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post #121 of 191

40 + 3 and surprisingly not feeling too antsy.  This is my first baby and I really wasn't expecting anything in particular in terms of timing.  My midwife has been reminding me that the 40 week time line includes all the outliers (including preemies, twins and other multiples) and that healthy, first time mothers go into labor an average of a week to 10 days "late".  Despite it being the holiday season, I have been hibernating in my house.  My family is very supportive and have been great about respecting my space and boundaries.  My dad is here from the other side of the country and my mom, MIL, and sister bring me snacks and tell me not to worry.

 

I am definitely getting ready to meet this little girl, but I am also trying to just let go and trust that it's all going to happen when and how it does for a reason.  From what I can tell, getting through natural labor is all about surrendering to the process, I am doing my best to practice that right now.

post #122 of 191

Thanks northcountrymamma! This was my 41 week present to myself :) I seriously need something to keep my sanity intact. I am feeling SO nauseous tonight. I forced myself to eat a biggish (for me) meal earlier...I have been seriously missing my protein (I should start my shakes back up) and so this meal had a lot. Made me feel a little bit better...until now LOL I seriously do not want a Christmas baby either, but I am hoping to go into labor tomorrow and just birth him Sunday. That sounds like a plan, right? LOL!

post #123 of 191

Melek, LOVE the belly and the henna!!  Soooo beautiful!!

 

I am 40+5 and was pretty sure I was having a Christmas morning baby.  I was up for several hours last night with contractions 3ish min apart.  They weren't super strong and I didn't wake DH up, but they were definitely "real" verses BH.  I laid down plastic and tried to hook up the hose to fill the pool (only to discover the attachment doesn't fit!) and then decided to lay down and listen to my Hypnobabies until I needed to get up and that ended up being 7am when the kids got up to open presents.  I am glad to have avoided a Christmas morning birth, but I am getting ready to meet this baby!  We stayed home for Christmas this year, we got 8 inches of snow yesterday, I while it was really nice to be home, I missed our family Christmas'.  Maybe tonight? 

 

 


Gucci&Granola, I love your sentiment!  I really want this baby to pick it's own birthday too.

post #124 of 191

All I want for Christmas is my baby!  I'm stuck in a hotel room, I've been gone from home for weeks, and we're not even doing Christmas this year.  My son's not quite 2, so he doesn't know what he's missing.  We have invitations to go visit some folks later today, but I don't really feel like I want to even see anyone, just to hear more well-meaning comments and questions about how I still don't have a baby. 

 

I'm 41+1 today, twice as "overdue" as I was with my son, and feeling like nothing will ever happen.  I have Braxton Hicks all the time, but not a single contraction that's remotely painful.  Even nipple stimulation, which supposedly produces long hard contractions, does absolutely nothing for me. 

 

I woke up this morning and saw the little "baby's first christmas" onesie that someone gave me and just started to cry.  Due on the 17th, I was so sure I'd have a baby by Christmas!

 

Gucci and Granola - that's a great attitude.  I wish I could get back to that point myself. 

post #125 of 191

I got a mother's ring for Christmas from my DH.  It has the stones for DD, DS, and a Dec stone for this one, now the pressure is on!!!

post #126 of 191

Yeah, I have a little "elf in training" onesie that I got....so sure baby would be here by Christmas. Oh well, I am still going to put him in it and take pictures by the tree LOL I plan to spend today in the bathtub, then the movies, then crying myself to sleep in bed. My desperation tastes like egg nog today LOL!

 

Thanks Sarah! I love your henna too!

post #127 of 191

Hugs to all of you still waiting!  The holiday must make it so hard.  Hopefully it will be encouraging to hear that waiting worked very well for me.  She was born 5 hours after the contractions woke me up without the midwife even here yet.  She self latched in the first half hour while we hung out and waited on the midwife.  She's so strong and we had a great night.  It might be my bias, but for me it was worth waiting for her to pick her day.  (+12)

 

I love all the henna bellies!

post #128 of 191

CSS - so glad for you! And how wonderful that she chose her birthday!

 

We had a little christmas stocking for the baby this am and santa left a letter for dd asking her to please give the baby the gifts when baby arrives. We had them because we thgouht baby would be here by now...figured we may as well put them out!  I'm grateful that we didn't have a christmas baby though, it was a wonderful, beautiful day for the three of us...the first that we have had just us, without extended family. 

