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Poll Results: How are you birthing?

 
  • 4% (4)
    UC - HB
  • 51% (43)
    MWA - HB
  • 11% (10)
    Birth Center
  • 9% (8)
    CNM Hospital
  • 19% (16)
    OB
  • 3% (3)
    Deciding later....
84 Total Votes  
post #21 of 60

Hospital birth with an OB. I had my first in the hospital with a CNM and the second was delivered by an OB due to prematurity.  I'm sticking with the OB as she is actually less intervention happy than the CNM was.  She let me birth in the position I wanted to and didn't push for any interventions.  She even let me check out of the hospital within 6 hours of DS2's birth.

post #22 of 60

I really was wanting a homebirth with MW, but since this is our first hubby feels more comfortable at a hospital. I did find a MW group that delivers at a hospital 45 min away. I am calling them on Monday and if all works out that is where we will be going. The facility has birthing pools and all so hopefully it will be awesome! Do you ladies think 45 min is to far to drive while in labor?

post #23 of 60

 

Thanks for the hug2.gif, BabyCakes!

post #24 of 60

Repeat planned c/s, unfortunately I have no choice.  I would love a home water birth, that would be my dream! 

post #25 of 60

I would love to have a homebirth, but I can't get my husband on board. Going to a birthing center is kind of a compromise. I'm planning on flying my sister out to be my doula. My first two babies were born in military hospitals and I felt like I was giving birth in a prison.

post #26 of 60

DDCC:

 

karalynnskies: I don't think 45 minutes is too far away - of course, I'm baised! I'm at least 45 minutes to the closest town/hospital/anything. I'm planning to drive in to town at the first signs of labour and then give birth in a privately owned birthing suite in town.

post #27 of 60
Quote:
Originally Posted by karalynnskies View Post

I really was wanting a homebirth with MW, but since this is our first hubby feels more comfortable at a hospital. I did find a MW group that delivers at a hospital 45 min away. I am calling them on Monday and if all works out that is where we will be going. The facility has birthing pools and all so hopefully it will be awesome! Do you ladies think 45 min is to far to drive while in labor?



45 minutes for a 1st time mom is nothing in terms of getting there in time! Whether or not you're going to enjoy the car ride just depends. Others might have more direct experience.

post #28 of 60

Thanks for the replies! I figured we would make it in time. The car ride while being in pain is more what i'm worried about... But I really want a water birth with a midwife and this is the next closest thing since dh is too nervous to do a home birth. I'm hoping our first pregnancy and birth goes great that way maybe he will be more open to try a home birth!

post #29 of 60

a cottage homebirth on saltspring island with a midwife :) - just like my last one it was perfect!


Edited by camer - 12/15/10 at 1:41pm
post #30 of 60
Quote:
Originally Posted by karalynnskies View Post

Thanks for the replies! I figured we would make it in time. The car ride while being in pain is more what i'm worried about... But I really want a water birth with a midwife and this is the next closest thing since dh is too nervous to do a home birth. I'm hoping our first pregnancy and birth goes great that way maybe he will be more open to try a home birth!



I dont think it's too far away for a 1st time mom!  If that were my only choice, I would do it too.  Do lots of reading about the stages of labor so that you are in tune with when you should leave for the hospital.  I think you'll be fine!

post #31 of 60

Hopefully a third homebirth with the same midwife that attended my last two babies.  But my last dd came at 35 weeks so we had to bag the hb...so trying desperately not to hold on to it TOO tightly.

post #32 of 60

I just got my big fat positive today..

 

I am planning an unassisted home water birth like my last birth. This is #4 I am expecting.

post #33 of 60

 

In the poll I chose MWA homebirth because that's what I want, but like many of you other first time moms DH is very apprehensive about it.  I've been working feverishly to get contact info of midwives for us to talk to in person.  I'm really hoping that he'll feel more comfortable once talking with them.  He said to me the other day, "My responsibility is to make sure you are safe and healthy and that the baby is safe and healthy, in that order.  If the hospital has more resources available, then why not just go to the hospital to 'be on the safe side' if the only difference is your comfort of being at home."  I'm trying to explain to him that its about more than just mere comfort-- that comfort and privacy can impact the birth.  CPMs cannot be licensed in our state, so finding them is a chore!

 

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Originally Posted by SoonToBe View Post

I am a first time mom planning on a midwife attended home birth.  I am very committed to it.  The only thing that would prevent me from doing that is if the midwife says I can't for some reason or if an emergency comes up at the birth.  I hope it works out so I can have the baby here at home.  I am such a planner and I get so upset when things do not go as planned.  I'll have to work on that this pregnancy.

 

Bree

 

I am a planner, too.  DH has also said to me that if I planned a HB and it didn't work out he's worried about how I would take it if I didn't get what I had "planned."


 

Quote:
Originally Posted by karalynnskies View Post

I really was wanting a homebirth with MW, but since this is our first hubby feels more comfortable at a hospital. I did find a MW group that delivers at a hospital 45 min away. I am calling them on Monday and if all works out that is where we will be going. The facility has birthing pools and all so hopefully it will be awesome! Do you ladies think 45 min is to far to drive while in labor?



