Originally Posted by pranava
He's just really into talking and books. Anyone have a little one that was really verbally advanced, but didn't end up gifted? Did the other kids catch up?
DD is verbally advanced while not necessarily developing that way across the board. I am sorry I have not responded sooner but we are in the process of unpacking our house, so every single spare second I have has been going towards figuring out where something is.
DD was also speaking like your DS is now at 18 months. She went from about 50 words uttered here and there to speaking in complete sentences almost overnight drawing from thousands of words she just started saying out of the blue. Before this verbal explosion she seemed to differ from other babes in that she was much calmer, more mindful, more empathetic, had a longer attention span, and seemed to understand more of what you said. FWIW, the older she gets and the more kids I watch develop the odder her development is looking back on it. Not only have DD's same-aged peers still not had a language explosion like DD (now almost 2.5) had, but they still are not speaking like she did at 18 months.
Yes, DD is really into books and talking like your DS. A lot of it I do think is personality and temperament. Like I said, she has always been so calm and mindful. She wanted to listen to books. Between 12 and 18 months we were reading her 45 books a day at least, and not simple little board books, either. So, of course it makes sense she might have a larger vocabulary. Also, I am starting to believe that she takes after DH and is a strong aural learner. She seems to learn effortlessly from jsut listening. She also has this advanced ability to parse language. No word is too large for her to grasp. No phrasing too complex. It is worth mentioning that DH and I are both great language learner. We have both leared five foreign languages between us, and were both once employed as linguists, (however I am almost exclusively a visual learner.)
Now, while DD loves to rote-count up to 20 and back down from 10, and throw out words like forty-six, hundreds, and thousands, she cannot actually count things over 3. While she can scribble something and announce that angles within the scribbles are similar to a sea turtle or a kite after the fact, she still cannot purposefully draw a smiley face. While she could identify a hexagon at 18 months, she still has a hard time actually putting the shapes in the holes, and the same with puzzles. And, while she loves listening to music, can tell you what style a song is, maybe even who is singing it, can pick out specific instruments, and memorize songs, she does not like singing, and so far has not been able to carry a tune.
I will say that while most of her strengths seem to stem from a good ear and perhaps inherited language ability, they translate into so much. And, this is where I have no answers for you yet. For while it is so easy to talk about something and seemingly teach her these advanced concepts, it is hard to tell how much she is learning, and if there is more going on than just "she is good at language."
And, finally, the more and more I am around kids the more I realize that all kids have strengths and weaknesses. DD is no social genius, and I have met many kids who seem remarkable in that area. I have also met some really athletic kiddos. Also, DD has always been so reserved and cautious, so when I see kids run around the playground with just pure joy on their faces, I am just always amazed by that. And, when I here stories of kids climbing on top of counters and breaking into child-proof locks, it blows my mind.
As far as daycare, that seems like such an odd comment your provider made. I am a SAHM. We lead a pretty boring life. Sometimes I wonder if DD would benefit from the social aspect of daycare or possibly the mental stimulation of a montessori, but I too would recommend a good play based daycare with multi-age rooms for your DS. For me, these pre-school years are so special, and learning should be done through play. We have yet to expose DD to learning toys or videos. We have just relied on books and using our imaginations, and DD has learned SO much.