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post #21 of 57

headscratch.gif Your posts make no sense at all.

post #22 of 57

OP, are you using a translator widget?   Your post is quite difficult to follow.  I have read other posts by you, and they were much easier to understand.  

post #23 of 57

OP i am going to assume english is your second language. i wonder too if you ARE in the USA? maybe other place. 

 

first from your picture your son being messy is TOTALLY AGE APPROPRIATE. 

 

your son not wanting to clean at his age IS TOTALLY NORMAL.

 

trying to keep a completely picked up house with a toddler is NOT NORMAL without help. 

 

are you sure you need the extra help - if they are going to be so judgemental.

 

i continue to be confused.

 

if you are paying and buying help, you are under no obligation to keep that person.

 

if you are getting social service then you can complain, but mostly you might have to shut up and bear it.

 

if all you need help is to help you pick up toys, and put things away... then i think a high school student helping you while you are home is a better bet. instead of a service. 

 

my 8 year old DOES clean but somedays she is not in the mood too. so i cant imagine a toddler wanting to clean. 

 

i am going to go read your other threads to see if i can make sense of what you are saying or find out more about you. 

 

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ok OP i just read all threads started by you.

 

some helpful suggestions.

 

type a question in your title as you did here for all your posts.

 

i see you are in NY with a 6 year old. it seems to me you are hiring private help just to help you with chores. because you get overwhelmed it seems like.

 

but the help you hire - are criticizing and not really helping. i am wondering how much they are actually prejudicial against you and thus not treating you respectfully because you dont speak english very well. AND low income too. 

 

go with high school students. get help with things in the house rather than driving help. take the subway to the grocery store and then take a cab back. 

 

and yes btw - it IS hard to get a 6 year old boy to do things. esp. clean up. or to keep clothes on at home. or wear pjs. or stop farting jokes. dd is 8. she still laughs at farty jokes but doesnt make them so much nowadays. 


Edited by meemee - 12/11/10 at 4:48pm
post #24 of 57
Thread Starter 

I'm not in New York and English is not my second language.

 

No idea why you all are confused by my posts.

 

I'm with an Errand Service where a person comes in to clean and then takes you to the store for you To Shop On Your Own.

 

It's not a goverment thing and it's not a CPS thing.

 

All I asked Would you be upset if someone who is supposed to clean critcize your cleaning including making 'talks like this kind of mess will make you lose your apartment or lose your son ?

 

Also, Would you be upset if someone kept complaining of how you shouldn't buy your son something everytime you go to the store ?

post #25 of 57

I am still confused but anyway ....

 

Yes, I would be upset. And the next step for me would be firing the cleaner, hire somebody else or clean MYSELF.

 

Would be nice if you actually answered the question from pp, so people would understand you better.

post #26 of 57

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by pupsnelda View Post

I am still confused but anyway ....

 

Yes, I would be upset. And the next step for me would be firing the cleaner, hire somebody else or clean MYSELF.

 

Would be nice if you actually answered the question from pp, so people would understand you better.


yes.  you keep ignoring the questions people ask.  it makes no sense that a low income single mom would have a house cleaner/errand  service or why you would get a reduced rate just for being a single mom.  If you reread your OP you might see why we're confused.  I don't understand why you use quotations in places where I don't think you're quoting or capitalizing, etc.  It really reads like you're using a translating software.  People are trying to help you.  Maybe you're not really low income?  I don't know something is not adding up.

post #27 of 57
Can't the agency send someone else?
post #28 of 57
I have to say that I am really confused, too. I keep coming back hoping to offer a reply, but with each update I'm not exactly sure what is going on, so I can't!
post #29 of 57

i think i might be seeing a light here.

 

so this was meant to vent?

 

so you trying to get some housekeeping help here and instead of helping the housekeepers are criticising.

 

yet i am not quite sure how to contribute - which is one of the reason for the confusion.

 

the answer is obvious. you hire someone. they dont do the work and disrespect you. you fire them or ask for another person. i am not sure why you would even make a post except to ask for commiseration. but this is not an inlaw kinda thing which keeps on happening and you cant really do anything about it. you can v. easily do something about it. 

post #30 of 57

Seems like the person isn't being helpful at all.  You'd probably be better off without her.  

 

Scary that she's saying things about you losing your kid --- if I'm not misinterpreting.  Does that mean she intends to report you to CPS?

post #31 of 57
Thread Starter 

Also, I did answer questions from pp .

 

Did you all not understand the answer I wrote I pay for this service and I choose the 'cheapest one' because I can not afford to pay more than 100 dollars for a housekeeping/Errand Service ?

 

I also said No it's Not a Home Maker Service, it's not through a parenting plan, and it's not through CPS.

 

 

It's something I chose for our family how hard is that to understand ?

 

All, I wanted to know if people would 'be upset at the actions of the proffessionals you all said Yes =end of the story I got my answer I was wondering .

 

post #32 of 57

You did not anwser all questions, just read back, but anyway.

