Ok, I am hoping this is the right place for this!
My son has been having some serious behavioral problems (mainly out of control anger and aggression) for about 2 1/2 years. He's now five years old, and we are facing putting him on anti-psychotic meds, which I don't want to do unless I absolutely have to do.
Several people have suggested removing gluten and/or dairy, and I have been reluctant/scared to do so because . . . .
1) It seems overwhelming. I am a single mom who works a lot, and I hardly have time to cook or do anything, so I feel like "How can I even do this!"
2) We are ovo-lacto vegetarian, so our main food groups ARE gluten and dairy, along with fruits and vegetables.
3) I am afraid of causing even worse rages and tantrums in my son by removing everything he likes to eat. His favorite/main foods are mac and cheese, pizza, spaghetti with cheese, grilled cheese. See a theme? All gluten and dairy based. I would like to find a way to replace some of these items with suitable GF/DF items that would be passable for him.
So, can you help? I have a couple of questions.
1) I am thinking of removing ONE first (not BOTH gluten and dairy at the same time) so I can see if this helps me identify whether it's one or the other, or both. Do you mamas have any advice about which one (gluten or dairy) you would remove first? Any advice about which causes behavioral problems more often? I am thinking gluten? I have read a lot more about gluten causing emotional problems (psychosis, etc). Do you agree?
2) Any good suggestions for VEGETARIAN meals that are dairy and gluten free? I think trying to think in terms of making lists of what we CAN eat would help me a lot more than focusing on what we CAN'T eat, which is what I have been doing.
3) How long does it take before I would be able to notice a difference? Days? Weeks? Months?
4) I am not sure if we are allowed to recommend specific products on here, but if you have any gluten free or dairy free products you love (or hate!), can you PM me? I've heard some of the GF products are awful, but some are good. I don't want to waste money!
5) Any other suggestions about going down this experimental path? I am really desperate to find something to help my son, as he is spiraling downhill. It's just he and I, and right now we are down to almost having no good times together whatsoever. It's just constant fighting and aggression from him. (And yes, we are in therapy of many kinds, so we are taking care of things on that end as best as we can.)
Just FYI, my son doesn't have any other health problems (like intestinal problems, skin issues, etc) aside from the serious emotional/behavioral ones.
Edited by Bisou - 12/8/10 at 7:15pm