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post #41 of 130
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Hi Lisa!  Welcome.gif

 

Welcome to our chat and to MDC.  I'm sorry you have to be a part of this club, but at least we all have each other for support, right?  A molar pregnancy sounds really scary.  When I had my missed m/c, my OB thought for a while that it may have been a partial mole, but that was ruled out after the D&C.  Just to let you know, there's another thread similar to this one in the Pregnancy After Loss forum as well.  You're welcome to join in the conversation over there as well to get to know a bigger group of PAL mamas.

 

post #42 of 130

Thanks Erica! I am glad you did not have to deal with a molar pregnancy. They are not fun!

post #43 of 130

I turned 5 weeks today and still hardly a symptom. It's making me nervous. Probably the one time in my life I wish I'd start feeling sick! eyesroll.gif I am a little more tired than usual but nothing major.. trying to remind myself that I wasn't sick at all with my son and it didn't creep up on me w/my daughter's pregnancy until 7 weeks. I was super sick with my last pregnancy (the one we lost at 15 weeks) and for some reason i feel like I shouldn't be feeling as fantastic as I do right now. I have an appt on 12/29 and they will likely get me in for an u/s within the few days after that.. hopefully we will see a nice strong HB and I will feel a little more relaxed, but I doubt it. I hate feeling like this.

post #44 of 130

I finally caught the cold that the rest of my family has had & I had a fever yesterday.  It didn't even last overnight, but this morning my boobs don't hurt anymore and I'm afraid I lost the baby.  

post #45 of 130

Oh movingmomma :hug I know how hard it is not to worry.  But during the pregnancies for my second and third child...my boobs never even hurt at all!  Symptoms can come and go so randomly.  I hope it all turns out great for you.

 

Ok ladies.  I need some support.  The ultrasound on Wednesday showed nothing.  I assumed another miscarriage, mourned, posted a goodbye thread here and everything.  But I feel more and more pregnant everyday.  I'm even showing...a lot.  I have zero signs of miscarriage.  I just took a dollar store test and got a fat, dark line right away.  I believe that I am still pregnant after all and they just made a mistake at the clinic (it wasn't a real doctors office, just a little funky pro-life clinic where they offer free ultrasounds).  But I am so afraid to get my hopes up just to be crushed again.  This waiting game blows.  I wanted to vent/share here cause I knew you all would understand.  

 

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. 

post #46 of 130

Shannon- If it helps, I got the flu at 5ish weeks with my first born, and got a cold/sinus infection with my second born at 6ish weeks. I have had a cold for the past week and a half (pretty much since we found out about #3)... They say your immune system is down a little in prenancy, so you are more likely to catch sickies. I hope eveything is ok!

 

CrazyCatLady- I hope it was just too early for an u/s! Are you going to go back for another one?

 

Lisa

post #47 of 130

CrazyVatLady - I hope everything turns out well. Thinking of you!

post #48 of 130

CrazyCatLady: hug2.gifhug2.gifhug2.gif  You're not sure of your dates, right?  I hope you can get in for a more reassuring u/s soon!

 

AFM:  My boobs hurt again!  I think I was just dehydrated after the fever and lots some of the extra fluid that was making them sore!  Sore breasts is a huge deal for me, b/c w/my two DD's I had super sore breasts, but w/my miscarriage they never hurt.  I'm trying to get back to my positive state of mind.  I don't want to spend this pregnancy in fear.  Immune system-wise I seem to be doing ok b/c I got over the thing 2-3 times faster than everyone else in the family!

post #49 of 130

I am SO glad to see this thread!!  I'm really a wreck at this point.  I've had two miscarriages already this year (and other's before this year) and I just don't think I can take another.  I thought telling people would make me feel better or at least like it's more real but now I wish I hadn't told b/c if anything happens I'll have to untell.  My husband totally doesn't get me AT ALL.  He just keeps saying to "think positive" and all that mumbo jumbo but I just stopped crying daily over my last miscarriage.  I can't imagine another.  I was always dissappointed when I would start AF and I wasn't pregnant but then I was sort of relieved too b/c this stress is so awful.  I did have hcg done.  On 8dpo it was 19 and on 11dpo it was 147!!  So that was great!  Plus I've needed progesterone the last few times but this time my progesterone was 43 on it's own (usually it was around 9 or 12).  So, that's amazing.  I have zero symptoms except being hungry but I'm WAY early.  Plus, with my first miscarriage I was SOOOOO sick the whole time and miscarried at 10 wks so I wonder why they say being sick is good?  IDK.  I'm sick everytime so whatever.  I'm rambling.  I'm so sorry.  I just love having people that understand what I"m going through.

