Give up on Csect recovery?

[Lisa1970]

The baby is 15 months old. I am wondering if it has reached the point of having to just consider myself permanently damaged and stop holding out hope for recovery. I exercise, I try. I have been to various specialists. Basically, I cannot bend over and stand back up. My muscles just do not work that way anymore. I cannot list things very much. I cannot lift the baby from the babyswing. I can lift him from the car seat as it is higher up, but if he is down lower, I cannot. I cannot really pick things up off the floor unless I get all the way down to the ground and then try to work my way back up. Even then, I need something to grip on to that I can pull myself up with. I cannot sit in the car for too long as my back hurts from it. 

What do you think? I have been through exercising, endlessly. I have done all I know of that I can do. I have seen doctors, but there do not seem to be any actual child birth damage specialists. I have been to the orthopedic doctor, the back doctor. 

Should I just give up and consider my body permanently destroyed?

[A_Random_Phrase]

Edited by A_Random_Phrase - 12/7/10 at 3:47pm

[Kyamo]

Maybe try a physiotherapist?

[healthyfamilies]

I'm sorry that you are at this point.  It sounds like you are so tired of being in pain and of your body not working the way you need it too.  That must be so tiring and hard with a baby.  I understand those days when you feel like giving up and surrendering to things never changing.  I encourage you to honor yourself in those moments. Don't be hard on yourself.

I have a few ideas.  Have you been to a chiropractor?  I don't know where you are from but I know some great ones on the west coast.  Have you tired massage/bodywork?  If your  bones are not in the right place (most women's shift a lot during birth) then your muscles have a harder time doing what they need to do.  I was having some issues with my knee and ended up having exploratory surgery on it just to have my knee specialist tell me there was nothing wrong!  After a year of working with a chiropractor and bodyworker, I have no knee issues.  I wasn't aliened in my hips, which was causing the issues in my knee. I needed someone to look at my whole body to find the problem. 

It sounds like exercising is not working for you.  Has anything helped? Even a little? Have you tried giving your muscles a break?  I have used visualization to help heal my body.  I use it when I feel like I have done everything I possibly can.  I sit in a quiet space (often in bed before I fall asleep) and visualize my muscles tighten and relaxing, if I feel like there is a spot, that I see in my minds eye, that is injured I visualize it healing, normally with some sort of light.  This is all intuitly.  I know it sounds crazy but it has helped me a lot.  If you want to talk about this more let me know.

I have also have had really great luck with doterra essential oils-they are the purest oils I have found.  Doterra tests each batch at 2 independent test centers which makes me trust the oils.  I know many people who have had debilitating pain in their backs and pelvic area and use essential oils to help heal them. 

Deepblue (which is a blend) helps with any inflammation in the muscle which may help your back relax so that you can have more movement.

I'm an essential oil educator so if you want to chat more about how exactly you feel, together we could come up with an oil that may help. 

I was also thinking sauna and hot tubing.

I'm sorry if I have said to much.  I hope that you find something that helps.  

Kelly

Here is the web address for the DeepBlue essential oil if you think it might help you, Aroma Touch is a good one too.

https://www.iact1.com/doterra/ShoppingCart/Shop.cfm?CurrPage=FrontPage&NextPage=CategoryDetail&CategoryID=73&pid=2914476322482923

[labortrials]

This may seem completely unrelated, but did you have an IUD placed?  I didn't stop having pain until I had it removed.

Otherwise, you might need to speak with a reproductive surgeon and have a SHG or HSG done to look for the cause of this pain.  You could have some deep adhesions or organs that are adhered to eachother.  Deep tissue massage or maya massage might be your best bet there.

I agree that essential oils can help too.  If you're still nursing, then you'll want to be sure that any oils you use are ok in pregnancy/nursing.

[texmati]

Don't give up! My son is nearly the same age as yours. I got pregnant 7 mos after the section and am in such a bad place physically. I completely understand how devastating it is not to be able to lift your son, or walk up the stairs with him, or dance holding him.  It's absolutely heartbreaking.

My plan post (this) baby is to is to do physical therapy at http://www.corepttx.com/. (Only adding the link because I think you might be in my area). Although they sounded like there wasn't much they could do while I was still pregnant, they sounded really positive about post partum recovery/physical therapy.

It's worth a shot. I'm rooting for you!