Weekly Chat Thread 12/3-12/12 - Page 3

[nugget's mommy]

bookwormommy -  My dh is the same way - he has had a mini freakout each time (finances especially and now he's worried about having enough time/love to go around for a 3rd).  I'm sure she'll come around - my dh always does.

Birdie B. - Hope your exhaustion goes away soon.  I'm actually surprised I'm not more exhausted because of the insomnia I've been having.

Maurine - Swimming sounds divine - definitely save up for the summer when it's hot and you're hefting around that extra weight.  Glad it's helping your sciatica (had that early on with my first, but not with my second and hopefully not with this one).

Beantown - I have pics with my first in utero at the then new Phillies stadium, so I know what you're talking about - brings me right back to those fond memories.

mamalimey - Hope your dh likes mushrooms!  I am not a fungus appreciator myself, so your reaction would be quite normal for me - haha!  Hope your queasies don't get too overwhelming, but on the other hand, yay for nausea!

Lovingmommyhood - Yes, thank goodness for 9 months.  I'm a little worried, but my dh feels that same terror and we are only going from 2 to 3.  I've heard mixed reviews about going from 2 to 3 - any words of wisdom? 

Baby Cakes - congrats  !  It sounds like for you and several others in this ddc, that it was a bit of a bumpy road to get here.  Here's to a happy healthy 9 months!

Danielle - Hooray for baby bump photos!  I will live vicariously through you and others.  I am a bit on the "fluffy" side and bump photos from me isn't something I'd subject anybody to .

ursa and OakTree -    I know it's hard not to worry.  Hope you and others that are worried will get peace of mind soon.

AFM - 6 weeks 1 day today.  Had slight nausea and aversion to food in general last night.  I'm a worrier over some stuff, and I still can't help but worry every time my symptoms vanish and I feel fantastic.  The rollercoaster ride is getting annoying, but I am thankful that I have pretty easy pregnancies.  Now the delivery is another story.  I will be attempting a VBA2C this time and am dragging my feet calling the provider that may let me try it.  I don't want to have to fight, ya know?  I, and especially dh are just not comfortable with a homebirth.  If I had only found MDC when I was pregnant with my first.....but alas, I have to focus and deal with my reality now.  I am terrified of needles and medical stuff in general.  I did OK (but not great) the first time (probably because I was just so darn excited to be having a baby) but the second time was a mess.  Every blood draw was an ordeal, the IV was a nightmare for me and I'm not sure how I ended up awake for my second section - I was getting close to them having to knock me out.  I believe in hypnosis/hypnobabies but I am the type of person who can't even relax during yoga because I'm too worried I'm not doing it right.  Ack - I'm such a mess when it comes to this, but it is all worth it in the end.  Sounds hard to believe, but generally I'm an upbeat happy person, just scared of anything medical.  I actually feel like I might be a little better this time with the needle stuff, but only time will tell.  Hope everyone's doing OK today!

[copper.kettle]

Y'all, I feel like the worst mother in the world.  I am just so tired.  DS is watching way more TV than I'd like to admit, but I just can't move.  He's not very good at independent play.  He also just turned 3 which means he's testing me almost constantly.  He was the most agreeable, cooperative, sweet 2 year old, and then BAM!  In the last month he is pushing the limit on everything.  I know it's normal, but I have lower patience right now and it's just not a good combo. 

I work nights, and have to work 7p-7a tonight, and I'm so tired I could cry.

Toddlers make it through mama's first trimesters all the time, right?  This is temporary, right? 

[mamalimey]

Peace and strength be with you.... Don't feel bad, listen to your body its making a perfect lil plaything for DS. Be nice to yourself and cut yourself a break.....I also am having trouble getting off the couch!

7-7 huh hospital? Nurse? I'm struggling with the 12's myself

[lovingmommyhood]

For me going from 0-1 was the HARDEST transition, the others have been fairly smooth sailing. I remember being nervous both times and it wasn't bad at all...going from 0-1 I expected it to be easy and it was very hard! lol! Go figure. To me three is very manageable and for the most part isn't overwhelming. It also helps that DS1 is in school now for most of the day. 
 

Originally Posted by nugget's mommy 

Lovingmommyhood - Yes, thank goodness for 9 months.  I'm a little worried, but my dh feels that same terror and we are only going from 2 to 3.  I've heard mixed reviews about going from 2 to 3 - any words of wisdom? 

[Miranda2r14]

So in the roll call thread I said it's complicated for my family listing :) Thought I'd share in the chat thread a little more info about me. 