 

mckittre - that must be so hard to be away from home for so long. I had a friend in AK who had to do this when her last baby was born, it was hard for her...but that wasn't even during the holidays. Hope your wee one makes it's way to you soon!

post #129 of 191

Great, we're expecting a blizzard tomorrow in NYC. I'm praying the kid waits a few more days to come out...

post #130 of 191

Yay CSS!

 

And I love all the henna too.  At this point, I just feel like my big belly is an annoying protruberance that's making my back sore and not bringing me any sort of baby to go with it.  Decoration might help. 

 

I was too Grinch-like to do Christmas at all today, though we did go to some friends for dinner.  We don't really have our own traditions yet, since my son isn't quite 2, and doesn't yet know what's going on.  But after seeing that seemingly everyone we know has given him something (some nice, some junk) and knowing that there's a whole bunch more waiting for him at home when we eventually get back, I'm wondering if I want to nip it in the bud and skip Christmas entirely from now on.  We can't fit much more in our yurt, and I hate people going out and buying new resource-using stuff I don't need.  Or maybe I'm just feeling anti-holiday because I'm stuck in a hotel?  Both, probably. 

 

I really really want to hold out and let this baby pick its birthday, but it'll get harder to do as I get towards 42 weeks.  Please come soon!

post #131 of 191

Mckittre, I am kind of starting to feel the way about gifts. We have so many junky, cheapo plastic toys that just break and take up a whole lot of space in the house (I know you have a lot less space, but still...it's the principle). This year, I only bought things like books and art supplies for Christmas and I feel really good about that. These are things that will expand DS' creativity and vocabulary (he is slightly speech delayed but has been making amazing progress lately!) instead of just making a whole bunch of annoying noise while blinking obnoxious lights. But then again, maybe I am a little grinchy too....my FB profile pic is the grinch LOL

 

Also, why am I still pregnant? FML

post #132 of 191

i am still here 3 days over

boxing day sale in my tummy

everything must go  LOLOL

post #133 of 191

hey mamas,

we nipped Christmas in the bud a while back by making sure that we were only getting things for dd that were smallish (we live in a small house) and practical for her day to day use. We don't have any plastic in our house (well completely for toys or kitchen stuff) and everyone is well aware. This year was really nice, dd got a few great family games (we don't have a tv and play a game almost every night before bed), a bunch of new books and some *real* art supplies (watercolour set, art paper and brushes). She also got a few things for her dollhouse, which she adores and has been playing with since she woke up a few hours ago!  Our families and friends have long since realized that these are the kinds of things that fit with our lifestyle. It's nice for dd to still enjoy a holiday season that all her friends enjoy but feel so satisfied with small scale stuff. Despite all this dp blew the small scale with a GT snowracer...alas, it looks like she's going to really love it!

 

we didn't do much until dd was 3, it worked out well...gradually making it into what works for us. I lived in a tiny little cabin with no amenities, smaller than most yurts, back in those days...I totally get where you are coming from mckittre. 

 

as far as gifts for others...making most of our gifts was not only nice for dd and I to put our hearts into gifts for them, but for them...I loved seeing the joy on their faces when they stopped by to exchange gifts. 

 

but I digress...still waiting here too, not that I'm all that overdue, but still anxious and excited to meet this little bean.  Strong surges are continuing each night...but nadda. Goodness...this is a lot of practice, I feel like I'm going to be 5 cm by the time I actually go into labour! lol

post #134 of 191

northcountry, lawmama:  If it was just us buying gifts, I don't think Christmas would be a problem at all.  We didn't buy anything at all for him.  The problem is everyone else!  Many well meaning relatives, and my son is the first (and only until this darn baby shows up) grandchild on both sides of the family.  We try to tell people the kind of things we like, and to avoid buying new stuff, but it only works with some people, and only so much.  It seems almost more petty to badger people about what they're allowed to get us than to just say they should get us nothing at all. 

 

41+3 today.

Does anyone have any good links for statistics on the risks of induction vs. waiting as you get towards (or past) 42 weeks?  I was holding out hope that I wouldn't make it to my appointment on Tuesday, but it looks like I probably will, and I'll have to talk to the midwives about whether to induce me this week or not.  They don't have any firm "rules" (other than the NSTs and ultrasounds), but will probably push for it, so I'd like to be informed going in.

