Queer & Pregnant: December & January - Page 16

[Coco99]

Yes :) The twins are here and they are both 100% healthy :)

DP had a 9 hour spontaneous birth... but a painful one because the epi only worked on one side of her body... :-( But she is recovering now.

Here are some pics :)

Charlie is in the yellow with pink stripes hat and Chloe is on the pink one :)

(pics didnt work... see in my profile :)

 

Coco

[seraf]

Coco, congratulations! These guys were excited, too.

[gumshoegirl007]

Whooo hooo!!! They're beautiful!!!

[korey]

Hi Everyone! And congratulations Coco and DP!!!!

Baby Girl T was born at 5:43 am yesterday! 6lbs, 9oz, 19 inches.

Warning: harrowing birth story. (Short version)

My water broke at 9am on Friday, but labor didn't start. I was given Cervidil at about 7pm, but it didn't do much. I was started on Pitocin around 4pm on Saturday. Contractions on Pit are awful, and Nubain didn't help at all. I quickly went to an epidural.

For the next 12 hours, they kept turning up the Pitocin and trying to help me dilate, which was slow going. They said that my water broke before my body was ready. The epi "wore off" a few times and had to be turned up a number of times. I have never, ever, experienced so much pain. Ladies, I don't want to scare anyone, and do recognize that this was not a typical birth, but the pain was excrutiating. If you end up needing Pitocin, don't wait on the epidural!!!

By around midnight on Saturday I was pushing. I pushed for nearly 4 hours, and then got the worst news: the baby had turned up and couldn't make it past my pubic bone. After being head down and in "perfect birth position" since 27 weeks, she turns up at the last minute!!! In that position, the widest part of her head was trying to pass through the most narrow part of my pelvis, and it just wouldn't happen. We tried pushing in a number of different positions (even with my numb legs) but nothing changed. After 4 hours of pushing, many hours of Pit, and nearly 48 hours after my water breaking, I had to have a C-section.

Now, when we first checked in, the first thing I told the OB was "no matter what, I don't want a C-section." But there was no alternative. At that point, I was in so much pain and so exhausted that I was afraid I wouldn't even bond with the baby. But when they took her out and she started to cry, we both started to cry and I absolutely did love her and bond with her instantly.

Now she's doing great and, thankfully, nursing pretty well. I can't believe she's only a day old! I love her like she's always been a part of me.

I'm recovering well at this point, and the nurses at this birth center are fantastic!!! What a blessing to have them.

I'm trying to attach a pic - hopefully it works! And I hope I didn't scare anyone too much. Please know that this is not a typical birth story and that things might have gone a whole lot easier for me if I didn't insist on avoiding a C for so long.

Thanks so much for all your ELVs (LOL) and good thoughts and warm wishes! Lots of love to everyone!

[wehrli]

korey! congrats, mama! she's beautiful!!! you did good. i'm so glad that everything went well, sorry you had to suffer through that pain. you did what had to be done and that's all there is to it. enjoy every blissful moment with your li'l girl!

[cejae]

BABIES!!!  What great news - three healthy babies and and a bunch of healthy mamas in one weekend!!!  CONGRATULATIONS!! 

Korey, if it's any consolation - you aren't alone.  Your little one's birth sounds  a lot like my sons birth.  Just about everything went the opposite of what we had planned for and imagined.  And now here we are 3 years later with the happiest, healthiest little guy ever.  What I'm saying is that they might not always arrive in the world the way we had wished, but the incredible live that follows makes that harrowing time pale in comparison.  So big hugs to you. 

[Kjred]

What beautiful babies you folks have. Congrats Korey and Coco!

[AmandaHope]

Congratulations to Coco and Korey!!  Awesome job, mamas!

Coco: 9 hours of labor and a vaginal birth for twins?!  Holy moly--so happy for all FOUR of you!

Korey (Sorry, Burg!): Though I didn't have a c-section, I didn't get the birth I'd envisioned or hoped for, either.  I'm totally with Cejae on the birth receding in importance as you get to know your growing child.  But I'd also say that for many women, it is also important to let yourself mourn for the pain and disappointment of the birth you got.  Of course the baby's and your own health matter most, but a really difficult birth experience can be hugely disappointing and potentially an obstacle to a comfortable transition to parenting if not attended to as needed. So if you need to, I hope you can let yourself experience some loss along with the incredible gift of your daughter in arms.  The bittersweet nature of this will shift over time as you get to know your little love.  Best wishes.

