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Library: Best baby gift ever.  Hilarious. You must have good friends with even better senses of humor.  I'm impressed.  And beautiful belly!  You are getting there, woman! How does it feel?

 

Gumshoe: Hope the backs heal soon.  Good to hear that the teens pitched in.  My DD will be 9 when this little one is born, and I'm counting on her helping out through her tween and teen years!  Hmm...it is snowing outside here...maybe I should put her to work shoveling now to get her used to the idea! 

 

Coco: Love the digital pregnancy album.  I'm still amazed that the twins are still in there.  Thinking of all four of you...

 

Cejae: Hoping you get that estrogen drop and some relief from headaches and nausea...but congrats on the articles!

 

5G: Those headaches sound brutal.  Hormones are powerful things, for sure, and you've got the synthetic stuff on top of the usual bunch...ugh.  I think it is a good idea to find an OB or midwife and get established with care--maybe s/he will have some ideas?  I'm sure you don't *have* to stay with your RE until 9.5 weeks.  Tell them you'll send them records from your OB for their files if they want. 

 

AFM: I just got a congratulatory letter from my insurance company, with a warning that if I want to get sterilized at the birth, I need preapproval.  Hah!  Despite my frustration at not having a local sperm supply during ttc, I'm back to being really happy that my DP isn't sporting anything that would require me to a) fill my body with chemicals b) interrupt sex with bc devices or c) get sterilized at age 35.  Let's hear it for the queers! 

 

QOTD: The first time I definitely noticed a queer character on film/stage was the Rocky Horror Picture Show in high school.  I remember being surprised by my attraction to Frank...later, in college, I got together with DP, who was directing Rocky Horror for the theater dorm's production, and she was super androgynously hot like Frank (although she didn't actually play Frank).  Films (early in college) were Go Fish, Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls in Love (SO SWEET!), Watermelon Woman, Desert of the Heart, High Art, and Bound.  In our first apartment together, we had a crazy hot movie poster of Bound in the living room. (Now we have botanicals...ugh).  

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Love the pictures everybody!!  (I had to change my profile pic because I'm so missing summer right now). 

 

Coco - you guys are my sheros.  Making it to 35 weeks and beyond! 

 

5G, I actually had simultaneous care between my midwife and my RE.  My RE is about 45 minutes away, so as soon as I found out I was pregnant I called the midwifery clinic I wanted to use and had an appt with them.  So  I was followed by both simultaneously.  It meant a little bit of coordination, but I really liked establishing a relationship with my primary care team so early (esp given the whole twin thing).  So I'd feel free to go ahead and start making appts with a OB/Midwifery office. 

 

Amanda, I spit out my milk laughing at the sterilization offer.  Ah, compulsory heterosexuality.

 

For those of you who are thinking babynames, Peggy Orenstein just tweeted an article she published 7 years ago on babynames:  http://www.nytimes.com/2003/07/06/magazine/where-have-all-the-lisas-gone.html?src=pm .  Quite interesting. 

 

AFM, don't want to speak too soon, but I had a normal dinner last night!  Salad, lentil soup, decent bread (no good bread can be made over 6 thousand feet.  I'm convinced.  #FoodSnob).  I'm actually beginning to believe that I won't be tortured through this entire pregnancy!  And given that my sister in law just sent me 75 items of her pregnancy clothes (size extra large - which she was convinced would be too big - so not true) I might actually look cute at some point in the next few months. 

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Coco - you guys are my sheros.  Making it to 35 weeks and beyond! 

 

 



Actually, 36 weeks today ! Whew !!

My baby is the shero ;-)

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36!!! 

 

Shoot, I've seen how hard my partner has had to work since I've been pregnant with these guys, way harder than I had to work when she was pregnant with a singleton.  It takes a village to raise a lesbian twin pregnancy!  So you're still both my sheroes (along with the babies of course!)
 

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Coco - you guys are my sheros.  Making it to 35 weeks and beyond! 

 

 



Actually, 36 weeks today ! Whew !!

My baby is the shero ;-)

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AHope~ I'm feeling great, thanks for the compliment! She's been incredibly active lately which, though occasionally painful, is wonderfully reassuring, and I like knowing that she's old enough now that she could survive if she were born. Not without problems and special care, but that she could indeed make it. A great relief! I can't believe I still have three months to go, though. I'm going to be HUGE!!!