 

northcountry:  I would kill for any contraction that felt like it was doing anything at all!  I get braxton hicks absolutely constantly, but nothing I do gives me even a single one that hurts.  (though I have plenty of general pregnancy discomfort by now).

post #135 of 191

40+6 today, I'm also now officially the most pregnant I've ever been.  Maybe the baby wants to share a birthday with me!  My birthday is the 28th and I've been telling myself that I won't get impatient until then, so hopefully the baby will be here by then!   I'm getting tired of talking to people, I've been ignoring my phone for the most part and no one is really giving me a hard time, I just want to be anti social I guess.  My poor kids keep asking about the baby and what are we doing tomorrow and I have to keep say, we'll see, it depends, etc.  DH was really planning on not going back to work until the 1st of the year and is getting sad at the prospect of having to go back tomorrow. 

 

I don't really know how I feel to be honest.  My mantra lately has been, "I welcome this baby, I welcome this birth" because for some reason I still have some anxiety about it.  I don't think it's about having a baby or a 3rd kid or anything like that, it's like I just can't picture it.  I can't picture this birth, I can't picture this baby.  I've had anxiety this pregnancy about this baby having a birth defect or something being wrong in some way.  I don't know if that's my hang up or this baby just needs to cook a little longer.  Anyway, I'm working on it and hoping the baby joins us soon.  I really want to know who this is!!!  I don't have any names picked out at all and need to meet this baby to know who they are supposed to be, maybe that's part of my hold up?  I'm feeling disconnected from this baby for some reason......  Can anyone empathize with this?  I don't remember this so much with my others.  We don't find out sex prenatally and I've never been one that feels like I know the baby or and especially bonded to the baby before it's born, but it feels bigger this time?  Argg....I just don't know.

post #136 of 191

Hi there mamas!  Sorry, I have been lurking, I am not overdue yet so have not felt like I should write but have been getting a lot of comfort from this group.  I thought I would have an early date as I started losing plug just before 37 weeks and have had lots of BH and cramps every evening since then, but nothing...  I am huge and heavy (I was previously a little person with fast metabolism and have since gained normal metabolism and gained 40% of my previous weight, the upper limit on what is recommended for sure!)  So anyway, I have been reading your posts and commiserating, shuddering at the thought of going a week or two over....  You all have my deepest sympathy!

 

Mckittre - I feel for you stuck in a hotel room!  Did you say that was with your mother?  Terrifying.  If we stayed in Alaska that is what I would be doing now, we lived in a very remote area too.  But for some reason I never could get pregnant there, but bang, as soon as we got to New Zealand it happened.  I am relieved now, we have a much easier set up here.  

 

Gifts are tricky, I like what you are all trying to do.  I was just watching my sister and partner a bunch of self-bought pressies for their new little one, lots of brightly colored plastics with lights and annoying noises.  It made me feel a little depressed.  The whole plastic consumer thing just depresses the hell out of me, ugh, is this the world we live in?...  DH and I drove home from the family Xmas planning another escape, trying to figure out a way to live like gypsies, wandering through a wilder and less "affluent" society.  Life definitely seems more real, and I know I have felt more alive when living in a more "back to basics" way.  

 

Happy Birthday for the 28th Sarah!  I hope you are holding your little one by then! 

post #137 of 191

Hey, I don't have any links, but I know there is a book out there called Obstetrical Risks v. Research Realities that some people recommend highly. I am not sure you could get your hands on it in time, but it has a TON of research. Maybe you could ask in the general "I'm pregnant" forum and get some good input? One of my friends who decided to go to 43 weeks a few months ago really found it helpful. I believe there is an increased risk of the placenta not functioning as well (although I think this is as you get closer to 43 as opposed to just over 42) and possibly starting to calcify, but I think there are also benefits to a lot of people (I am just not sure what they are LOL, but I do not want to throw out a lot of horror stories and make it seem like there is nothing positive about going past 42).