 

I am now going to go back and re read everyone's posts.  I read some but not all.  Hugs and prayers for you all and your little ones.  Thank you again for being here.

post #50 of 130

So now I have myself freaked out. Ok...this is TMI, but I'm sure I'm not the only one who does it. I CONSTANTLY check the toilet paper. Tonight, there was a little bit of red blood...just small little spots. That was a few hours ago and nothing since. I am pretty sure I irritated myself from constantly checking, but of course I have myself freaked out. I wish I could just calm myself down.

post #51 of 130

Jenn were you checking internally?  I used to do that ALL THE TIME and yes, I'd get spotting occasionally, especially in early pregnancy!  Stop checking lady!

 

 

I'm surprised that this, my third pregnancy since my last big m/c (I've had a chemical since then) and I'm STILL a nervous wreck!  Jan 7th seems SO far away. 

post #52 of 130
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Jenn were you checking internally?  I used to do that ALL THE TIME and yes, I'd get spotting occasionally, especially in early pregnancy!  Stop checking lady!



Not internally. I think I irritated my perineum (TMI) from always checking. That's what I'm telling myself. I'm trying to stop....really!

post #53 of 130

I check that way alot too.  I need to stop obsessing.  I'm not sick at.all.  The only symptoms I have is being more hungry than usual.  It seems like I had other symptoms at this point before but who knows.  I hate this waiting.  I have an u/s on 12/31.  I am praying for good news b/c who wants to ring in the new year waiting for a miscarriage?

post #54 of 130

Yup. No symptoms here other than tired and cranky, but my 12 month old does not sleep thru the night, so it could be from not sleeping at all last night. i am always checking the tp also. i spot in pregnancies though, so its normal for me. i havent had too much spotting with this one, which doesnt really make me feel better. i cant wait till thrusday and my appt!!!

post #55 of 130
Thread Starter 

I hope everyone had a nice weekend!

 

Erika:  Go easy on yourself...it sounds like it's normal for you to not have symptoms until a little later in the pregnancy.  I hope you get your u/s scheduled real soon so you can feel a little better.

 

Shannon:  I'm so glad your boobs are hurting again! winky.gif  I hope your flu/cold passes quickly so you can enjoy the holidays.

 

CrazyCatLady:  I'm glad you're back with us.  What an awful roller coaster ride you have been on!  I hope you can get some answers about your dates soon and have some peace.  Keep us updated. hug.gif

 

Amy:  I'm so sorry for all your losses, but glad that you found us in this thread.  We all have different, but similar, stories and it's so nice having a community of mamas who get it to lean on.  Congrats on your good betas!

 

Jenn:  I'm sorry sorry you had that scare.  You're in my thoughts, mama!  I agree with Jill...quit checking!!! 

 

Lisa: My 18mo doesn't sleep through the night consistently either...I feel your pain.  It's bad enough having pregnancy fatigue.  Adding toddler night issues on top is just plain torture!

 

AFM:  My u/s on 12/29 can't come fast enough!  I keep fighting the urge to call my doctor's office and demand to come in this week.  I know it won't change anything though and if it does end up being bad news, I don't want to be dealing with that over Xmas.  I want to be as present and cheerful as possible for DS.  This will be his first xmas where he really "gets" what's going on and I just don't want to do anything to ruin that for him or our family.  We aren't planning on telling the family about this pregnancy until we have a confirmed heartbeat and it's getting really hard to keep it from my mom.  It will be interesting this weekend...

