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post #1 of 57
Thread Starter 

I end up "supposed to have help with organizing my apartment as in Housekeeping first I was "getting that help ' but then it stopped with 'excuses oh I don't have time but i will help next week which that don't even happen then she goes okay it's time for me to help 4 wks later that's later forgotten for another 4 wks that goes on and on .


Then when she does come into the apartment all she does is go tsk tsk and critcize my cleaning habbits or making 'assumptions on how I'm having my son clean or pick up his toys saying I proably just do it for him that way he doesn't really do it (Not true ). Nearly having a headache even stating that if I don't get this place more 'sanitary you could lose your apartment or even your son but Hey She's Suppose to do the House Keeping but no when she does 'actually come in she critcizes how I clean my apartment even the Way I mop she goes That's not Right .


Then critcizes how I end up getting my son something from the 'store ' thinking it's ridicolous even another lady stated that .


I go it's just something that I like to suprise my boy with because I like to see him 'smile because he ended up with a 'suprise' .




post #2 of 57

mama i am totally confused. your post makes no sense to me.


who is the she? is this your mom?


i understand she promises help, but doesnt. instead criticizes and then threatens the authorities.


why is she in your life so much?


if your house was messy but clean i would have no problems. i would be mad too.


no one has the right to criticise my gift giving. they do have the right to speak but not criticise.


i would NOT be upset with her not keeping her promise. lots of people in the world who have lots to say but v. little action. i would put 'her' in that category. so once i figure out she is not going to help i would just ignore her offer of helping clean.


'she' is being too critical. so i would limit the time you spend with her until you can learn to ignore her comments.

post #3 of 57

I'm confused too, by the specifics... Regardless, 'she' shouldn't criticize and chalk that up to "help." Sounds like she's being overbearing? Idk... Wish I could offer more help...

post #4 of 57
Thread Starter 

This lady is not my mom she's with the cleaning /errand service. I got signed up with them and this one lady comes every once a 'week' her job is to help with the housekeeping but she doesn't .so she will critcize my housekeeping then not even do 'what she's supposed to do showing an obviously headache over our apartment then goes on and on bout it how I could lose my apartment which by the way I passed our apartment and housing authority inspection ) plus even mentioning of losing my boy so it's this kind of talk I have heard from people before.



Her errand thing is take me to the 'store if needed to be but she  critcizes me on getting things for my son.


I want to 'be able to find another person for housekeeping/errand thing because I'm tired of people like that !

post #5 of 57

jaw.gif you are PAYING her!!!!


sheesh i would complain to the service adn have her replaced PRONTO!!!!


if you dont already have it you should have a contract with teh service with exactly what you expect out of them. 


i am just flabbergasted. extremely unprofessional. 

post #6 of 57

In the words of Donald Trump, "You're fired." disappointed.gif

post #7 of 57

You are paying her to criticize you?!?!?!?


Time to get a back bone and complain to her boss about her unprofessional behavior.  And demand a refund since she really didn't do what she was hired to do. 


And I would hire someone else, and make it clear to them that they are not to make one comment about how you spend your money or clean your place, to actually do what she is hired to do. 

post #8 of 57

When I was in high school, my family rented a house that came with housekeepers, but my mom was very OCD about cleaning and chores. She fired them because she didn't like their style. Anyway, you can definitely lodge a complaint with the company. I would suggest going with a new company altogether because it seems like this place you use might have a bad rap.

post #9 of 57
Is this person coming through your state's homemaker services? That is the *only* thing that could possibly make sense about what you are describing. If it is homemaker services their goal is to teach you how to keep house, grocery shop, and such. (I am *NOT* saying you need this type of assistance but that that is what that type of assistance is for.) If she is with your state's services perhaps you could let them know you don't need her or come up with things you would like to learn differently (again, not saying you don't know how to do this stuff but sometimes learning a different way is helpful.) and ask her to help you with those things.

If this isn't homemaker services, heck yeah fire her!

post #10 of 57

I'm still not understanding.  Is this some kind of social services/benefit thing?  Or literally you opened the phone book and hired a housekeeper?

post #11 of 57
Thread Starter 

Not a homemaker services it's a 'service that's with housekeeping and to do errand shopping . She does only the errand shopping as in take me to the 'store I shop' she's supposed to do housekeeping but instead she doesn't and that was in my contract with her .