I was married for 6 years and had a son who is now 3, but had not been happy for several years. I recently separated and moved in with my new husband and wife. The three of us are in a polyamorous relationship. We had planned on having a baby at some point in the future but events are happening sooner than expected. The initial shock is wearing off and we're all getting excited about it. DH and DW have 4 daughters ranging from 17 to 4 years old.

[copper.kettle]

Mamalimey, yes I'm an ICU nurse.  I work 3 12 hour nights/week.  I'm working 4 out of the next 5 nights.  Are you a nurse too?

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by copper.kettle 

Y'all, I feel like the worst mother in the world.  I am just so tired.  DS is watching way more TV than I'd like to admit, but I just can't move.  He's not very good at independent play.  He also just turned 3 which means he's testing me almost constantly.  He was the most agreeable, cooperative, sweet 2 year old, and then BAM!  In the last month he is pushing the limit on everything.  I know it's normal, but I have lower patience right now and it's just not a good combo. 

I work nights, and have to work 7p-7a tonight, and I'm so tired I could cry.

Toddlers make it through mama's first trimesters all the time, right?  This is temporary, right? 

Aww, Copper!   I feel you!! I have the SHORTEST temper with DD lately, I can't say I'm very proud of my mama skills either.  I have no patience AT ALL.  I keep tearing DH a new one every time he opens his mouth, too.  UGH!!

I might get some extra iron.  I'm exhausted.  

Is anyone else still testing?  I bought more tests today.  It hasn't gotten old yet (granted its only been one day) but I just love seeing the test line come up.  After soooo many months of so many bfns, it's just so awesome finally seeing positive tests!!  

[mamalimey]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Aww, Copper!   I feel you!! I have the SHORTEST temper with DD lately, I can't say I'm very proud of my mama skills either.  I have no patience AT ALL.  I keep tearing DH a new one every time he opens his mouth, too.  UGH!!

I might get some extra iron.  I'm exhausted.  

Is anyone else still testing?  I bought more tests today.  It hasn't gotten old yet (granted its only been one day) but I just love seeing the test line come up.  After soooo many months of so many bfns, it's just so awesome finally seeing positive tests!!  

I'm guilty of that too! Love seeing how quickly the dark line comes up I'm keeping walgreens in business! They must be wondering " WTF is this lady crazy or is she starting up a free clinic?!?!?!?!"

[mamalimey]

Originally Posted by copper.kettle 

Mamalimey, yes I'm an ICU nurse.  I work 3 12 hour nights/week.  I'm working 4 out of the next 5 nights.  Are you a nurse too?

Yup me too.....ICU float. I feel your pain although god bless you for doing nights.....I have actually been dreading the thought of going back to nights when the baby comes to make daycare issues smoother. I normally work 4-5 in a row cos I love my stretches off but now I'm struggling with 2 in a row.....thoughts are with for the next few nights mama

[openpollination]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Originally Posted by copper.kettle 

Y'all, I feel like the worst mother in the world.  I am just so tired.  DS is watching way more TV than I'd like to admit, but I just can't move.  He's not very good at independent play.  He also just turned 3 which means he's testing me almost constantly.  He was the most agreeable, cooperative, sweet 2 year old, and then BAM!  In the last month he is pushing the limit on everything.  I know it's normal, but I have lower patience right now and it's just not a good combo. 

I work nights, and have to work 7p-7a tonight, and I'm so tired I could cry.

Toddlers make it through mama's first trimesters all the time, right?  This is temporary, right? 

Aww, Copper!   I feel you!! I have the SHORTEST temper with DD lately, I can't say I'm very proud of my mama skills either.  I have no patience AT ALL.  I keep tearing DH a new one every time he opens his mouth, too.  UGH!!

I might get some extra iron.  I'm exhausted.  

Is anyone else still testing?  I bought more tests today.  It hasn't gotten old yet (granted its only been one day) but I just love seeing the test line come up.  After soooo many months of so many bfns, it's just so awesome finally seeing positive tests!!  

I've taken 4 tests now, over the past 2 weeks. The first time I did one I was already a week late (how I managed to NOT test for that week is beyond me) and the line was incredibly dark right away. I used to be an obsessive tester starting at 10dpo or soemthing equally ridiculous, but I haven't used a test in many many months... until I bought some this cycle! Totally crazy actually seeing that line!

[Birdie B.]

Thanks, Nugget's mommy.  Good luck with the VBAC! Let us know when you find your doctor/midwife!

I have so much symapthy for you working mamas! I am still staying home with my daughter, although I'm starting a MS program next month.  We'll see how graduate school + toddler + pregnancy mix! :lol

Baby Cakes - that cracks me up that you are still testing! I did that a lot last time, but this time I don't even have the energy to pee on more sticks....but it is so fun to get excited about being pregnant, isn't it?

