I was raised attending Quaker meeting although my parents never applied for membership and appeared, in practice, to be agnostic. They are definitely spiritual but I was not raised within a "faith tradition"--liberal Quakers are much like UU's in that you can BE anything and attend, the meeting had Pagans, Jews, Hindus, Christians, agnostics, spiritual people, etc...My parents were raised Catholic and Episcopalian but abandoned their faith when they found out that to get married in a Catholic church, my parents would have to promise to raise their children Catholic, which was not something they were willing to do.
I converted to Catholicism as a teenager, mostly to get closer to my roots (my grandmother is Catholic) but also because most of my friends were doing confirmation at the same time. I stopped going to Church pretty soon after that, not for any doctrinal reasons just didn't like going to Mass on my own as a teenager and it didn't seem that important to me at the time to keep going, then finally went back once my son was born a few years later. I still struggle with parts of the teachings but for now I'm happy to keep that conversation going. I've spent the past few years growing stronger in my faith and my connection to the Church. I still love the Quakers, what a great community and such strong values, but I find Meeting really boring
and it doesn't "cut it" for me as far as feeling fulfilled in a faith practice.
Compare that to my sibling, who, like me, was raised to be open minded and accepting and culturally Christian (at least as far as holidays go) and was given the chance the make up hir mind as well, and is completely agnostic, doesn't care at all about religion and thinks church is boring.
As far as my kid goes, I trade off taking hir to mass with me and letting my mom take hir to First Day School at the Quaker meeting. I have a lot of respect for how they run their religious education and I definitely want my kid to be exposed to that community, even if I don't attend myself.
I have noticed that many people who were raised in a strong faith tradition, like LDS or Evangelical or Catholic, end up switching to another denomination and some abandon religious practice altogether. I feel like I've read more conversion stories about people going from denom to denom than just nothing to a denom though...it would be an interesting poll!
eta: I wrote this and then spent ALL DAY researching the Episcopalian church thinking it might be a better fit doctrinally....still mulling over the decision of whether or not I can stay in the Church or not, and having a child who's old enough to ask questions about stuff makes it feel more urgent to figure out.Edited by la mamita - 12/6/10 at 2:37pm