 And you're VERY right! Rocky Horror was really the first queer thing I saw, and I was totally attracted to Frank and Magenta.  I remember buying the soundtrack album and making up dances to the songs in my bedroom late at night when I was, like, 11.  Still so wonderful. 

 

 

Cejae~ Yay for eating normal food and looking cute!! I'll bet you'll be adorable in your bumptastic clothes. You'll have to post us another pic soon. And thanks for the article! You're brave to sneak it in there.

 

 

Coco~ It's SO CLOSE now!! Really any day for you guys. I'm sure you're so excited. And yes, your sweetie IS a shero. I hope she knows it!

 

 

AFM~ have really enjoyed sleeping in these last few days. Will be sad when the alarm goes off tomorrow. Though I do have a midwife appointment tomorrow, and it's the one where I take my glucose test. Wish me luck!

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library, good luck with the glucose test! and i agree, your bump is fantastic! orngbiggrin.gif

CJ, cute family! and yay for lotsa maternity clothes!!

AHope, three cheers for queers!

coco, love the album... (though i saw it first on FB wink1.gif)

gumshoe, i tried shoveling tonight... i got about half-way through and DP came to the rescue. it's hard to swallow my pride and admit i can't do somethings for now. don't try it again, k? innocent.gif

carmen, that's too funny about the tylenol... lol.gif

qotd, i have been racking my brain trying to think of the answer... i'm just not sure. i've been exposed to gayness my whole life, so it never really stood out to me as different. my aunt was lesbian and i spent lots of time with my cousin (her daughter) that was just 2 years older than me. i feel like i may have taken it for granted when i saw queer characters on tv or in movies.

afm, like i said, i tried shoveling tonight... ouch! the little monkey is moving all of the time now, kicks up high, punches down low (or at least i hope that's the way it is), lots and lots of squirming. the heartburn has been kicked up a notch and my round ligaments are getting really sore. i can't believe we will meet our babe in just over 10 weeks! love.gif
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Hi, Everyone! wave.gif

 

wehrli and gumshoe - NO SHOVELING!!! This is your time to sit back and let everyone else do the work. Besides, trust me when I tell you that you don't want to be dealing with back problems during pregnancy!

 

library - Cute pic! Good luck on your glucose test!

 

coco - Your DP is a trooper! I was already crazy at 36 weeks with just one baby!

 

cejae - Glad you're feeling better! I lost weight right up until 17 weeks because of all my food aversions. I know how much that sucks!

 

ahope - Um...do people actually get sterilized right after a birth??? Wow! DP and I were talking about the timing of the second baby, which she will carry, and she wants to make sure we don't rush the second pregnancy. In response I *almost* said, "But what if it just happens?" I swear, sometimes I forget we're not like every other straight couple!

I'm too lazy to look back to the previous page, but I'm following along and wishing you all well! blowkiss.gif

 

AFM - 38 weeks tomorrow, so baby could be here any day now! We had a prenatal visit with a pediatric office today and LOVED them! And not a single person in the office seemed uncomfortable with lesbian moms, so that's always a good thing!

 

On the flip side, I have to share this funny story with you all: Last week we met with our accountant, who is the most straight-laced, dry, stuffy type you can imagine. He was clearly uncomfortable with us when we started going to him 4 years ago, but he's gotten much better over the years. Still, straight-laced is an understatement. Well, DP and I were trying so hard not to crack up when I said to him, "So, we have a question about sperm. We have all this extra sperm on ice right now that's fully paid for. Can we write that off this year even though we didn't technically use it yet?" Then we had to explain a little bit about how a sperm bank works, which was even more comical. But to his credit, he handled it well! And, for all of you who may be in the same situation, the answer is YES! You can write off your sperm on ice. Woo-hoo!

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This person is getting WAY too impatient........ After all thats happened, we expected the babies to be here shortly after Christmas... and although I am thrilled that we made it to 36 weeks and that the babies should be petrfectly fine when they are born at this point, the expectation of seeing them soon that has been here for say the past two weeks is wearing my patience thin ! Alas... there is a full moon tonight... who knows !

 

Oh and to all of y'all pregnant moms... NO SHOVELLING !! You've got to leave something for us non-carrying moms to do and gripe about ! ;-)

 

Korey, its good to see you :) I hope for you that your baby comes soon and that everything goes perfectly fine for your birth ! That was a funny story... I had something similar with my accountant a few years back ;-)

 

Gotta run to work...

