...by this mom who is having new problems.
I posted a couple months ago about wanting to nightwean DD, who was then just under 2 years. We followed Dr. Jay's plan and about half our nights now she goes down around 8-8:30 and doesn't wake up until almost morning. The other half she wakes up maybe once - sometimes only 45 minutes after I put her down, sometimes not until 3 am. She's a little unpredictable that way, but it's mostly been very good.
The problem is that she wakes up at ALMOST morning. I've committed not to nurse her until it's light out. But for the past week or more, she's woken up every morning around 5:30 a.m., about an hour before it's light here. And she will NOT fall back asleep till it's light.
I feel very very frustrated and stuck, because it's not like she's just awake and babbling to herself. She's SCREAMING at me. If I gently say, "Dark time is for sleeping, light time is for being awake," or "We nurse when it's light. It's still dark now." or something, she just screams. We do EC and I know she needs to pee when she wakes up but she works herself into a crazy state almost instantly when she awakens and won't pee. Today she peed on my bed; that was the first time that had happened in months. I could diaper her, but a) I'd rather not go backwards on the potty learning, and b) she'd still get super upset before peeing anyway.
She gets contradictory and hyper and freaks out during these morning times. First she wants me to be in her little bed with her, then she wants to get on the big bed. She wants to get up and down. All the while she's trying to shove her hands down my shirt and begging for nanas.
I think we need to come up with a plan and just stick to it until this gets better, because right now we're all over the place in the mornings and I just don't know what I'm doing. We could go back to nursing at 5:30, but I don't want to backpedal on the Dr. Jay plan - that just seems like a bad idea. I could leave the room at 5:30 and let her papa come in so she's not around the nanas. I could wear substantially more clothing around the boobs and get better earplugs. We could put up the 4th side of her toddler bed so she's enclosed and let her CIO for that one hour between 5:30 and light. We could completely placate her, walk around, go up, go down, do whatever she says she wants to keep her from freaking out until the sun comes up. I'm just at a loss.
I say terrible things to her and behave horribly when she's screaming at me. She pulls my hair and kicks very close to my face. I know this will pass naturally in a few months' time, but it feels like a very unhealthy way for us to start our day. I'm also not against cutting out the a.m. nursing time altogether.