I am glad to hear you have a plan for stabillity! Sounds like the meds are working great! :-)
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About communicating with him - he is your EX, there is no reason to have any contact with him, except to notify him of the birth. There was violence in the relationship, right? Can you find some free legal aid from a local DV resource and ask about what the legal requirements are with respect to notifying him?
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Ask your dad to pick up the bike for you, you don't need to see the ex again. If you want the bike do the pickup ASAP.
They are working amazingly well. The only time I got even close to yelling while sorting through my damaged belongings was when I saw about the 5th or 6th spider. And even then it was more of a comical, loud-but-not-quite-yell of, "Spiders! SPIDERS! Seriously?! SPIDERS!" And then I started thinking of Ron Weasley. 
 Whereas, without the meds, I'm sure I would have been screaming and crying and possibly throwing stuff. I would say they most definitely work. I think I kept cooler than a lot of other non-bipolar people would. Yay for good meds!!!
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He was not physically violent. When I came back from Oklahoma and all that drama happened he reached over to try and pull me out but he barely got a finger on me when I told him if either of them touched me I was going to press assault charges. But that's the closest he ever got to physical violence. Yes, I know that everything else he's done (driving drunk with me in the car, abandoning me with nothing at 4am, etc.) was absolutely horrible and I most definitely consider it abusive and some of it was rather violent but none of it was ever physically violent. What little I've found on a restraining order says that he has to be physically violent or threaten to physically harm me (and he never outright threatened physical harm to me). I am planning on calling some kind of local DV resource anyway to see if they have any kind of suggestions about anything and I also plan on calling the attorney general to see ask a few questions about how they set custody (even though I'm pretty sure I won't go for child support due to fear of him getting some sort of unsupervised visits).Â
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I'll ask my dad to bring the bike. Or at least see if ex will drop it off at their house when I'm not there. I don't want him knowing that I'm living there, so the plan was to passingly tell him that I'm storing it at my parents' house...so he won't think I'm living there. The last thing I need is for him to know where I live.
 I'm seriously SO overly excited to just be done with him!!!! I can't, can't, CAN'T WAIT!!!!!