 

AFM, I am not comfortable going past 42, so we start "at home induction" Wednesday (to give it time to work). I am not sure exactly what it entails, but I think we start with more mild stuff and then work our way up....I am thinking maybe cohosh? They already told me castor oil will be the last resort. Bebegim, who I mentioned got her HBAC at 2 weeks past her DD, used castor oil and it sent her into labor, so I am hopeful for that. I am really getting desperate...I even had sex last night, and let me tell you. TMI, but we haven't had sex in longer than I care to admit. My sex drive is in the toilet and, for me, sex was like a last resort LOL I seriously almost went and bought castor oil before I tried sex but then I rethought that. Ha!!! Of course, nothing happened....and this baby, who by now is way too big to be pulling this, LOVES to lay entirely on my left side. It is so uncomfortable, especially when I am trying to roll over or get up from laying down!! Man, I am seriously losing hope over here. It just feels like I am staring down the barrel of having to go to the hospital and who knows what will happen then...chemical interventions? c/s? ugh. Last night, I had a really good, long cry and it helped a little, but not nearly as much as having this baby would.

 

Also, January is having some (full term) babies now. I am now banning myself from lurking on that board mecry.gif
 

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northcountry, lawmama:  If it was just us buying gifts, I don't think Christmas would be a problem at all.  We didn't buy anything at all for him.  The problem is everyone else!  Many well meaning relatives, and my son is the first (and only until this darn baby shows up) grandchild on both sides of the family.  We try to tell people the kind of things we like, and to avoid buying new stuff, but it only works with some people, and only so much.  It seems almost more petty to badger people about what they're allowed to get us than to just say they should get us nothing at all. 

 

41+3 today.

Does anyone have any good links for statistics on the risks of induction vs. waiting as you get towards (or past) 42 weeks?  I was holding out hope that I wouldn't make it to my appointment on Tuesday, but it looks like I probably will, and I'll have to talk to the midwives about whether to induce me this week or not.  They don't have any firm "rules" (other than the NSTs and ultrasounds), but will probably push for it, so I'd like to be informed going in.

 

northcountry:  I would kill for any contraction that felt like it was doing anything at all!  I get braxton hicks absolutely constantly, but nothing I do gives me even a single one that hurts.  (though I have plenty of general pregnancy discomfort by now).

post #138 of 191

mckittre - found a few links for you:

 

http://www.midwiferytoday.com/enews/enews0811.asp

http://www.midwiferytoday.com/enews/enews1220.asp

scroll to the bottom for both of these articles which may be of help

 

have you tried any homeopathic remedies at this point?  I don't know which ones but I have heard that some can bring it on when baby is ready. 

 

hope baby comes soon and you get to go home. 

 

post #139 of 191

So, there's definitely something going on with me *down there*. TMI to follow: around midnight, I noticed that my vagina was super wet. And the fluid had a watery like consistency. I admit, I had a little mini freakout, but I was able to wipe it and it wasn't leaking down my leg or making any pee like noises when i sat on the toilet (which I assume amniotic fluid would? I have no idea). Anyway, this has kept up all night. I mean, my vagina is soaked. And I have actually had a few painful contractions tonight. I didn't want to wake my midwives because I have been googling amniotic fluid leaks and all of them talk about being unable to stop it with Kegels, which I assume means it feels like a flow....so far, I don't think I would describe it like a flow, more like a steady coming. I really don't know. I am going to put on some underwear (I should mention I have been sleeping in the buff, so I am not sure if that affects anything as far as what I should expect to see or feel) and just rest some more. I went ahead and sent my MWs a facebook message about it. They probably have those little ph strips and can test it to see if it is amniotic fluid. I am trying not to get my hopes too up. Either way, it is something new and different, which means my body is doing something, for which I am grateful.


ETA: My MW is coming over to check me in a couple hours. Going to try to rest up until then. She said it sounds promising, but I am trying not to get excited. LVs appreciated!!!


Edited by lawmama1984 - 12/27/10 at 4:39am
post #140 of 191

Ok, I want to join this thread now. I'm usually not online often, so don't post much on the board, but I am so bored and need to vent! I am 5 days past my due date, and baby is not engaged.  I'm trying to stay positive, but it's hard.  I'm also feeling like I'm under time constraints because my family is taking ds to their place today, and can only keep him for a week.  I want to have this baby by then!!! Anyways, I'm trying to walk and clean a lot.  I have been reading about every possible way to get labor going.  The wierd thing is nipple stimulation was working ver effectively to get contractions started, but now it doesn't seems to make anything happen anymore.  Any ideas on why?

 

Lawmama, I hope this is it!!  It sounds so exciting.  Update and let us know what the MW says!!!

 

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