 

But it sure is nice to see this thread more active :)

 

Coco

xxx

 

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hello all...
I hope everyone is well. We have had an uneventful couple of months. I am now feeling better and completely off medication for the vomiting joy.gif We had our 20 week (and only) ultrasound yesterday. It was wonderful and reassuring to watch the baby move. S/he is very shy so even if we wanted to know the sex we were out of luck. We also have some great pictures of the hands crossed in-front of the face and legs crossed at the ankles. Baby is measuring between 20 and 21 weeks for everything, so right on track.

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Hello everyone!  We're back to Q & P after a 9 month hiatus from anyone being "P" in our house!  We want children close together in age...and since it took almost 3 years to conceive and have our first child we thought we'd start early with the next!  God must be laughing!!  Because, first try and DW is knocked up!  

 

So, our first child will be 17 months old when child #2 comes along!  That is, if baby is sticky--we will be holding our breath for the next 9 months.  bigeyes.gif  It also looks like we'll be making the leap to my being a full time SAHM, I currently work half time.  This is scary and things will be tight, but doable (we hope!)

 

I have been lurking and fingers crossed for those of you currently gestating, or watching someone you love gestate!  As the non-gestator this go'round I'm actually thrilled NOT to be pregnant and thrilled to be having a baby!  Yet another reason I'm delighted to be queer!    

 

So, from the land of 9 month old induced sleep deprivation--compounded by dirty diaper induced puking on the part of the wife...I send warm greetings!

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Welcome back to Q&P wishin'&hopin'!!  Sounds like there are some pretty exciting times starting up in your household.

Painefaria - It's great to hear from you and I'm so glad that you've stopped puking.  That must make life so much better.  Looking forward to your u/s pictures!

Coco99 - No more shovelling, I hear you!  Tonight will be icing out there - apparently they're calling for a flash freeze.  From -30 yesterday to -1 today, what a temperature shift.  And, those babies will come when they're good and ready.  Perhaps they really will be valentine's babies ;)

Korey - Writing off sperm, I love it!  That's such a funny story and such a positive experience at your pediatricians office.  Can't wait to hear your birth story which could be any day now.

Wehrli - It's so funny to read what you write because we're so at similar stages of pregnancy.  My darling daughter is quite fiesty and firey.  In the past week or two her activity has taken right off.  I don't mind most of it, with the exception of cervical stomping.

LibraryLady - I do love the names of those books. I giggled quite a bit.  Hope your GTT went well today.

Cejae - I read the NYT article with interest.  Then I had to google her baby's name - it's Daisy.  This got me thinking on our baby's name which I'll write more about below.  I'm also glad to uncover that you're a foodie and are eating again - yay!

AmandaHope - That letter from your insurance company made me laugh.  But, it's so funny as there's a whole thread in my DDC about birth control and what to do after the baby is born.  For once, I'm glad there's something I don't have to think about.

AFU - I could talk about the shit storm that's happening around me (which is exhausting and simultaneously tedious), but instead I'd like to solicit opinions on our baby's name.  Not the name per say, but context for it.  

The name that we're leaning towards is one that has become quite popular in the US, but didn't even crack top 100 lists in Canada till 2008 (I don't know any kids named this, nor have I heard it called out in any of the kid spaces I've occupied of late).  The thing is our population is drastically smaller than yours States-side.  For the year in question while there were 4 million babies born in the US, there were only 378,000 born in Canada.  I live in the largest province population-wise in Canada where roughly 40% of people reside.  There were roughly 140,000 babies born this year.  The year in question is 2008 and it's not likely that the 2009 data will be released until after the baby is born.

If you're still following the math, the name that we're thinking of was the 24th most popular name in our province that year.  Normally that would make me run away and flee.  However, as the 24th most popular name, there were a grand total of 294 baby girls registered with that name.  Do you hear the crickets chirping?

I've been thinking that I wanted to stay away from popular because I didn't want her to be one of three or four children in a class with the same name. But with so few babies born in my province per year (the number 1 name for 2008 was Olivia with 904 births), how many kids living in a city with a population of 1 million could end up in the same class?  WWYD?

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Wishin n Hopin:  Welcome back and congratulations! joy.gif  Looking forward to sharing this pregnancy journey with you and DP.

 

Gumshoe: I think your numbers logic makes sense--choose the name you really like! 

 

Painefaria: Fabulous pics! So exciting that you finally got to see your little one.

 

AFM: 12 weeks today!  Yay!  (And happy 12 weeks to AmyPDX, too!)