Miranda - your family sounds really cool. I hope the new baby will bring you even closer!

Me - I'm still so tired, I wish I could get my daughter to watch TV! She has no interest :lol  She's not very good at entertaining herself either, but at least we can nap together in the afternoons.  I can't make it through without lying down for a while each day.  At least I'm not nauseous (knock on wood)!

I guess I'll call my midwife this week and let her know to put me on the books for next August!!!  Does anyone else have their midwife/doctor lined up yet?

[Baby_Cakes]

I'm excited, I'll admit it.  It took much longer for us to conceive this time so I'm just in a bit of shock and disbelief that it's actually happening.  This might sound hokey, but after 3 cycles I decided I would just think postively and put it out in the universe that I would be pg by christmas.  I just knew it in my head that I would be.  Well, here I am. I can't even get over it or get my head around it.  It took 7 cycles but we did it!!

I'm in the process of finding a new midwife.  I'm scouring the net and I have a few bookmarked from other ppls rec's and just seeing if they have availability and cover homebirths in my area.  Last time, I went with the first homebirth midwife I found, and it's a long story, but I don't want to go with them again.  So I'm basically starting from scratch.  

Last pg, I wasn't planning a hb from the beginning and had a transvag u/s to see the hb.  I'm not planning on doing that this time. Anyone else waiting to hear the hb with a doppler?

Oh and Birdie - at least your LO naps!!  I'm dragging by 3 pm and DD stopped napping when she was 20 months old.  No luck with that here.  Sometimes she'll play on her own so at least I have that going for me!!  Last night it was like 4 pm and I could NOT get off the couch == but I knew dinner had to be made and we had to finish putting the decorations on the tree...it all got done but idk how!!

I'm thinking of taking DD to the mall today to Gymboree to get her christmas outfit.  I'll see how I feel.  It looks pretty cold out!! 

Woke up with a bit of nausea this am.  Already!?  I'm only 4 weeks!!  EEK!

[BeantownBaby9]

Originally Posted by nugget's mommy 

I believe in hypnosis/hypnobabies but I am the type of person who can't even relax during yoga because I'm too worried I'm not doing it right. 

I used to be like this too.  I stared at the clock the whole yoga class but with hypnobabies, I was able to tap into this inner peace I never knew before.  I also started reading Dr. Wayne Dyer and it just got me in a better place spiritually, so now no clock staring in yoga.

Originally Posted by copper.kettle 

Y'all, I feel like the worst mother in the world.  I am just so tired.  DS is watching way more TV than I'd like to admit, but I just can't move.  He's not very good at independent play.  He also just turned 3 which means he's testing me almost constantly.  He was the most agreeable, cooperative, sweet 2 year old, and then BAM!  In the last month he is pushing the limit on everything.  I know it's normal, but I have lower patience right now and it's just not a good combo. 

Do you have an iphone or an ipod touch?  If not, its a great investment for toddler entertainment.  There are a lot of apps they can play, and you can couch parent without the guilt.  I haven't hit my really tired phase yet, but I am sure when I do, Fireman Sam will go from 1 episode to 5

Originally Posted by Miranda2r14 

So in the roll call thread I said it's complicated for my family listing :) Thought I'd share in the chat thread a little more info about me. 

I was married for 6 years and had a son who is now 3, but had not been happy for several years. I recently separated and moved in with my new husband and wife. The three of us are in a polyamorous relationship. We had planned on having a baby at some point in the future but events are happening sooner than expected. The initial shock is wearing off and we're all getting excited about it. DH and DW have 4 daughters ranging from 17 to 4 years old.

Wow, so interesting and cool.  So you are not only learning how to be a new sister wife, but with this baby, wow, lots of changes, very cool.  Can't wait to hear more about your life as you progress through the pregnancy
 

Originally Posted by Birdie B. 
I have so much symapthy for you working mamas! I am still staying home with my daughter, although I'm starting a MS program next month.  We'll see how graduate school + toddler + pregnancy mix! :lol  Does anyone else have their midwife/doctor lined up yet?

Oh goodness, wow.  Thats ambitious! Good luck with Grad School.  I am meeting with a potential MW tomorrow to iron out some last issues.  If I feel comfy, I'll get on the books with her and be all set for co-care through 20 weeks then go to her for the remaining
 

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

I'm excited, I'll admit it.  It took much longer for us to conceive this time so I'm just in a bit of shock and disbelief that it's actually happening.  This might sound hokey, but after 3 cycles I decided I would just think postively and put it out in the universe that I would be pg by christmas.  I just knew it in my head that I would be.  Well, here I am. I can't even get over it or get my head around it.  It took 7 cycles but we did it!!