 

post #56 of 130
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Hey girls...I've been having a problem and I thought I'd share it with you all to see if anyone else can offer any suggestions/advice.  I'm having a really hard time engaging with the rest of the threads in the DDC.  It's like I'm afraid that if I participate in the community it'll seal my fate for another loss or something.  I really want to get to know some of the other mamas out there because everyone seems really great and I've been lurking like crazy.  I've even started to post to a discussion a couple of times and then just canceled it instead of submitting.  I hope I can get past this eventually. Maybe once I have my u/s next week, and it's good news, I'll feel more confident to join the club.

post #57 of 130

hug2.gif to you, Erica, PAL is so hard.   Yes, hopefully after your U/S which isn't far away, you'll feel more able to join in.

post #58 of 130
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Originally Posted by egmaranian View Post

Hey girls...I've been having a problem and I thought I'd share it with you all to see if anyone else can offer any suggestions/advice.  I'm having a really hard time engaging with the rest of the threads in the DDC.  It's like I'm afraid that if I participate in the community it'll seal my fate for another loss or something.  I really want to get to know some of the other mamas out there because everyone seems really great and I've been lurking like crazy.  I've even started to post to a discussion a couple of times and then just canceled it instead of submitting.  I hope I can get past this eventually. Maybe once I have my u/s next week, and it's good news, I'll feel more confident to join the club.



Look, don't think what you're feeling is wrong. I believe in the old midwives saying that you aren't really pregnant until you miss two periods, so none of us are even there yet, except a few of us early August mammas this week.

 

The recent threads have shown so much loss among this group this time around, it really hits home how true that saying is.

 

We spend a lot of energy downplaying our excitement out of fear, and I am guilty of that. I belong to a mediation group and I brought this up this week. Fear never serves us. My advice given to me was to make a contract with myself to accept that I may have to face disappointment and pain, but I have a much greater likelihood of avoiding that pain, so I should allow myself to tap into that pure joy I could feel for this moment.

 

I have been able to put the fear at bay for now, but I have still been shy to tap into that pure joy. We are telling my dd on christmas, and although I will be only 8.5 weeks, it feels OK in my gut. She has been begging to be a big sister for ages, so I know she will model authentic joy and excitement for us and lead us that way.

 

Parenting is the best spiritual teacher, even starting now, to examine the strength of our patience, our ability to manage our anxiety, and to be fully present and loving for them, even in utero.

 

This is hard stuff, but every effort we put into it is a gift to ourselves and our children.


Edited by xmasbaby7 - 12/21/10 at 2:26pm
post #59 of 130
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Originally Posted by egmaranian View Post

Hey girls...I've been having a problem and I thought I'd share it with you all to see if anyone else can offer any suggestions/advice.  I'm having a really hard time engaging with the rest of the threads in the DDC.  It's like I'm afraid that if I participate in the community it'll seal my fate for another loss or something.  I really want to get to know some of the other mamas out there because everyone seems really great and I've been lurking like crazy.  I've even started to post to a discussion a couple of times and then just canceled it instead of submitting.  I hope I can get past this eventually. Maybe once I have my u/s next week, and it's good news, I'll feel more confident to join the club.

i'm following your suggestion & joining this PAL thread. i can also identify with your hesitation to post much at all, i haven't much so far either. i'd say don't be down on yourself for the hesitation, just understand our fears are ok. i don't think anyone holds it against you for lurking & not posting til you feel it's "safe".

 

can someone confirm my EDD & how pregnant i am right now?


here's my chart link showing this cycle & last month's that ended in loss: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/31b61f

 

so, to my thinking, if last cycle i O'd CD15 & we DTD -3 O, the day of, & +3 O, then i must have concieved the day i O'd. then i lost Molly on CD35. so i was exactly 5w preg, 3w gestational age, right?

 

so this time, i O'd CD16 & we DTD -3 O & +1 O, then i must have concieved the day after O. so right now i'm 4w1d, 1w6d gestational age. is this right?

& if so i'm only 8 days away from reaching my milestone gestational age? or 6 days away from being "technically" 5w preg? help, i'm confused.

 

& if i enter LMP as the day i lost Molly into a DD calculator i come up with august 31. & if i use the day we DTD after O as the conception date, i come up with an EDD of september 2.

 

sorry this is long winded & a bit confusing. just wondering if anyone else wanted to play with my numbers, i've been trying to stay busy & not worry, but then this morning i thought "how far along AM i?!" thanks ladies.

post #60 of 130

Mohawk: I'd put O on CD 17 on both charts.  CL at 98 on both.  The date of "conception" for dating purposes is the day before your temp shift (aka O day), not the closest BD to O.  Prem's rule for EDD is O + 9 months - 7 days.  So for your miscarriage, your EDD would have been July 30 and you miscarried at 4w5d.  And now your current EDD is Sept. 3 and you are at 3w5d today.  And big hug2.gif, I'm very sorry about Molly.  That's a lovely name.

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