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Painefaria~ What cutie little pix! And what a shy one. I'm glad you didn't want to know 'cause I guess you'd have to wait anyway! And I'm so glad you're feeling better.

 

Wishin'~ Welcome back!!!! I love that little 'dragging the blanket' smiley, so cute! I hope your time as the non-gestator is as much fun as it was being the carrier. Less vomiting on your part, which has got to help.

 

Gumshoe~ Not an easy question, but with those numbers I'd be tempted to go for it. It's not SO many, and it's not like that's the numbers for one particular city. Might be worth the risk?  I'm afraid I'm going to be a trendsetter (always my risk 'cause I'm so awesome winky.gif)  and the name I pick will suddenly blossom into the most popular name ever. My sister named her son Henry, knowing none, and immediately after that, like, four famous people named their kids Henry and now there are a ton in his school year. This is a tough biz!
 

AFM~ My glucose test went well. Drank the kool-aid, which wasn't as bad as I'd expected (the fact that it was given to me ICE COLD had to help) and was relieved that the test no longer involved eating 40 jellybeans in two minutes. I hate jellybeans and the thought of choking them down so quickly made me gag!  Let's hope for good results!

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This is a cut'n'paste from the other board, but I just had to share something that made me actually pee my pants laughing (now, I know it's not hard to make me pee my pants these days, but still, this is excellent).  A word of preface.  The woman who wrote this is a fellow librarian in the school district and one of my good friends. She's throwing me a shower for all the other librarians to attend. The 'Martha' she references is the only librarian in the district who is 'polite but friendly' in that disapproving Christian sort of way, and who recently got married to a guy she met on match.com.  So I get to my school email and the librarian friend has sent me these 'choices' of invitation

 

 

Okay  - choose one of these for the shower invitation (Martha helped me with the last one)
 
A Baby girl
is on the way
To the lesbian
women gay
 
A Baby Girl
isn't that swell
but two mommies
damn's her to hell
 
Amanda and Pennie
sitting in a tree
K I S S I N G
first comes love
then no marriage because it is illegal in the state of Oklahoma
then comes a bastard child conceived out of wedlock by unnatural means
to two sinning lesbos when I can't seem to carry to term and I am legitimately
married and having regular intercourse with a man I met online 

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The name that we're leaning towards is one that has become quite popular in the US, but didn't even crack top 100 lists in Canada till 2008 (I don't know any kids named this, nor have I heard it called out in any of the kid spaces I've occupied of late).  The thing is our population is drastically smaller than yours States-side.  For the year in question while there were 4 million babies born in the US, there were only 378,000 born in Canada.  I live in the largest province population-wise in Canada where roughly 40% of people reside.  There were roughly 140,000 babies born this year.  The year in question is 2008 and it's not likely that the 2009 data will be released until after the baby is born.

If you're still following the math, the name that we're thinking of was the 24th most popular name in our province that year.  Normally that would make me run away and flee.  However, as the 24th most popular name, there were a grand total of 294 baby girls registered with that name.  Do you hear the crickets chirping?

I've been thinking that I wanted to stay away from popular because I didn't want her to be one of three or four children in a class with the same name. But with so few babies born in my province per year (the number 1 name for 2008 was Olivia with 904 births), how many kids living in a city with a population of 1 million could end up in the same class?  WWYD?

 

 

Crashing (from my pre-baby queer lurker status) to weigh in on the name question, because not only have I been name-obsessed since I was a kid, but I also have clearly have an OCD streak, because there is nothing I love better than obsessively looking at baby name statistics (god bless the US Social Security Administration for feeding my addiction).

 

I used to be in the "the rarer, the better" camp, but now, still several years away from kids and anxiously watching my grandmother's name, which I love and really want to use, become trendy, climbing the U.S. charts in leaps and bounds, I've spent some time convincing myself that the ranking doesn't matter as much as I used to think it did.  When I was born in 1978, 3.4% of U.S. baby girls were named Jennifer and almost 25% of baby girls had names ranked in the top 20.  So, is it any surprise that there were 3 Jens and 2 Jessicas and 3 Melissas in every class, and that all of us are trying to avoid this generation’s Jennifer, when naming our kids?  But, here’s where the statistics are interesting.  Things have changed a lot—in 2009, the top ranked name, Isabella, was given to 1.1% of girls and the top 20 names were given to only 12% of baby girls (and even combining different spellings to revise the rankings, you still get nowhere near 25% for that top heap o’names).  So, even the highest ranked name may not result in your child being Abigail Q, these days.  And I think, aside from those extremes of popularity, it doesn’t end up being that big a deal—my name was at #17 (0.84% of baby girls) when I was born, and I was still the only Rebecca in my grade, though there were several others in the grades above and below mine (small town, admittedly), and I truly never thought of my name as over-popular.