Anyone else waiting to hear the hb with a doppler?

Its not hokey, I put it out there to be pregnant at Thanksgiving, and it happened.  It freaked me out that it worked, but then again, its what I asked the universe for. 

I am waiting until 12 weeks and my appt with the NP.  I have a doppler here at the house, but my MW doesn't like dopplers or U/S, so I want to do it very minimally, just at the office will be fine

6 weeks today and yesterday got my first real bits of nausea, YAY! DS is super duper belly obsessed and its the cutest thing.  I ordered Fermented Cod Liver Oil to take as some of my vitamins and OH MY GOODNESS, nasty! MW appt tomorrow, hoping it goes well.  DS has food intolerances, ate something not checked by mommy (thanks DH), and was a royal mess yesterday getting ready for school, and the teachers said he wouldn't listen at all either.  Urgh. Gave him some clay water to get it out of his system and he was better by evening, but I just feel so bad.  You can just see when he's not right.  His SPD kicks into high gear, no socks, no blankets, fidgety, hitting, 1000yd stare.  When he's eating his normal foods, he's a great kid, food infraction and I can have the devil! I am glad the teachers saw it though, gives me more ammunition to go back to DH and prove I am not the only one seeing things.  DS did sleep through the night though, that is pretty awesome and rare. I woke up at 6, watched the news and drank tea by myself.  That feels so nice!

[earth-mama]

My midwife doesn't recommend ultrasounds unless it is medically necessary.  She does have a doppler, but we waited to hear the HB with the fetescope with DD and will do the same with this one 

We met with my midwife on Monday it was great.  They measured my belly (very small at this point), but the cutest thing was that DD was super interested in what they were doing.   When they were done she went and got the tape measure and insisted on measuring my belly several time and then several of the doll that they had in the office--it was sooooo cute  I don't think she really gets it, but I did tell her that mama has a baby in her belly and seemed interested in that.   Also, DD who is normally shy around new people was totally comfortable with my midwife and her assistant.  Maybe she "remembers" them from her birth .

[Maurine]

Originally Posted by Miranda2r14 

So in the roll call thread I said it's complicated for my family listing :) Thought I'd share in the chat thread a little more info about me. 

I was married for 6 years and had a son who is now 3, but had not been happy for several years. I recently separated and moved in with my new husband and wife. The three of us are in a polyamorous relationship. We had planned on having a baby at some point in the future but events are happening sooner than expected. The initial shock is wearing off and we're all getting excited about it. DH and DW have 4 daughters ranging from 17 to 4 years old.

Wow, what changes in your life!  I too am excited to hear more about how your pregnancy and new family life progesses.  :)

[KnittingKara]

wow.   I said this in my intro on the role call thread, but I think it is worth repeating:

I've got a really positive feeling about this group!  I've been lurking since the ddc started (and I had my suspicions I was pg LOL) and so many of those here have taken some amazing journeys to get here and be a part of this ddc.  I can just feel the strength as I read through the posts.    

I didn't join a ddc w/ my 3rd, but with my 2nd our ddc was really close and it was so comforting (and fun) to share that time.  I'm thankful that I get to be a part of this group and get to know you all.  Such a variety of experiences and backgrounds, with this really amazing common bond. 

Sorry, I tend toward sappy

I can't believe it is already Wednesday!  This week is flying by!  Perhaps because it seems like I have spent so much of it cat-napping?  I feel great (so far) but am so, so tired.  By the time the kids are in bed I just crash every night. Kinda glad it is the time of year that Christmas specials are on TV so we can all veg out that last hour or so of the day before bedtime.

How is everyone else today?

[MrsMike]

My DS is also watching more TV than I'd like. I'm trying my best to be more energetic, but it's impossible these days. He watches some programs on PBS in the morning. He's very good at independent play, too, so that helps a lot. But, I feel insanely guilty.

 I had to spill the beans at work, which I didn't want to do so soon but is unavoidable in my job (certified veterinary technician). As soon as I walked into work I was given a horribly adorable lab puppy who needed barium series radiographs. I, of course, can't take radiographs so I needed to pull someone and ended up telling her why. Work was horrible. That puppy was fine, but we had another awful case come in. One of our sweetest patients came in having seizures and then became totally unresponsive. It's actually from complications of Lyme disease. She died while we were trying to get an IV into her.  I ended up having to do CPR for 15 minutes. She was quite dead but the owner couldn't bear to give up. I was crying doing her chest compressions because I felt so sad that I was literally beating her body just after she died. Rationally, I know that it was okay, that it's part of my job and yadda yadda, but she was such a sweet dog and I'm an emotional mess. Sorry for the ramble.

