I'm feeling really weird right now.
Here's the background: Dd is soon-to-be 5 and is an only child. I stay at home and have from the beginning and we homeschool. Dd doesn't really like other kids that much so she doesn't have a gaggle of friends. She's had about 1 friend per year her entire life (either we've moved or they've moved, so that somehow it works out to around 1 friend per year) so to be honest we aren't really influenced by whatever the "hot" Christmas toys are--I don't even have a clue what they would be and dd isn't in a preschool situation where kids are talking about them. We are Waldorf-inspired homeschoolers so we don't even own a TV and dd does not play on the computer. We shop mostly online for things because we have one car so it's easier to order online with free shipping than it is to go to a store for me, and even if we did shop at brick-and-mortar shops, the LAST place I'd take my child is to a toystore, especially one like Toys R Us. I am not completely anti-plastic but I am anti- "computers pretending to be toys" that seem to be the rage these days. We get a few catalogues like Hearthsong/Magic Cabin, Nova Natural, etc., but when they arrive I hide them and look at them without dd around and I also shop online at A Toy Garden, Bella Luna Toys, etc. Dd's b-day happens to be right before Christmas so I go light on both (basically 1 present for each holiday) but I try and make them nice presents--not expensive but well-made and nice. I considered it a splurge this year to pay $80 for a wooden stacking rainbow, if that kind of lets you know our budget.. Dd NEVER asks for anything, toy or otherwise. She is perfectly content to not have a lot of "stuff".
What is making me feel weird is this--everyone (from MIL to dd's one friend's mother) thinks this contentment is somehow abnormal and look at me as if I must have 4 heads when I say that I don't let dd look at the TRU toy catalogue. I know being Waldorf that I probably protect my child from our culture more than most moms, even ones on MDC (and I'm not implying a judgment in that), but how can I reply without seeming judgmental/weird/socially abnormal when a well-meaning stranger or friend, trying to converse with my very-socially-shy dd, asks her what she wants for Christmas? She really has no idea. I don't think she's even thought of it. She doesn't know what toys are out there and never has, and she has no idea that she can "request" a particular toy for her birthday or Christmas. MIL and mainstream friend think I'm bizarre for not throwing dd into the consumerist swimming pool, but we are very devout Christians, and for our family, gift-giving is not the centerpiece of our Christmas celebration. I also don't know how to reply to them in a way that defends myself while at the same time maintains our relationship.