:Sorry if this is long - need to vent a little!:
DH and I just moved to a new town 3,000 miles away from home for DH's job. We've been here for almost 3 months now and I'm starting to feel pretty lonely and miserable. I'm a SAHM to an amazing 11 month old baby girl, but just having her and DH to interact with on a day to day basis is wearing a little thin. I feel like a need a friend or someone else to hang out with or even just talk to from time to time.
So, I started looking into finding some other local moms, and I did find them - several, in fact. There is a local moms' group here that meets weekly and is organized according to your child's age, so that you're put into a group with other moms who all have children in the same age group as yours. It sounded wonderful, so I emailed the group leader and asked to join. They signed me up for their group email list and started sending me invites to their weekly playdates.
Here's the problem: they are all wealthy, and we are not. In fact, compared to many of the families around here, we are dirt poor. My husband works for Ritz-Carlton, so we live in an area that attracts and caters to the super-rich, even though we are far from it.
As far as we are concerned, we are pretty broke. We rent a small cabin on the outskirts of town, we only have one car, we shop mostly at thrift and consignment stores. I make most of DD's toys and we don't have TV. I haven't had a new pair of jeans in 3 years and the most dressed up I usually get is a pair of yoga pants and one of DH's thermal shirts. I cook all of our food, clean my own house, and burn wood in the fireplace to heat our home. I make DD's baby food and we CD. In other words, we are pretty much the complete polar opposite of every family in town.
I first became nervous about the mom's group when I got the schedule for the next month's playgroups, organized at member's homes. One night when DH got home from work, I decided to stalk a little and drive around to some of the addresses on the playgroup list. Each house was bigger and more expensive looking than the last. I gave up when the last house had a private gated entrance and I couldn't see beyond the front courtyard.
So, I am feeling a bit lost. What would you do if you were in my situation? Would you strap baby to your back, walk down the mountain and into town, and take your chances with the rich folks? Or would you be too embarrassed to even show up not driving a Lexus or a Mercedes? DH thinks I should at least try, that not every mom in town could possibly be a millionaire. I'm just afraid that when I show up with DD in a sling and a bandana on my head they'll mistake me for the cleaning lady, lol Any advice or suggestions?
Thanks for reading mamas! :)
Edited by NevadaMama - 12/28/10 at 5:02pm