 

It may be that our exhaustion threshold “I’ve heard it a million times” has gone down.  There are certainly names that I love that are truly too popular for me to consider, but I think my main considerations, when the time comes are going to be: is the common nickname for my child’s name one shared by several popular names (Maddy, Ellie), and does the name rhyme with a whole group of very popular names (Kaylee/Bailey/Riley, Jadyn/Kadyn)?  As long as it’s a distinct name using those criteria, I’ll try not to be overly concerned about the ranking, if I love the name.  I worry sometimes that the names I like seem to be especially popular with the crunchy, liberal educated crowd that are probably going to be naming my kid’s classmates (oh, that pesky zeitgeist!), so that even if her name isn’t ranked all that high in the general population, she’ll still end up one of several Violets or Hazels or Willows in her class, because of the demographics, but, well, you do the best you can, right?

 

Okay, all that was a very longwinded way of saying that I think you should go with the name you love, because while I don’t doubt the name may keep going up in the rankings, I do doubt that it’s going to get so popular that it’s going to mean your kid will constantly be one of 3 or 4 with the same name.  Loving it is truly what’s important!

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Hey Queer Pregnant people ;-)

 

The twins' eviction date is set ! We went to the doc yesturday and at 36w2d, DP is now 2 cm dilated and 80% effaced. Doc said it could be anytime but that if it comes to that, they will induce at exactly 38 weeks, on the 31st of january. We are so excited !

 

Library, I chose the third "poem" ;-)

 

Hoping that everyone is well !

 

Coco

xxx

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Ooooo, Coco! I bet they come before January 31. Good luck!!! joy.gif

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Coco~ YAY!!!!!!!! I"ll bet they come before then, too. How wonderful! I hope they come on their own.  I can't wait to see the photos!!!

 

And yeah, I choose the third poem too. Ha!!  

 

 

SNOW DAY!!!!  I got to experience one of the best parts of being a teacher. No, it's not awakening young minds and helping to shape the future, it's getting to wake up for work and then suddenly go back to bed. Woohoo!!!  DP's forbidden me from even setting one toe out on the icy porch, so I plan on spending the day in my jammies. 

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 Coco, So exciting!  You guys are so close!  I bet they'll come before induction.  My friends have used acupuncture to get things "moving" as it were, probably more pleasant than pitocin.

 

Library, so jealous.  We *never* get snow days!  Granted, the entire city shuts down for an inch of snow (no joke) but most of the profs live so close to campus, as do the students, that we can all get to class.  Sigh.  So enjoy your day! 

 

Amanda and Amy, congrats on making it through the first trimester! 

 

AFM, I have two precious days of "vacation" left on my couch before classes start.  Feeling slightly better these days now that I'm back on night time anti-emetics.  Well, that and treating myself to croissants, danishes or cinnamon rolls every morning.  ;).

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Coco - Babies!!!! That's so very exciting. You're going to meet the twins any day now.

 

Fillefantome - Thank you for that most excellent analysis.  You very nicely articulated exactly what I was thinking/theorizing/postulating.  I also agree on the criteria of name's I'd avoid.  We have three names now in the running, and I really like one of them and it seems to suit her in-utero personality orngbiggrin.gif.  I guess we'll have to see once she's on the outside.

 

Cejae and LibraryLady - Enjoy your vacation day/snow day.  I wish we'd get a little storm here!

 

AFU - The lawyer's letter is now in my employer's hand. I've dealt with my DS' transgression and now the rest of his punishment is in the hands of DW (let's just say, we found out that a certain child has been stealing from local stores since late-fall).  DD is doing really well on her first set of high school exams.  She's finding the studying a bit too tedious because, you know, an hour of studying each night is just so exhausting nut.gif.

 

We also went to the midwife yesterday for another check up.  I'm 30 weeks today and have graduated to biweekly appointments!  She'll be here so very soon.  The good news, for my pelvis at least, is that I'm measuring about a week behind.  I've never been so happy for a babe in the 75th percentile.  Here's hoping for a 7lb-ish baby!!!

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