Edited by AmandaHope - 1/31/11 at 4:00pm

[burg]

Congrats Korey!! She is beautiful  Wishing you and DP all the best!! Your story wasn't scary to me because I read Lyndzies months ago- similar progression but much more terrifying detail. I am glad that I read it though because I now feel a little prepared. Thank you for sharing your story! 

Ahope- I think you got Korey and I mixed up again...

AFM- I am scheduled to be induced on Thursday night and my Dr. thinks she will be born sometime late Friday or early Saturday. I caved on the induction for reasons that I won't go into great detail on, but a friend had a very difficult birth this week and the baby is not doing well. It is heartbreaking and I just want my baby safe in my arms now. I also am not in a place where I want to challenge anything the Dr. says because I could not forgive myself if something happened, that is just where I am mentally right now. I am not pro unnecessary medical intervention by any means but I have to say that now that that choice has been made, the planner in me is happy to have a date and a game plan. Very excited to meet my little girl!!

[gumshoegirl007]

Congrats, Korey.  She's absolutely beautiful.  Welcome to the world Little Baby T!  And, thank you for sharing your story.  I know the birth didn't go as you had planned and I have high hopes that you'll be able to make peace with that.

Burg, I have my fingers crossed for a most excellent labour and birth for you this week.  You're making what you believe is the best decision for yourself and your baby girl and that deserves to be totally supported.  Keep us posted on her arrival...and even better, if you post a pic!!!

Who is next?  Is it Wehrli and I???  Any other babies due in February or March?

[wehrli]

Burg, yay for having a plan! Good luck with the induction... I'm sure it'll be fine. Induction doesn't automatically = bad and who knows, maybe she'll arrive before it's even needed!

Gumshoe, Beastie is up next... But then it's us! Yikes! (speaking of which, where are you, beastie? And how are you doing?)

Hey, library... Your not far behind us!!!

So it's the last day of January and burg is about to belong to the "queer and newborn" thread so we need a new thread keeper and a shiny new thread! (I hope you don't mind my asking the group for you, burg, but I figured you had plenty of better things on your mind )

[LibraryLady]

Coco!! Korey!!! SO BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!  Korey, I'm sorry it didn't go as planned, but you and the baby are healthy and together and what else could matter but that!?

Coco~ I'm glad your girls got motivated before Monday, that's just fabulous! They are so adorable, I'll bet they're like magic to hold.

I'll write more soon, but I just wanted to catch up and squeal with excitement at the amazing new women in our world. Well done mamas!!!

[painefaria]

Welcome Babies!!!
Congrats to Coco, Korey and partners I hope that you are enjoying your babymoon

[kgulbransen]

Hi all: Joining your board as I just received a positive blood test reading today from my doctor for my first BFP. My partner and I have been trying for 9 months (11 tries) and hit it using two fresh KDs in one cycle on at home inseminations (ha, ha to the IVF doc that said I really needed to do IUIs!).

My beta is just 28 and I will have to go back for the doubling test on Thursday. I think I was 14DPO when I took the test (yesterday) but FF seems to want me to be at 10DPO when I took the test.

Of course, I'm panicked. I've never been pregnant before and every little symptom has me worried it's going to be chemical because of my age (38). I knew at the least, I would be welcomed over here to do a little obsessing and get a little reassurance from the experts!

EDD: October 11, 2011

Krista

[painefaria]

Welcome Krista So glad to see you here! Here's to a happy and healthy 9 months

[LibraryLady]

Krista~ Welcome!!  October seems like a good time to have a baby. You'll have a cute bump for the summer sundress weather, but won't be too hot when you're enormous and cranky ;)    Nothing will stop you worrying (I think we have to worry or else we're not good moms) but I'm older than you and have been pretty problem-free.  I hope it's the same for you. Looking forward to sharing it with you!

[wehrli]

Krista, welcome among us!!

[gumshoegirl007]

I was so super keen to bring myself one month closer to my EDD that I leaped ahead and started the February and March thread for us over here!!!

Welcome to you, Krista.  I've added you to the roll call.  And, welcome to parenthood where the worries never cease!  Try, if you can, to take it one day at a time and enjoy where you're at.