I got cornered (again) by a family friend at Thanksgiving who proceeded to talk my ear off about why I needed to get DS into child modeling . This is not the first time that she has made her plea to me, and all of my firmly stated arguments against her proposed course of action make her even more belligerent. Thanksgiving was a bit tricky because there was another mother there who has an agent for her daughter, and who is extremely proud that her daughter was in a recent Pottery Barn catalog. So I couldn't be quite as blunt as I wanted to be without hurting feelings. But...
I do NOT want my child's image to be used to sell crap!!
I do NOT want him to be pitched for his consumerist value!!
I do not want him to even know that other people judge him favorably simply because they think he is cute.
I really don't want him to expect benefit from his looks.
I really, really, really don't want him to grow up to be shallow....
But, sigh, people stop us all the time, everywhere so they can gush over DS. It's been happening since he was a little baby. It drives me crazy. crazy. crazy!! I had a thread about this about a year ago and people reassured me that all babies get this treatment...but I think its more than that. Family friend above is not the only one who urges me to get him into modeling...random strangers on the street tell me the same thing. And they think they are giving the greatest of compliments. DS doesn't know what the heck they are talking about yet, but he will soon. How do I shield him from the assumption that his looks are marketable and that somehow that is good thing? I've sheilded him as much as I can from the media thus far, but I can't keep him in the house just because taking him into public makes me uncomfortable.
And don't even get me started about the social value of blond/blue eyedness.
How can I make people understand that I don't think selling my child's image to a world obsessed with consumerism is a good thing?
Anyone have any good one liners?