DS is 16 months now and the separation anxiety just seems to be getting worse and worse. It just breaks my heart if I ever have to leave his sight, even for a moment. I went back to work when he was 11 mo, and DH is now the full-time parent. He was younger then, so it was a bit of an adjustment but they got used to each other quicker than I expected. I leave the house before he wakes up, and DS seems to do fine with that. If he does wake up to see me at home, he knows I'm sticking around for the day. Thus, we don't have have to say too many "good-byes," just a lot of "hellos." But man, when those goodbyes do happen, they're just heart wrenching.
I guess the main issue is that DH and I just don't get any time to ourselves anymore. It's getting to be a bit draining. We've been trying for months to figure out a way to go on a date without making DS miserable. As it stands, the only dates we get are when he's in the sling asleep and we go to a restaurant!
Just today, DH had to go somewhere and I was held up at work, so DH left DS with my brother, whom DS knows very well and sees at least 3-4x per week. By the time I got home, DS had been with my brother for about 45 minutes, crying hysterically the entire time. He immediately became happy and playful when I came home, though he continued to sob lightly for a good hour even while I was home playing with him.
I don't feel like this behavior is abnormal -- he loves other people and is perfectly happy socializing with just about anybody as long as he knows we're nearby. I'm just wondering if there's anything I can do to help DS get used to being away from us for short periods of time? I love that he's as attached to us as he is, but I would love to take DH out for a proper date -- he deserves it for all the work he does as stay-at-home dad!