So far dd has not taken any classes. She has ocassionally attended programs at the library, either one-off items or 4-part series, but nothing more than that. Sometimes we would sign up for something, then when the day came I would have to keep reminding her to get ready, tell her that we had to go because we signed up, and we could avoid signing up for the next one, etc etc.
Of course once we were there she loved it. Every time. I was always unsure whether I should be the one doing all this pushing or just give her one reminder and let her miss the event if she was not ready. Would this have helped her take more responsibility for attending the programs that she signed up for, and not signing up if she did not want to attend? Somehow maybe I felt that was more responsibility than she could handle so I kept taking it.
Now that she is 7 I am thinking I should move to the gentle reminder - but no pushing stage. Yesterday while at a friends house we saw this scene: It was time for the boy to go to his art class. He cried, "no, it is too boring, I dont want to go!"
Mom: "Since when?"
Boy - whimpers something
Mom: "Today I will talk to the teacher and ask her if there is something she can do that is more exciting."
Anyway, finally with some coaxing etc they go and according to my friend (the mom) he did indeed enjoy the class when he was there. Of course he did ... that is not a surprise. But I wondered what I would do in this situation. Once having signed up and paid I too would feel obligated to attend every class and therefore I would have to do this coaxing and reminding and shouldering the responsibility of getting there on time. Of course if once we got there, dd did not in fact enjoy it then I could consider quitting if after a fair chance things did not improve. But if she enjoyed it while, and if she improved her skills, then I would feel that it was worth my taking the responsibility.
Now is this age-dependent, and 7 is still too young? If so then at what age (roughly) would you expect your child to take responsibility - I am not saying that I would not remind her and help her get ready but I am saying that if she says, "I don't want to go" or does nothing to get ready, then I will let it go and let her miss the class. Second question, would you then refrain from signing up for classes until you reached that age, or gradually transition from one mode to the other?