 

In your OP you did not simply ask whether we would be angry as well - and isn't it obvious that everybody would be more than angry PAYING somebody for a job and this person does not do the job well AND critizes the client ? dizzy.gif You mixed also other information in your post about a carpet cleaning person and a picture department???? And at the same time you write that you are a low income single mom. Something is not right. And this is why people keep asking you.

post #33 of 57
Thread Starter 

Okay, people were going how can a low income single mom afford this service so I responded with it's a cheaper service and when something  that is so Cheap . You more likely end up with someone who doesn't do the job right.

 

I used the carpet cleaner and the computer people as examples of not doing the job right .

 

I used the picture people who were more into being able to do a good job even when you didn't have much money which I stated that the picture people were the Only One's Who do a Good Job for People who are low income.

 

Also, I even answered that the prices from the services vary on which company you get like I choose the cheaper company because it's the only company I can afford.  Others are too expensive .

 

I also shared the  reasons why I needed this service because when I did get the actual help it would give me peace of feeling clean for no matter how short of time it could be.

 

post #34 of 57

your writing is easier to understand now.  Just your phrasing in the earlier posts was very strange.  Like:

 

 

 

Quote:

As a low income mom the cleaning service is Under 100 dollars like around 55 to 75 the other house keepers range above 100 to even 350 .

 

 

That to me means that you get a break in price as a low income person.  

 

and even the first line

 

 

Quote:

I end up "supposed to have help with organizing my apartment as in Housekeeping first I was "getting that help ' but then it stopped with 'excuses oh I don't have time but i will help next week which that don't even happen then she goes okay it's time for me to help 4 wks later that's later forgotten for another 4 wks that goes on and on .

 

Even reading and rereading that it's just not making sense.  Especially with the quotations and apostrophes

 

Anyway I'm not trying to belabor the point it's just that you seem confused as to why people don't understand your situation and that in itself is, well, confusing confused.gif.  I sort of assumed you'd come back and say you had taken an ambien before you wrote it or english is not your first language or something like that. Or translation software, like someone else suggested.

 

Either way I hope your situation improves soon!

post #35 of 57

To me you couldn't possibly be low income if you are paying $75/week for housekeeping services. That is almost $400/month, equivalent to the rent for a cheap apartment!

 

I agree with the others that your posts are hard to understand, but regardless, if I understand correctly, you hired the cheapest errand/housekeeping service you could find, being that you are a single, low income mother. But because you chose the cheapest option, you feel that perhaps they are taking shortcuts in the quality of service, and being too opinionated/unprofessional. If someone really is threatening to call social services on you or being disrespectful of your parenting, then that person needs to be dismissed right away, and your money refunded, or at least your contract ended.

 

I hope I got your initial post right...

post #36 of 57
Quote:
Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post

To me you couldn't possibly be low income if you are paying $75/week for housekeeping services. That is almost $400/month, equivalent to the rent for a cheap apartment!

 

I agree with the others that your posts are hard to understand, but regardless, if I understand correctly, you hired the cheapest errand/housekeeping service you could find, being that you are a single, low income mother. But because you chose the cheapest option, you feel that perhaps they are taking shortcuts in the quality of service, and being too opinionated/unprofessional. If someone really is threatening to call social services on you or being disrespectful of your parenting, then that person needs to be dismissed right away, and your money refunded, or at least your contract ended.

 

I hope I got your initial post right...


All this!

The answer, as everyone else has said, is obvious. Fire the person!

Also, punctuation and proper capitalization are your friends. Get to know them and use them! smile.gif
post #37 of 57

I would fire this person- contact the service that sends in someone and ask for another person and file a complaint.  Also- if you need another person in write up a job request- post it at your local college and/or high school. You would be amazed at the great kind of people you get from high school students (like seniors) or college level kids. They came to my rescue when my 2nd was born and I had no help of any kind- and DH worked crazy hours.  I get the feeling that OP pays that ammount per month, not per week.

post #38 of 57
Thread Starter 

Thanks ever so much.

 

I'm not a very good writer at times and I understand how people  could misunderstand my writing now. 

 

When I wrote the examples of prices I was just showing how the prices vary between each company which I should have said I choose the less expensive one.

 

Also, the housing authority allows only people who are low income to be on Section 8 and we are on Section 8.

 

 

 

post #39 of 57

So where are you getting close $200-$400 a month for a personal assistant? headscratch.gif Here that would be considered "disposable income" meaning any money left at the end of month after paying for fixed costs (rent/mortgage, utilities, trnasportation) and basic costs (food, etc). A single mom who had $400 dollars "extra" each month would most likely lose their benefits.

 

I work with a transistional shelter and we can not find low income housing for a mom and 3 kids because she makes $50 too much per month qualify.She is literally living paycheck to paycheck and still share an apartment with her estranged husband.  She would love to have a couple hundred extra each month! At this point she would be better off to quit her second job and go back on state benefits or quit both and go on welfare. dizzy.gif Just crazy. 

post #40 of 57

I'm sorry, I'm another one who is having a hard time following your posts.  But if, as others have surmised, you are paying a woman to clean your house and this woman not only doesn't do the job that you paid her to do but also insults, criticizes and threatens you...um YES I would be upset!  But let's not focus on if you should be upset or not.  This isn't a question of being upset.  This is a question of having a backbone and, quickly and in no uncertain terms, firing this woman and reporting her to whatever agency she works for.  She can't exploit you or treat you badly if you don't let her!

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