My DP would very much like for us to share a surprise and reveal on birthing day. This would be my first time not knowing and our very last baby ever. I want to know so badly! I also want to respect my partner and honour this very important wish. Sort of. I'm terribly curious!
I don't have any huge issues as far as gender specific clothing (I prefer newborn neutrals), a long-awaited son or daughter (already have some of each of those!) or naming. Well, I would dislike having to debate and compromise and go back and forth and mutually fall in love with two names rather than the one we'll actually use. I love that my older children have, in the past, chatted about the baby and used their name - we don't say "the baby" but talk as if the LO is a legitimate person with a name and identity.
I'm the kind of person who doesn't like surprises. I want to know the end of the story first. If I'm getting a Christmas gift and have a choice I'd prefer to have it now because I dislike anticipation, waiting and wondering. I don't feel disappointed on the big day. I know some people find it thrilling to be surprised and thrive on the anticipation but I find it torturous.
We have a few weeks to decide but I don't feel there's a choice to be made. My partner would easily concede and allow me to have my way but I know this would bring sadness and I don't want sadness. If any of you can share stories and reasons why waiting is the best thing ever as well as any wisdom on how I can get over my need to know I'd be very grateful.
Edited by kawa kamuri - 12/7/10 at 11:07am