[copper.kettle]

Mamalimey, Yeah, the 4 or 5s in a row are pretty much impossible with an infant, esp if you are nursing.  I really can only do 2 in a row right now, and DS is in daycare 2 days per week while I sleep.  It's not the easiest schedule, but I'm the breadwinner for now, so it's what we have to do.  I'll be able to cut down my hours after this LO gets here, thankfully.  There is NO WAY I could maintain this schedule with 2 kids and BF.

Thanks everyone for the support re: mama guilt.  We'll get through and DS will be fine.  I just can't wait to feel AWAKE again!

Babycakes, I tested until 18 dpo, it was really fun 

I interviewd a midwife last week who we really clicked with and our first official appt is at 12 weeks, which is mid January.  It feels so far away, but I know there's really nothing to be done before then anyway.  We've decided not to do a 1st tri US since I know the day of conception since I was charting.  It feels kind of weird not to be taking a peek, but it feels really nice in a way, too.

I really like this group, too.  I hang out in July DDC too, but since I'm due on the 30th and kind of late to that group I feel like they know each other pretty well already?  I like getting to know people from the beginning  And, after my last experience of going until 42w1d, it's hard to imagine NOT going "late"!

[mkat83]

Nice to "meet" all of you ladies!

Is anyone else still testing?  I bought more tests today.  It hasn't gotten old yet (granted its only been one day) but I just love seeing the test line come up.  After soooo many months of so many bfns, it's just so awesome finally seeing positive tests!!  

I got my BFP yesterday.  Went to the pharmacy near my office at lunchtime and took it as soon as I got back.  Took two more, and taking another tonight, another brand, just to see it again!

I also love the Facebook idea from earlier in the thread.  I have a lot of Facebook friends, and many are from different parts of the world.  It is my main way to stay connected with them, so making it "Facebook official" will be quite significant for me!

This is our first, and we actually weren't going to "try" until next month, so its been quite a surprise.  We're thinking of telling our families at Christmas.  I'll be 7 weeks then..... do you gals think that is long enough?  I know it seems cheesy, but I love the idea of getting Christmas cards that say Grandma, Grandpa, Aunt, uncle, etc and having everyone open then at the same time.  DH and I are both the oldest child, so this will be the first grandchild for both our sets of parents, as well as first niece/nephew for our siblings.

So far I only had a hunch I was preg because my boobs looked bigger.  That's what prompted me to buy a test in the first place.  Now looking back, this past weekend I decided to make a "pretend" baby registry online.  Looks like hormones must have been driving me!  Now it won't be pretend anymore :)  And the other night after dinner I ended up getting out some of the leftovers and eating a whole additional serving.  I felt like a pig at the time, but now it seems totally justified!  I love food, so having an excuse to eat more is great!  No nausea or any sickness so far for me, so keeping my fingers crossed!

I have an appt with a CNM on January 17 across the river in Indiana (really close to here) because Kentucky is wonky with midwives.  Although there are CNMs in the state, there are none in my city, the largest city in the state.  I know of a few homebirth midwives here, but I need to do some more word-of-mouth research.  A local AP store is having a Home Birth Stories event on Saturday, so I'm excited to go to that and see what I can learn.  DH is supportive of homebirth, although he wasn't when I first brought up the idea, so I'm hoping to find a MW that we both feel really good about!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by mkat83 

This is our first, and we actually weren't going to "try" until next month, so its been quite a surprise.  We're thinking of telling our families at Christmas.  I'll be 7 weeks then..... do you gals think that is long enough?  I know it seems cheesy, but I love the idea of getting Christmas cards that say Grandma, Grandpa, Aunt, uncle, etc and having everyone open then at the same time.  DH and I are both the oldest child, so this will be the first grandchild for both our sets of parents, as well as first niece/nephew for our siblings.

I think that's a really cute idea!  I'm thinking the beans are going to spill on christmas for us too.  I *ahem* am known for my fondess of wine and alcohol in general, and when I pass on it, they're just going to know.  Might as well just let it all out then!  I'm not sure if I want to announce it this time or just be found out!  

Kara - I agree, this IS a really great group!  I had a fabulous DDC when I was pg with DD, and was worried about joining another.  I'm still friends with many of those girls -- some who already have 2nd babies -- and hope I can make more bonds with you wonderful ladies!