yada yada....I clicked with her instantly. The only issue is that when you search her name here on MDC, a sad story of a child with CP comes up, and the mom blames MW#1. I brought it up, even sent the MW the link to respond, and her response was like "I don't know about that", very vaugue, etc. As was her response to the question "have you ever had any maternal or fetal deaths during birth".....and she was like "None that I can remember", and was kind of laizze faire about it. I think if something like that happened, I would remember it or be able to say no, absolutely not. So both of those things irked me, but her credentials kind of outweighed it in my head for a while. And in the meantime I emailed and called her clients for recs, and NOTHING BUT GLOWING recs for her.
So now I am pregnant and want to interview MW#2 and MW#3 to see if they are good fits or if MW#1 is the way to go. WELL BOTH ARE TAKING LEAVE WHEN I AM DUE! I don't feel comfy with any of the other local MWs. In talking to MW2, I shared MW1s response to the CP baby, and she said EVERY MW in the state knows about that case, and without putting her down, implied that her response wasn't right.....
so now I am left with a trust issue with MW1 but no other options. my friend suggested I go talk to her and give her a second chance, and if it doesn't feel right then move on. The problem is DH is BARELY on board with a HB, and I don't think he'll go for it if its not MW1.
Am I just being to persnickety about her response or is this a real trust issue that could bar a successful birth if she attended? I know that is more a question that I need to answer, but WWYD?