With our first, we didn't even have a u/s. We didn't want one, and we didn't want a false gender prediction to make everyone go crazy with pink or blue baby things too soon. Some people (who really didn't have a right to be) were mad at us for that, others just waited excitedly with us. I was SURE I was having a boy, but it was a delightful surprise to be the mother of a little girl! We enjoyed using ExpectNet.com for organizing baby guessing among friends and family. My mother won BY FAR, but we gave a little prize to the runner up. Becoming a grandma ON HER 50th BIRTHDAY was enough for my mother!
This time, I really think that I would feel better if I had a u/s. I want to see my healthy baby and have that reassurance. I might change my mind, but I have a lot of peace with that decision for now. We'd do a 20 week diagnostic scan to get the most out of it. We have decided, though, not to find out our baby's gender. At first I waffled, but after realizing how a second baby (especially coming while there is an adorable, vivacious toddler around) can easily be minimized and not nearly as exciting to people as a first child, I decided that I wanted to make this little one's entrance into the world every bit as anticipated as his/her big sister. I have all the gender neutral infant clothes I could ever want, and MORE pink clothes than I know what to do with. Plus, the arrival of a little boy would surely spark a blue shower among church friends in rapid order. I tend to choose gender neutral larger items (my stroller and baby car seat are actually blue and brown) anyway. So I don't NEED to know.
However, I have had SO many people tell me that they think/hope it's a boy. The Chinese prediction calendar says so, and I have a little hope that maybe it will be. It was wonderful having a girl after being so convinced I was having a boy, but I sort of miss that little boy. :) So, I am totally mentally preparing for a little girl. I never had a sister, neither did my husband. No one in our family group or close friend has a pair of little girls to really look to. It's a little scary. We are telling people that we'd love a little boy, but we think it'd be very special for Clara to have a sister. I sincerely hope that no one voices disappointment after the birth! I really think that I won't disappointed be either way. My loving but often tactless MIL announced IN THE DELIVERY ROOM, that she was sorry we didn't have a boy. I was a little ticked! Now she is the ONLY one rooting for another girl, go figure. Maybe she just really wants us to be different from my DH's brother who has a girl and a boy. Trust me, we're different! Now matter how many or what gender of children we have! It's not up to us anyway! :)
Sorry for the rant. :) Yes, we're voluntarily not going to find out what we're having. I'm not sure what to do if the u/s shows the baby with it's legs spread! We'll cross that bridge when we come to it!