I don't know what to do... My midwives have recently taken on a midwifery student, I met her for the first time this week at 36 weeks. They asked me if she could attend my prenatal visits and my birth. My first instinct is to say yes because I know how important it is for her training. BUT, when I stop to think about what I want for my birth, Im not sure it includes her. And that makes me feel pretty bad...
I was planning on keeping everything really low key. DH and I only, with the 2 midwives (we love them and get along really well). DS will be cared for by another student midwife who offered to do it for free if we agreed to let her witness the birth if DS was sleeping (that was before this new student ever came into the picture). She's super nice and I would love to have her with us if DS doesn't require her attention, even though I feel like it's starting to be too many ppl.
The new student is super nice too, but in a different way. She's full of energy, much more outgoing. At the prenatal visit, I think she talked more than the main midwife. That's great, but Im not sure that's what I want at the delivery. I like the mellow personalities of my midwives and the first student.
Also, our bedroom isnt super big, and Im worried about the space being too tight for the 6 of us once the pool is in there.
She's in the early stage of her training (not sure of the details) and would be mostly observing, maybe taking pictures for us if we wish, hand stuff to the midwives if needed, and help with the clean up.
I don't know what to say. I would like to help and give her an opportunity to learn, but at the same time I don't want to feel like she's invading because she's more energetic/outgoing. I also don't want to be rude and ask her to sit in the corner and be quiet, and I know I won't have the guts to ask her to leave the room if I find her energy distracting.
At the same time, Im looking back at my first birth, and I was so high that I really didn't notice who was in the room once I hit transition. DH says a second midwife came in, and I have pictures to prove it, but I have absolutely no recollection of it. (until transition, it was only DH and I, with the midwife popping in once in a while for a HB check). So maybe that won't even matter???
Im not sure how to address the issue, and I have to figure it out before the next prenatal visit so my midwives can ask her to be there (or not). Maybe she was the way she was only because she was nervous as this was our first time meeting? I wish she had been part of the prenatal care from the start, I would like to get to know her better before deciding... But I don't have much time, and I don't want her to waste her time coming to more prenatal visits if she won't be able to attend the birth...