My husband and I have two little girls (1yo and 3yo), are finishing and graduating college this year and have a small farm we are just starting out on. We have decided that we want to live at our farm for both logistical, monetary and sentimental reasons. frankly it's just easier to be able to lay chidlets down for a nap and be able to go back out and work nearby! plus all the other good things about living a few hundred yards from your veggies and animals. We don't have any equity except for our sheep so the going will be cheap but we've been looking at something along the lines of a wall tent or yurt for living in until a house on the property opens up for rental and we think that we can make it work financially on our own, even if we have to piece it together one portion at a time.
Here is the sticking point I can't figure out. we've approached the subject of living on the farm starting this August no matter what to both of our parental units and neither set is particularly supportive.
Should we try and convince them and try and gain their emotional support? or should we just do it and not really let them in on it?
both of our families are suburban so rural living is not familiar to any but my husband's mother but it's been decades since she's lived on a farm day-to-day. I have every confidence that we will be able to make ourselves reasonably comfortable, warm, etc. and we really feel that this is the next step for us to try and realize our dream to have an integrated sustainable farm that actually supports us eventually. I have gotten the impression that their main concern is comfort for our girls. and definately for my parents they are also concerned about what others will think if they found out we were living in a tent temporarily (*GASP*).
How do we go about what we feel is the right step for our family in relation to our farm and raising our children in a more rural setting without estranging either set of parents? (particularly mine who have never really been particularly supportive since my husband and I got pregnant about 4 1/2 years ago...) when I talked to my mom about it and mentioned the possibility of living in a mobile home on site (before I'd really seen it's condition) she told me to "just make sure it's livable..." as if I am incapable of discerning that myself. (my parents also still treat me as if I am a child simply away for college still, not as if I'm an adult with my own family now. but that particularly is a discussion for another time...) I worry that she'll decide our plan is "unlivable" and either torture us emotionally or worst case try and take our kids away somehow. (not likely but i tend to think worst-case scenario...)
I'm really tired of my parents not being there for me emotionally as far as following my dreams of farming but on the other hand, i've managed to get this far without their help, and with how they seem to think i'm still their child, not their adult offspring, I wonder if they'll ever let me grow up in their own heads unless we do this (and everything else) all by ourselves.
Also: anyone looking to sell a used yurt or wall tent in the eastern Washington, N. Idaho, eastern Oregon, Western Montana region? we've been doing our research on new products but finding anything used out here is proved difficult thus far!