My son is 22 months. I used to used to subscribe to a child-development newsletter that came weekly. I loved reading it every week, until my son was about eighteen-months-old. Then I couldn't take it anymore. Same thing with several mommy blogs I used to read. I have several blogging friends who had similar due dates, and we went through pregnancy and infanthood together. Now I can't look at their blogs. Finally, I have three friends who have kids that were born within weeks of my son, and I don't want to see them anymore.
I just hate feeling like my son is not “normal.”
All of the kids I hear about who are his age are talking, reciting the alphabet, drinking from open cups, going up and down stairs by themselves, sleeping in their own beds instead of cribs, and starting potty training.
My son is the love of my life. As far as I’m concerned, he is perfect in every way. He does not talk at all, but is very “verbal” and has a high language comprehension (he can follow very specific directions). He has been evaluated by early intervention and a speech therapist and does not have enough of a delay to qualify for intervention. In other words, the experts say he’s normal.
He cannot drink from an open cup at all. He spills water everywhere. I have finally gotten him to drink from a straw cup with a lid, but he prefers his sippy. Also, when I weaned him from the breast at eighteen months because we were ttc and I wasn’t ovulating, I started giving him bottle of milk or water at bedtime. He is very attached to it, gets very happy and joyous when I give it to him, and I don’t feel like taking it away right now. He loves his crib and his blankie as well, and to be honest, it never occurred to me to start potty training this early. I always thought that happened around three or so, but now it seems that everyone thinks it should happen by the age of two. Is this just a reversal of trend? Or am I hanging out with the wrong people?
I don’t really need to be reassured that my son is “normal.” My motherly instinct says this is so and my pediatrician agrees. Also, I should point out that nobody is making comparisons except me, but it makes me feel self-conscious, because I imagine that people are thinking it even if they don’t say it.
I guess I’m hoping to hear stories from people who are going through the same thing.