If I don't have a HB, the hospital I want to birth in the nearest hospital that has CNMs and a great reputation for natural birth, which is 30 minutes away with absolutely no traffic... so if there is any traffic at all it will likely take more like 45 minutes.  It is across the river in Indiana, so we will have to cross a bridge to get there.  A couple we know birthed there in 2008 while all the election stuff was going on.  One of the candidates was speaking that day in that town, and they just barely got across the bridge before the bridge was closed for secret service or something like that.  I can't imagine trying to get to the hospital and finding out the bridge is impassable!  There are plenty of other nearby hospitals, but I'd really be upset if I couldn't get to the one I wanted.

 

But, if I could just have the baby at home and avoid driving at all, I'd be thrilled!

post #34 of 60

Hi all. Like many of you, I want to have a homebirth, but DH was apprehensive at first. It's understandable since our society is taught that more technology always equals better, but that's not always true for a healthy, low risk pregnant woman. I have been doing some research on my own and sharing it with my DH along the way, and it has helped him come around and support my choice for homebirth. If you are looking for a good place to start, try watching "The Business of Being Born," which is a great film depicting healthy homebirth, as well as appreciating hospital birth and necessary C Sections as well. (It's available Instant through Netflix)

 

Please understand that I am not saying that homebirth is right for everyone, and I truly believe that we should all be able to make the best choice for ourselves and our babies, regardless of where that is or who is attending. I just wanted to share something that was helpful for me.

 

Wishing everyone happy pregnancies!

post #35 of 60
Thread Starter 

my DH isn't on board really either so I can understand especially the first time mom's struggling with less than enthusiastic DH's in even considering a homebirth.  If you want a homebirth and your DH doesn't, you can try what I am trying

 

1. Watch the business of being born together (netflix via Wii or online is easy)

2.  Talk about fears openly on both sides

3.  Inform yourself and your DH how hospital intervention can lead to more tearing down there (aka his happy spot may never be the same)

4.  Inform yourself and your DH about how CS impacts (mostly negatively) with bonding, breastfeeding, hormone regulation, weightloss, depression, etc.

5.  Accidents do happen, look at the rate of accidental vaccination or circumcision in the hospital

6.  Interview midwives together, have hubbies prepare their own questions.

7.  Look at he WHO statistics for Women and Infant health.  US was  #37 a few years back, the healthiest are most often the ones using midwifery care like the Netherlands

8.  Read Ina May Gaskin's book Spiritual Midwifery, and highlight the hospital versus home statistics for hubby.

9.  Have him attend a CNM or OB appt, then try one appt with a MW, so you can compare the level of care.  Remember, you can see a MW and still not use them for birth. 

10.  Blow jobs

 

 

.......#10 is optional and only for entertainment purposes

post #36 of 60

mkat - maybe gently explain to him that with a normal, healthy pregnancy, homebirth is safer and healthier.  There are no interventions that could snowball into something very risky - like major surgery - on an otherwise perfectly healthy woman.  I 2nd having him watch BOBB.  While it's true that the big risk is having to wait in the event of an emergency, the chances of that emergency are very slim.  On the other hand, if you are in a hospital, the chances of an unnecessary csection are pretty high.  Talk to him about it, have the midwife talk to him about it.  Discuss what his fears are - the baby needing resuscitation?  you bleeding?   Have the mw explain what she does in each situation, and hopefully that will help put his mind at ease.

 

The other thing is -- there's having a plan and being flexible, and having a plan you won't budge from.  Being flexible is really important.  You can't be so dead set on one thing that you can't evaluate the situation and make the best choice in that moment.  Birth is like that.

 

Beantown - LMAO!! spitdrink.gif  (but I agree!)

 

Oh - and of course hb isn't for everyone, but if you're trying to convince a stubborn hubby, there are ways!

post #37 of 60

Crossing my fingers for a birth center waterbirth, but realistically it will probably be an OB attended hospital birth unless my BP has magically corrected itself.

post #38 of 60

Still debating. DS1 was hospital birth (medicated) and DS2 was accidentially born unassisted at home.

 

We have a very natural birth friendly hospital here that i want to birth at, but being that DS2 was so fast (50 minutes from first contraction to birth) I am scared to NOT plan a homebirth.

 

The main thing that is holding us back is if we have it at the hospital, there will be no cost to us. If we have it at home, its 3 grand.

post #39 of 60

This would be #4 as well, and I would want another unassisted water birth at home as well. Last time I stuck a deal with DH, did no prenatals, and hired a MW I know to come hang out downstairs for DH, the deal was that I never had to see her if if I didn't want to. Ironically she missed the birth (quick labor) which was fine by me, less so for DH who freaked when he realized the baby really was coming out that very minute. So I'll strike a similar deal this time and maybe think about calling her sooner for poor DH's sake. lol.gif

 

 

ETA: To the one that was thinking about a 45 minute drive for first baby. I did it with DD1, it was fine, the car trip totally stalled my labor and it took me hours to pick back up again, we just walked around town and even went out to dinner, well I sat/bounced while DH sat but it was fine, for that baby. 

post #40 of 60

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Originally Posted by anjelika View Post

 

Can't wait to hear about all the lovely homebirths! :-)


 

OB for me due to high risk pregnancies.  I can't wait to hear the homebirth stories, either!  I would love, love, love to have a homebirth. 
 

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