Originally Posted by bookwormommy
I've had a hard couple of days. My DP has started freaking out about having a 2nd child, and thinks she can't handle it, and has been having anxiety attacks about it. It has made it hard to be excited about the pregnancy, since it's causing her so much distress. And I'm kind of mad at her for it, which is irrational and counterproductive, but there it is. I'm trying to not get too stressed myself, because I don't want to bathe my little one in stress hormones.
It's totally normal for you to be mad at your DP for being cold-feety about your pregnancy (just as it's normal for her to stress out about it for a while). My DH was being pretty negative about kids for a little while after I told him (even though he had recently said he was really ready to have kids). I think what helped him a lot was when I reminded him that we have 9 whole months to get ready for it, and that's really a long time. Also validating his fears, while explaining that I needed him to support me and not throw too much negativity around. I hope your DP starts feeling better soon!
Originally Posted by OakTreeMom
Ursus- How are you today? Spotting is always scary. It is my understanding that with all of the increased blood flow. Not just in your nose and gums but in your cervix also that a small bit of spotting is normal. As long as it is not bright red or clots and occurs with cramps. So just try not to stress and if it will make you feel better, get that u/s. I am going for one next week just to be sure. Keep us posted.
Thanks for asking! I haven't been spotting at all now, and my boobs are sore, and I feel queasy (though I keep wondering if I'm just making it up!). I guess I'm mostly just worried that the baby might have died or stopped growing or maybe it's a blighted ovum or... There's no reason to suspect these things really but I just find it so hard to believe that there is actually an embryo alive and growing inside of me! An ultrasound would let me know that, but on the other hand it wouldn't guarantee anything anyway even if there was a heartbeat. How do you ladies who aren't getting early ultrasounds manage to trust that there really is a baby and it's going to grow?? I know it's what most women have always done but I feel very incompetent in that area right now! I guess I've been "fooled" so many times that I'm just having trouble believing that it's real this time.
Originally Posted by Birdie B.
I just want to be into the second tri already so I can feel some security!
I SO feel you on this!!!
By the way, for those of you who are really tired, are you taking extra iron? Because I felt like I had been hit by a truck for the past couple days, no energy at all, and then I thought, well, my body is already making more blood, and I haven't been eating very well, and took some Floradix. The difference was HUGE. I felt a little better almost immediately and today my energy levels have been close to normal. Don't know if that was the key, but it might be worth a try!