whining it out vs. crying it out - Page 2

[wombatclay]

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[Choaners]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan 

On keeping the baby close vs. babies needing separation, I think a baby who is kept close can communicate a need for separation far more easily than a separated baby can communicate a need for closeness. So I think it's best to start out with babywearing and cosleeping and nursing at the tiniest peep and then spread out as the baby indicates.

Ditto, this is so wise.

I feel like I understand DD so much better b/c we coslept for the first five weeks.  Both of us needed to be close to each other and i thought that would continue for months.  Then, I just felt like she needed some space to sleep soundly.  I felt like we were waking each other up unnecessarily.  Her little peeps and occasional whines, were just sleep noises.  My need to roll over or pee woke her up, but I needed space to do those things.  So we gave the crib a try.  It made me a little sad, and i, frankly, didn't think it would work.  Now, when she's in her crib, I can still hear those little noises, but understand them much more only because she slept next to me, in my arms, for those first weeks.  Now, rather than sleep in 30-45 minute bursts, she sleeps soundly for 2-4 hours at a time.  But I'm only comfortable hearing her whine a little because she did that in my arms too, and it was usually just a sleep noise.