So I'm definetly going to find someone else and there isn't many that are good because many people around here are too lazy and greedy   Many people that live around here in this city they will either 'slightly help ' like for example our carpet cleaner I chose was either I got a 'real lazy person ' because the carpet didn't even look like it was shampooed plus it even mentioned in their brochures that they have stain removal used during their carpet cleaning the guy goes no I didn't use any stain removal thing but if you do want it that will cost you extra 300 dollars. I even requested for a 'refund from their job that looked like a No job it just seemed as if he sprayed water and called it good they said we will bring someone else over so then I asked would I have to Pay Him to do that job they go yes so then I go no thanks .


Just like how this person who is with this computer company he wanted nearly 500 dollars to pay for repairing my old computer so then when he didn't get the Money he left and sent a Company Letter to me saying Don't contact this company again .


So the only way Many company areas that will 'actually do what they Have to do is by being a "millionaire'  or close to one but I'm just a low income single mother which people go with Less

or No Effort .


I only found 2 people who were actually flexible but that was in Picture departments .

post #12 of 57

Are they listed with the BBB (Better Business Bureau)? You could file a complaint to BBB. Also you may want to look through Yelp, as well as BBB, and similar sites for a better service.


They seem like they are potentially discriminating against you because of your socioeconomic status, just because you are a low income, single momma who needs a housekeeper, doesn't mean you should get any less good of services from a company.

post #13 of 57

I am completely confused confused.gif... What is this all about? You are a low income single mother but can pay a housekeeper which is not doing her job?

post #14 of 57


post #15 of 57
Originally Posted by pupsnelda View Post

I am completely confused confused.gif... What is this all about? You are a low income single mother but can pay a housekeeper which is not doing her job?

I'm glad I'm not the only one confused!  (This isn't even my forum. I clicked on it from new posts without realizing where it was.  But now I'm really curious).

post #16 of 57
Thread Starter 

As a low income mom the cleaning service is Under 100 dollars like around 55 to 75 the other house keepers range above 100 to even 350 .

post #17 of 57
Originally Posted by Mom2Brendan View Post

As a low income mom the cleaning service is Under 100 dollars like around 55 to 75 the other house keepers range above 100 to even 350 .

Then this is something that is state subsidized then?  It's not clear to me if this person is supposed to have a vested interest in your living conditions.  Like it's part of a parenting plan or something?

post #18 of 57

I still do not get it? Why do you even need a housekeeper? Why is it so cheap?

post #19 of 57

Who pays the housekeeper, you yourself, or social services or CPS or something?  


If you are getting the housekeeper yourself, then yes, immediately fire her and find someone else.  


If this is someone that has been sent to you because of your getting Disability payments or Social Services or a parenting plan of some sort due to a CPS action, then you can speak to your case worker but I'm not sure that much will happen.  


If this lady is there to teach you how to budget your money every month, what to buy, how to have enough healthy food every month, how to keep clothing, diapers, etc. stocked, then unless you can show her that you are good with your money and buying and preparing enough healthy meals for the entire month on your budget, then perhaps you can't afford those little treats you want to get or perhaps the little treats you get are too expensive and you need to think of something else to give your son, like baking cookies with him and letting him help decorate them.  


Your posts really aren't making much sense and if you could clarify what is going on, I'm sure many posters would love to give you more ideas and suggestions.

post #20 of 57
Thread Starter 

Many times my place can get really disorganize so I just want 'extra help to do a quick clean up because it feels good to be a place that is clean for this certain amount of time then as it comes to my boy he can dirty up the living room so 'quickly ' that I nickname him The Hurricane '.


So other people who were my housekeepers gave me that "feeling of oh this is Clean and even Brendan goes this Feels good so then I go Lets keep it this way of course it takes him before bedtime to mess it all up again .


So it's something I want when I want that 'extra help' in a 'nice manner way  that is without criticizing and without assumptions on how I'm teaching my boy to clean up because people 'assume I just do it for him' and he doesn't get  a lesson in cleaning because they assume I'm doing for him.


I tell people You do Not know How Hard it is for Me too Get My Son too Clean he has the No Care attitude , throws fits if he loses a chance to play for the toys he didn't put away then he heads into his room dumping out things & throwing things all over his room so then his room is way messier than it was then he comes out forgetting about his other toys that he lost to just sit on the couch .


I will Brendan clean up room time he just looks up at me like huh huh huh huh or is in  a 'total ignore mode'.


It's so bad of me to get him to clean that even though I found a House Fairy thing that says it changes Total Mess Makers into Real Cleaners and that they want to Clean but I'm doubting it will work but  he's the Most part of the mess makiing so I'm willing to try to see if it will help him because if it does help him it will help me more because they have even said by that kids will even start cleaning around other places too.





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